Does masterbating mean I lost my virginity?

[Anonymous]

I'm from a conservative country where sex before marriage is a huge deal especially if the girl does it. Girls here aren't allowed to loose their virginity before getting married, and if they do no guy would want to marry them! Thing is I started masturbating since I was like 13! Now I regret it and I feel ashamed! but whatever, what's done is done... so my question to you is: does this mean I lost my virginity? Do you think I should confront the guy that I'm gonna get married to with truth? How do you think will he react based on the society we live in? Please share your thoughts and experiences about this subject, it really does concern me a lot. And it's affecting my social life and my relationship with guys. I have never told anyone that I masturbate. I thank GAG for being the shelter where I can express my feelings freely! N.B: I never had any kind of sexual intercourse, and I've only been kissed by one guy! I'm single at the moment. Mostly because of my fear that if things develop between me and a guy I might have to confess this secret! And maybe that will make him dump me, and I will end up being hurt!

[MrOracle]

Losing your virginity means: you had a penis in your vagina.

Masturbation has nothing to do with virginity, except for those backwards people who believe that having an intact hymen is the symbol of virginity. Most people know that the hymen is often ruptured by other things, and that there is great variation in the hymen from woman to woman. For some, it is very thin and easily torn by physical activity (gymnastics, bike riding), minor injury, or from a tampon or fingers. For others, it is thicker and much more difficult (and more painful) to rupture.

If you've masturbated by inserting an object in your vagina, then you could have torn your hymen, yes. That doesn't mean you aren't a virgin, but some cultural standards might disagree, even though they are factually wrong.

[Anonymous]

I know how do you feel, I'm originally from lebanon and people think the same way there, you didn't broke your hymen, right? I hope you didn't

if you broke it, it depends then on your husband and how much he trust you

[Asker]

Omg! that doesn't sound so comforting! What would you do if your wife told you that she masturbates before you two get married? You won't marry her anymore? Do you think I should tell him? or just pretend I am not aware of anything?

[Opinion Owner]

to be honest a woman that is going to be my wife, is the woman that I love so much and trust, if I found out that she isn't a virigin and explained to me what happened I don't think I have any problem, masturbating is natural, I won't complain about it. sorry, but do you mind if I asked did you see any blood coming out during masturbating?

[chelseatraichel]

you can puncture you hymen but you can't loose you virginity through masturbation

[italykam]

Nope, you don't hafta worry about it, you're still good to go.

[Lupianwolf]

If you've just masturbated then your still a virgin

Losing your virginity is when there's penetration from a guy

There's nothing you need to tell, excrpt that you like masturbating

[Lupianwolf]

Also, do you think a guy masturbates Do you think he's ashamed? Would you not call him a virgin? i would think a lot of guys would be turned on that you masturbate so don't hide it

[creativeone2]

haha NO!

[Omar01]

if the guy really loves you ... he'll believe you and trust in you .. don't build your marriage life with a lie :) hope you get it figured out

[nitishgrover]

Masturbation is not losing virginity. I think you can sleep peacefully and not bother yourself anymore. Don't need to speak about it to anyone.