I lost my virginity at 22 when I got married. Its worth it girl, because it is with someone who you love and you feel an emotional connection with & it isn't just sex. The right man will be careful and make sure you are comfortable & painfree. Because for some, losing the virginity can be painful and if the guy just wants "wam bam thank you mam" then it will hurt you and make sex seem to be some terrible and painful experience, when it isnt. Right now it just your hormones and the fact that everyone else is doing it. But those who save themselves for the right guy are respected and valued by many, because there are few who do this today. You also need to take into consideration the risks : pregnancy or STD. you are too young to put your life on hold for a baby or to throw you life away because of an STD. It can happen at the first try even if you are careful. I mean I got pregnant right away, lol and we were careful. I don't regret though I'm married & I love my darlings. But I'm just letting you know it can happen. Just think about it girl. Its not bad being different, its actually valued by the right people. Those who say you should get it over with, don't want what's best for you ;)...
Good 4 you!
I'm 20 and I just recently lost my virginity to a drunken one night stand and I have absolutely zero regrets about it. There's no yes or no answer as to whether or not you're mentally prepared to lose it to someone you're most likely never going to see again, but I'd say that if you're unsure, then just wait! You have to be in the right mindset to do something so personal with someone you hardly know, and if you're going into it thinking that you and the guy are going to end up together then you're just setting yourself up for disappointment. I knew that it was just going to be the one night and I felt completely fine with that, so I went for it, and it was fine. Also, even if it's a one night stand it doesn't have to be to a prick. You can find someone who's kind and mindful of your pain/pleasure during the whole shebang.
this is my problem right now.
i never thought it was a big deal and I'm hoping if I choose to do it, I won't regret it.
it says this was posted 11 months ago, have you lost it yet? any new advice would be greatly appreciated! :((
Hey throwit! so the answer is yes I have lost it and it was to a one night stand. I regret it horribly now so what I'm telling you is don't do it,save it for someone you're in a relationship with, when everyone else was telling me this I was like yeah yeah watever, but after I lost it to this meaningless guy who never called me again I felt hurt, alone, and like I just threw away something valuable. Hope this helps!
It would be a turn on for me, now, I guess. I don't get the opportunity to meet too many virgins anymore at my age.
But like Dan Savage says, anyone taking a virgin to bed has a hell of a responsibility to make their first time special and memorable, something they can remember without too much shame and embarrassment in the future.
Ironically, I think an older guy like myself with some years of experience, would be better at taking a girls virginity, than a young guy who'll f*** her and dump her in under an hour.
But the age thing would probably squick them out something fierce. Catch 22.
How old are you, if you don't mind me asking.
37
Yes I'd do it.
Warning: Frat party hook ups will most likely end up in you not enjoying the sexual experience. Matter of fact I can sefely assume it's gonna suck ass.
Drunk frat boys aren't exactly gonna be very attentionate lovers if you get my drift. Just bang, jizz and bail.
Apart from that, best get it over with, but I would recommend you doing it with someone who seems attentionate enough to make your first time good. Otherwise it might tarnish your enjoyment of sex, which would be a shame cause sex is awesome.
Good luck.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I'm a 19 year old virgin and I know how it feels just don't do anything you will regret. What if you get an std and your ruined! I mean you've been perfect and pure for this long don't throw it all away. : (
I see no point in your "get it over with" feeling. Virginity is not something to be ashamed of or to feel awkward about. You should be proud of yourself. You have had enough respect for yourself and your body to wait for that "right one". He's out there, and while I can't be 100%, I'm pretty sure he won't be anyone you'd waste time with at a frat party.
Do it, get it over with, but PLEASE, not with a frat party random, okay? Not yet.
I'm not saying you have to find that "special someone" (I didn't) or that you need to be in love (I wasn't), but you need to find someone who'll be patient, who'll be fun, who'll move at your pace. Frat party pickups are, as a rule, none of these things. Quick, dirty, nameless--that's what those guys are for. Save them for later.
Guys - would having a one night stand with a virgin be a turn on or turn off for you?
- MAJOR turn off. Any guy that answers "yes" to this question doesn't respect or care for you and is dishonorable as a man.
Your virginity is something to be held dearly, don't rush it, the time will come when it's right. I know it feels hard to walk around a virgin while everyone else seems to be living it up but TRUST ME when I say it's overrated and unless you're with the right person for you, it's a heck of a lot more trouble than it's worth.
You're young, you have time, take that time to enjoy your life.
...if it's just a matter of hormones going nuts, then there's always alternatives:
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I would never be satisfied with only one night.
I'd feel uncomfortable with it for the reason you've mentioned... what if she resents me later in life because I took saomething away from her that she can never get back. She may be sure about it one day then 5-10 partners down the lines she could really wish she hadn't
IF she was certain, just wanted to get it out of the way, I knew her and she saw the sex as a favour... I'd make her sleep on it, have a day to think about it but even then I'm not sure if I would
been there done that... so yes but in my experience the girl(s) fell in love and ended up getting hurt because I didn't wanna be tied down
I wouldn't. But it doesn't have anything to do with the status of the girl's virginity.
I don't do one night stands. Sex without some sort of emotional connection just doesn't do it for me.
Ii would recommend sticking with your original plan. I think you'll have a better experience if you do.
sure it'd be a turn on. what college do you go to?
i'm 23 and a virgin and would love to get it over with
haha.. I'm 25 years old and still virgin , it's not like somthing is wrong with me , but in my country girls who wants to get married should save their virginity until marriage, and I don't like going to night clubs and doing it ewww .
and it will be a turn on for me to be honest, but I won't do it with a virgin girl if she was not the right one for me .
Please keep your virginity its a symbol of your power and purity.If you give that up before the right time that iv via marriage.the guys will not honor you as a virtious female.Remember we males cannot honor females who have not respect for themselves.So please keep it until the right time.I know we all have te urges but plz...Plz keep your virginity for the right timee.Hope this helps
no because I respect girls
May you please clarify what do you mean?
no I wouldn't want to be that guy if it was just a one night stand because you may regret it
I'm 19 and a virgin too. I wanna get it over with too, but we'd need 2 or 3 one night stands because the first time will be awkward :]
I doubt it, but I'm a virgin so I might. I'm pretty iffy on meaningless sex.
yes because I am
:/ uhm... of course
I lost my virginity to a one night stand, and I have never had any regrets. For me it was the perfect way, and the guy new it was my first time, and he didn't seem to mind, he was a really nice guy, and made sure that I was okay with what was happening.
lol, OK. this is really odd because I did this. so to see this question kinda brings back memories.
i was 20, and a virgin, waiting, for the right one like you are. a girl I thought liked me wound up not to and then her sister said something I didn't like. so what I did was I went out and found the first girl available (she just broke up with her boyfriend and was looking/she lives close by) and I wanted to lose my virginity to a girl I know I wouldn't date. so I did it, reallllly good sex from an average looking girl, but I came out of it feeling alone hurt and confused. its better for a guy to feel those than a girl. so I guess what I'm saying is, don't do it. and I can speak from experience why you shouldnt. its better to lose it to someone you think you love, trust me
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