Boyfriend is too ticklish to be touched?

I can't stroke his stomach, legs, arms, neck, anything... Even the head of his penis is ticklish sometimes.

I'm just frustrated because there are so many things I have to avoid.

I also can't give him a handjob with lube because the wetness tickles too much. What if sex tickles him? He's a virgin, so he's not sure if it will or not.

By the way, he's not just using this as an excuse for me to not touch him or anything like that. He truly can't help it.

Anyway, my actual question... Any advice? Has anyone else experienced this? He and I have talked about this, but he doesn't have any suggestions. :|


Most Helpful Guy

  • I'm not to sure about being very ticklish everywhere but over time if you are exposed to something you become more accustomed to it. So a lot of tickling can actually make him less prone to it.

    For the handjob thing it could be because he is so used to his own hand or he rarely touches the head. It may take a while for him to get used to someone else and their grip. If you use lube while giving him a handjob make sure to stroke it very light and gentle near the head and eventually, slowly build up the pace. Ease him into it.

    I wouldn't worry to much about the virgin thing and penetration. Chances are he will probably be using a condom (which may help reduce friction) and you two will take it slow for the first few times anyway getting more comfortable with each other.


What Guys Said 5

  • Ya there is really nothing you can do about him being ticklish except do your best to make you move movements deliberate and refrain from any light touches. My friends girlfriend tickles him for fun sometimes because he's so ticklish but being that ticklish seems very inconvenient not just for you imagine how he feels not even being able to get a hand job from you.

  • my suggestion is tickle him MORE. the only way to get rid of the ticklish sensation is to get used to it...tie him down and go to town seriously, do it.

  • No tickle fetish? My ex-girlfriend would have killed for me to be that ticklish, ahaha. I dunno, grind his skin with sandpaper or something. Keep him on morphine.

    • oh, Jack... :p

    • =] Hehehe. This is a hell of an answer, man. Sexual neurosis, painful nervous desensitisation and class D drugs. I've had this evening

  • first of all, penises are almost always ticklish, well, mine always is anyway.

    now one thing you should know, when other people tickle you, it tickles, but when you touch your-self(not in a sexual way!) it doesn't cause you don't think anything of it.

    so my theory is, when you're not comfortable with someone, they can tickle you more easily, cause sometimes me and my ex could touch anything and it wouldn't tickle anymore.

    so maybe he isn't really comfortable with you yet.


What Girls Said 3

  • i think if he has an orgasm with you, maybe that would calm his nerves?

    also, you should have him hold your hand, guiding it in stroking motions... cause you know how its impossible for anyone to tickle themselves? maybe if he's holding your wrist using your hand on himself, it will trick his brain, then when he lets go, maybe it will work. idk... totally random theory haha.

  • My boyfriend is also so ticklish- OK not to such extremes but I can't massage his body at all. Sometimes we will be getting intimate and he will start to giggle because I'm unintentionally tickling him. Which kind of puts me off.

    I don't think sex will tickle your boyfriend though.

  • I get that your partner is ticklish and i may be a diff sex but im also that ticklish my fella is always tickling me during and after sex but the more he tickles me the less it tickles so id say tickle him mess around etc as that is the only way i can handle it is if i have been tickled for a while