What does it feel like to sexually frustrated?

[Anonymous]

When I'm sexually frustrated my head hurts and I get short of breath. Sometimes, I don't think my girlfriend fully understand how it feels. It's almost like I'm really hungry and I haven't eaten anything in a very long time. I find it extremely hard to concentrate at work or on any other task I'm trying to accomplish. I don't run at 100% when I'm sexually frustrated. I can't be that perfect guy/boyfriend when I feel that way. Its not that I'm just horny it actually makes me sick. Its a horrible feeling and then only thing that can make me feel better is having sex. So why would my girl deprive me of sex if she knows I feel this way? I understand that women don't like to have sex as much as men, but if its going to make your guy feel better, act nicer, and walk taller, then why not just endure the 15 minutes? Maybe, this feeling is why sexually frustrated people cheat on each other. I wouldn't want to feel sick all the time would you? So, if your man is begging for it, realize that just maybe he is not just horny. He might just be in pain and suffering. You are his girl he doesn't think of cheating on you. On the contrary, he only wants you. You are is pain medication! So please help your man or woman which ever the case may be. So what does sexual frustration feel like to you?

[Anonymous]

hey what is this. I haven't had sex for 16 years XD and I am sometimes horny, so I masturbate, and I don't turn into a sick maniac with no attention span.

Don't play the virgin card. Horny is horny, sex is just an issue of physical stimulation.

The only difference that comes with having a girlfriend and wanting to have sex with her is the emotional aspect. If the emotional-sexual dynamics of your relationship result in you feeling like that, you need to look at a deeper issue than sex.

Other that or you're some kind of sex addict.

Exaggeration or see a therapist.

[matahari]

Sex is NOT just an issue of physical stimulation dude. You're obviously a virgin.

[Opinion Owner]

yes I SAID I was a virgin and I mean sex as in getting a headache and feeling horny if you don't get it. I DID mention emotional satisfaction and that aspect of things. Maybe you ought to read beyond the line 'sex is just an issue of physical stimulation' and read the entire answer before you decide what you reckon I'm trying to say :p

[ooojordanooo]

Dude, if your a virgin you wouldn't understand... If your in a completely loving relationship and you do loads for that girl.. isn't it right that she would want to do what makes you feel happy. Question asker is so right.. whenever my girl rejects me...I feel really sick, agitated and I can't just lie there and watch a film when I'm like that.. I have to walk around and find something to do other than just lay there with my girlfreind feeling bad about myself ! :/

[matahari]

Uhm, not like that. Are you not just trying to justify the fact that you want to cheat by saying it's so hard. Sure it's awful not to be able to satisfy the need (I've been there for 10 months, with my libido, I'm tellin' ya, not a pretty sight), but there's no way you can't hold up for a while.

Unless of course we're talking about weeks or months of not having sex with her.

[Asker]

No I would never cheat, I would break up with her first. I don't always want to take out the trash, clean the dishes, sit and watch a sappy romantic comedy or go hangout with her family, but I do because it makes her happy. It makes her feel better. What I'm saying is, sometimes a person should just have sex to make their partner feel better. If its going to make him or her happier than why wouldn't a person give them 15 minutes. Usually when this doesn't happen people become unhappy.

[matahari]

I find it hard to imagine that a girl doesn't want to have sex for such a long time that it becomes unbearable for the guy (usually I'm the one to climb on top of him). But I'd hate the idea of someone pounding away inside me when I don't feel like it. Ya can't fake intimacy. How long has it been?

[Asker]

but that's the problem. Sex shouldn't always have to be intimate. A week is waaaaaaay too long to wait for sex if you aren't married. I mean if the girl is stressing then I can understand.

[matahari]

It doesn't always have to be tender and sweet, intimate, at least if you're in a relationship, yes. And being married doesn't have anything to do with it. How do you know she's not stressing then?

[Asker]

Because I asked her. I attempt to communicate with her. If your guy tried to initiate sex, and you said no, would you be mad if he told he was going to the bathroom to masturbate?

[matahari]

Dude, if there's one thing you need to learn about women, is that we rarely speak the truth when asked if there's something wrong. We're troubled most of the time. Are we too fat? Are we too tall? Too skinny then? Does he like my boobs? He says he does, but really, how can he like them? Even if we're happy we're somehow programmed to doubt our happiness within 10 minutes (scientifically proven). So if she says the first time she isn't stressed, then ask her again, in a different way.

[Asker]

So how do I go about asking her a different way?

[matahari]

Opening up to her that you have [insert your 'emotional' problem here] and ask how she's been feeling lately. Usually that's how girl talk goes, one of us says 'ah I've been feeling so blah lately, I think I need to ... etc. etc.' and other join in. If she's reluctant however... good luck. Are you guys good friends next to being boyfriend-girlfriend.

[Asker]

yeah, we have opposite schedules too. She works late night and I work day time. She says she is always in the mood when I'm not around during the day, but she never texts me or says anything.

[matahari]

Can't you text her how you like [certain piece of clothing, not necessarily in-your-face-sexy] on her because she makes it look sexy. Get her in the mood? It has to come from both sides you know.. :) (not saying you're not trying)

[Anonymous]

You can masturbate. That helps me when I'm feeling sexually frustrated. If it doesn't work, I do it again.

[Asker]

yeah, but that doesn't always make me feel better. I have a girlfriend and I would like to have sex with her.

[Anonymous]

You're using sex as payment for your services. Get the fuck out.