Boyfriend sending pics of his penis to other girls - what to do?

[sparklers]

Hi, I'm looking for some advice please. I found out very recently that my boyfriend of a year has been texting several girls pictures of his erect penis and asking if they like/want it etc. We had a huge row about it and he said it meant nothing, was just a game for him and that he never met or intended to meet any of them. Not long after I got together with him he used to send me these types of texts and it seemed to me as if he needed lots of reassurance. When I asked him where he got the girls numbers from he told me it was the internet and so I searched some dating sites and found his profile page where he had posted several pics of his penis and left messages on other girls's pages asking if they liked it. I confronted him about this also as I realize now that he has been sexting girls the whole time we have been together. I asked him if he ever asked to meet any of them and he said yes he could have met around a dozen and that when they would say they would meet him he would then stop contacting them as he'd be bored with them by then. I believe that he has never met any of them and he begged for me to give him one more chance which I have agreed to on the condition that he changed his sim in his phone and removed himself from the website which he has done. He also swore on his family's lives that he would never do it again. He claims never to have cheated on anyone before and his friends and family will back this up. Before he met me he hadn't had a regular girlfriend for several years due to having had a number of serious health problems etc and although sex can be good with him he rarely wants to try as he says he is too soft or he gets too sore when doing it. I really love this guy but don't understand why he;s done what he's done and if I can ever trust him again or whether I should give him this chance. Do you have any advice please? Thanks

[bgeorgedavis]

Well it is commonly for guys to send pix of their penis to other girls to get acceptance or a assurance that they like what he has. For guys it is exciting to send pix of yourself but there is just to big of a risk of everything backfiring. From my point of view, it is wrong what he did yes, but he promised that he will not do it again and he has shown signs of change but the thing that bothers me the most is that he said that he got bored with the girls and then broken contact with them. What guarantee do you have that he is not currently bored with you and that is why he has this behavior to get excitement from others. So that's the biggest red lights going off from my point. This is my opinion and I trust that you will make the best decision possible.

[TopGun757]

It seems as if your boyfriend is having many psychological problems.

The way I see it is this- once a cheater always a cheater. Meaning, that no matter how much you talk to him about it, it will always continue to happen. It seems as if he has been doing this for a long time. This is his habit, and habits are hard to break.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I have just caught my boyfriend doing this on whatsapp to a girl and what's worse is she has been reciprocating. We have been together three years and have a good sex life and recently moved to a new house. I messaged the girl involved who informed me that it has been going on for over a month yet they haven't met up since being friends before him and I met. Im so confused it's not the first time he has done this but things have been so good recently, I am definitely leaving him but as you can imagine im pretty messed up esp with just moving to a brand new houseat Christmas. I dont have very good self esteem but this girl is not exactly attractive so I just can't grasp why this has happened. Any light shed would be much appreciated?

[queenofpeen]

It doesn't matter if it means nothing to him, it means something to you. Plus, that's just plain not cool. He's obviously got some problems and isn't ready for a mature relationship.

I personally would dump him with no hesitation. I know it's really hard, but imagine if you did stay together. Realistically, would you ever be able to fully trust him again? Something similar happened to me and I stayed with him, and the next several months of our relationship was complete misery because I was constantly paranoid that he was still doing it. It's just not worth it. It's better to be happy, single, and have hope of finding someone better than to be unhappy and stuck in a relationship with someone you can't trust.

[Jill2690]

I agree with the people who say he has psychological problems. If he's not willing to get some help about it, which I'm guessing he isn't by the way you describe it, you're putting your own self-esteem in jeopardy by staying with him. You teach people how to treat you, so don't put up with his crap. If you move on with dignity and tell yourself you deserve better before you get dragged down by this guy, you will find a keeper somewhere else.

[italykam]

Umm I would say to leave this guy. For real, anyone that is dumb enough to do that who has a girlfriend? I guess at least he isn't seeing them in person, but that can lead to it. So I would just be really careful.

[MrOracle]

It seems like he is seriously insecure, and that is going to manifest itself in a number of negative ways. If he's willing to get some real help and do the work to get past it, fine. If not, he's just going to pull you down with him.

[goflipaburger]

Ask him why he does it, if you find him bullsh*tting and getting really angry dump him.

If I were you, I would just dump him. Some sh*t don't fly by me in a man.

[Longshot]

If he is sending pictures of his penis to other girls and is having sexual performance problems, it would seem that he is having some psychological or physical problems. In other words, he is sending out those pics to compensate for some sexual inadequacies.

The problem is not all that unusual among men, but he should seek help first from his doctor.

[TheLastRaven]

I never thought of it this way. Makes more sense now with my bf who has been sexting other girls as I can never seem to satisfy him sexually. He's never finished and it's been months since we first started to have sex. The worst was finding out that he's been sexting all of these "other" girls looking for the same thing of validation of his penis. It's the worst feeling in the word feeling that I can't satisfy him in more ways therefore he has to turn to these "other" girls via text/sexting to get this need. Very degrading and hurtful:(

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

If i had a girlfriend, would i be sending pics of my penis to other girls? HELL NO!!! The guy is immature and needs his balls cut off
there is no such thing as "common for guys to send pics of their penis to other girls to get acceptance" (This is bullshit) I hope
you can see the guy is a asshole but it might be too late cause
he got control of your mind.

[jimmy217]

dump his ass. Even if he hasn't cheated he will. Sounds like he is prone to cheating. If you do plan to stay with him assure him he is "man enough" so he doesn't go looking for reassurance from other girls.

[sikoo31]

dump him.

[Anonymous]

WHAT THE WHAT?

Do you have a best friend?

[Anonymous]

I would say goodbye if I was you. And get him some help

[Anonymous]

While it's not cheating, it's disgusting freakish abnormal behaviour. Like flashing your junk at strangers. Definitely worth breaking up over.

It's more like a sign that there's something not quite right in his head.