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Is it really worth staying a virgin?

I'm a 16 year old girl, who is a virgin by choice. :) Until very recently, I used to always want to wait until marriage - or at least a very serious long term relationship - to have sex. But I can't believe I haven't thought of this until now: Is it worth staying celibate? Chances are my future husband will not be a virgin, so why should I even try to stay a virgin? Also, its really bugging me that all my cousins have had sex, and I think my sister did too, even thought she said she didn't. I think she's lying. Am I making a good choice by not having sex? Because I feel like I'm missing out on all the fun.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I go to school in the south, so there are a lot of very religious people. Quite a few of them are adamant that sex is to only be had once married. Many of them are terrified of sex. They have built it up so much in their minds that it will be this consummation that will make everything right in their world and their marriage will be bullet proof. Wrong. They date for a year and rush into a marriage have sex and then realize, "whoops this whole thing was just one big mistake." Sort of like Christmas. It gets built up for months then it is here and over before you know it, and you are left wondering"What was all the excitement about? This was it?" Sex is a lot of fun, and if you view it as no big deal (which is a healthy view point) it isn't a big deal. When you build it up so much that losing your virginity is this whole big thing, if the relationship ends it will make it that much more bitter. There are a lot of hopeless romantics on the site who are going to tell you to wait. I am just giving my view on why waiting isn't all it is cracked up to be. I could have lost mine years before I did then when it happened it was like "Holding off was not worth it, that is too funI am not advocating going out and jumping on any guys bones. Just remember it is simply sex, it is fun, if it happens awesome, if you wait that is up to you and good for you.

  • Here's what I came to after a long time of thinking about staying a virgin:

    MOTIVE

    I want to be a virgin untill I've had my first seriouse girlfriend, because I want to learn and focus on what a genuine relationship is built on and what's important for a deep relationship to develop, without being blinded and steered by sex drive.

    REASONING

    What's worse:

    Meeting new people, exploring and having fun and maybe sleeping with someone when you feel like you need it.

    Or

    Waiting and hoping you'll find the girl who's perfect for you, staying a virgin, not going on adventures and having fun and do what feels like living, feel like your missing something, all because of guilt. All while you might miss the person who's a good match for you, and you might get depressed, unhappy and feel regret. Ending up in a bad relationship becuase of your lack of experience, not being happy, full of life and motivated enough to do what you where meant to in this earth and ending up with life-draining life?

Most Helpful Girls

  • In my opinion it's worth remaining a virgin until you are in a faithful monogamous girlfriend / boyfriend type relationship with a guy you care about and who cares about you. In my opinion it is not a good idea to wait all the way until you're married. Both get tested negative for STDs before having sex together. Bottom line: get yourself a boyfriend and start having some wonderful sex (meaning oral sex obviously) together. :)

  • It's absolutely worth staying a virgin if you want to make sure you lose your virginity to someone you love. No need to rush things. Even if your future husband (or just a very serious boyfriend) isn't a virgin, it'll still be nice to lose your virginity to him instead of someone you don't care about as much, you know?

    • Yes, you are right. I agree, thanks. :)

  • You shouldn't have sex because everyone else is doing. Personally I am glad I waited til I was 20 because I learned a lot about myself and I was more mature. It's your choice just don't start having sex because others are doing it.

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  • Waiting until marriage - no.

    Waiting until you're ready - yes.

    • Well said.

  • It's really up to you, though I think it's good to be a little less inclined to have sex if you know what I mean. If you have it in your head that you plan to have sex before marriage or whenever, then you most likely will. In my opinion it's probably better to have a mindset of being weary of immediate sexual relationships, and if the right guy sweeps you off your sweet in the correct manner then things may start to happen.

  • If you see sex as fun there's no use in being celibate, and it seems like your annoyances about your future man not having kept himself feeds into that too. Celibacy is keeping it for some reason, having your own reasons are always beneficial to you, if they're well chosen. If your keeping it merely out of superstition, then its of no benefit to you. No one here can tell you what's right for you =] Unless you truly know you want to stay celibate, and for your own reasons alone, then there's no reason to.

    ^_^

  • Do you live here in the U.S? are you aware of the divorce statistics? ha ha you should look it up, because its VERY high.

  • i am doing the same thing about waiting until marriage for sex and I think its worth it to be in love and not be just a random person you have sex with but your lifetime partner who loves you too.

  • Staying a virgin definitely isn't a bad idea if you want to make sure a guy is willing to commit before having sex, because in a lot of cases they don't commit and thus don't actually care. On the other hand, you appear to be a bad girl for signing up for GAG as an 18 year old when you admit to being 16, go to your room 😉

  • I’m still a virgin. I’d say it’s worth it

  • Wait until you meet someone and can form a long relationship with yes chance's that your boyfriend may not be a virgin I can tell you you're not missing out I was a virgin until I was 25 I had a one night stand with a girl but what I can tell you is that having sex with someone who you aren't emotionally connected to it wasn't that good the sex was fine but it didn't mean anything so I say that you should wait your only 16 trust me having sex for pleasure is good but being emotionally connected to someone will enhance the physical pleasure I'm 29 and I haven't meet a woman I'm really shy around women so I tell you you should wait to have sex ok

  • Yes, it's worth it! When you are married... all of those people you fooled around with and slept with will be so unimportant and it would have been worth it just to wait. I see it as sexual baggage, and I've become aware of this because many married women have told me about how they wished they wouldn't have fooled around and would have just waited for their husbands. That being said, I think it's okay to have a little fun without having sex!

  • your future spouse will respect you more for it and many men prefer virgins

    • is this TonyMetal?

    • Teehee

    • no, it's the truth

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