Why does he still watch p*rn?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend (26) and I (20) have a great sex life. We both aim to please but very often I make it only about him with a blow job or hand job. I even will masturbate in front of him while he gets himself off because he likes masturbation p*rn, as well as 'jerk off instructions' (which I try to do as well) I try to completely satisfy him, I get him off almost every night, and more often than not he's on the receiving end. Yesterday, I come home and he's watching p*rn, when we had great 69 and sex the night before, he got a hot bj the day before that and I let him beat off to me the day before that. So why does he still f***ing look at p*rn when he knows how much I hate it and its relates to some trauma from my childhood? On top of it, how can I not feel so horrible and insecure from it now?

[MaskedSanity]

I don't see why he needs to adjust his preferences because you had some bad experiences with p*rn as a child.

If you were terrified of trains, would you expect him to stop riding them because you feel uncomfortable? Most would simply choose not to use that form of transportation when you're around, but they wouldn't stop riding trains altogether just because YOU don't like it.

Why don't you leave him to his privacy? What makes you think you have any right to barge in and impose your personal beliefs on him?

Pоrn is not a crime nor a sign of infidelity or dissatisfaction. It's an enjoyable activity that many engage in and have great relationships as well as awesome sex.

If you're going to try to change him to suit your preferences, you're only going to push him away.
He may refrain from watching in your presence out of consideration for your dislike, but he's not obligated to stop altogether just because YOU have insecurities.

[crazyincalifornia]

Very sorry about your bad p*rn experiences. You should seek some help about that. Otherwise you sound very healthy.
Your guy is most likely going to watch p*rn. Although I do too, it's more a guy thing. I wouldn't try to make him stop. He probably won't.
Still, let him know how it stresses you. If he cares he should make some modifications in his sexual behavior so you can concentrate on being the loving couple that I think you are.

[Anjaa]

maybe he is addicted? Maybe he needs the variety? If it bothers you talk to him about it.

[shaweet]

um, I don't know if this will explain anything, but i jerk it way too much, i also watch p*rn, but out of the blue sometimes il have sex with someone, and its hard for me to keep it up, if i dont watch p*rn i won't have that problem to get it up, p*rn actually does something to a guy mentally. it desensitizes us and its an addiction. he's addicted to it, and it has nothing to do with you. he's prolly watched p*rn way before you, and personally, if i had a gf, id drop p*rn, and try not to jerk it for a week so i can perform better for my gf, i prefer the real thing over p*rn any day, but i know first hand that it fucks shit up down there for when i get a fling.

solutions: watch it with him, tell him how you feel, is it worth leaving him because of it. and is his addiction to p*rn that bad.

[Realistic07]

what was the trauma from your child hood if you don't mind my asking?

[FrancoBattiato]

He's an insensitive jerk who you need to get control of because right now it sounds like he's using you for sexual pleasure :)

[Zango91]

I think he is looking for new ideas. Don't be insecure, It has nothing to do with you.

[isnelys]

Because living out healthy fanrasies are fine. Why do you hate p*rn? It can be very healthy even help you realize positions you want to do. Dont feel insecure :) we are sexual creatures its not like he's with someone else.