When you know you love and trust the person more than anything and anyone else in the world, then sex becomes very "special", because something "fills" the void of regular sex.
Think of it like eating an ice cream cone. It is sweet and tasty, but not as good as an ice cream cone that actually has some ice cream in it.
The ice cream itself is feelings here, and the ice cream cone is sex.
The reason she waits to make it special is because she wants to love and trust you even more to make sex even more fantastic than it would've been right now.
Plus, waiting leads to anticipation and desire, as long as it's not too long of a wait.
Lol, ice cream analogies
Haha is sex connected to ice cream in some way?
Haha, must be
Things are special if you make them special. If you see an icecream van, and say 'Oh, I'll get an icecream', the most your gonna think is 'This is a real good ice cream!', but if you plan going to the icecream shop for weeks in advance, and take a small party of five to go with you, and all stuff like that, and make a big think out of it, your gonna be going like, 'HOLY F*** THIS IS ICECREAAAAAAM', right?
What? I've got icecream in my fridge
Oh I just realized that you gave an ice cream analogy too. So that's why you and saphira were all "lol"ing about my ice cream analogy. Coincidence? Or are we related? (CONSPIRACY!)
Hahaha
Well...some girls want this romantic, loving, mind-blowing, movie-like (think twilight/the notebook) emotional experience the first time they have sex with the right person at the right time. So yes, it's possible she believes in "special sex".
On the other hand, it could just be an excuse for her lack of sex drive. Let's wait till it's special...then it's let's wait till it's December...then it's lets wait until it snows...etc. It's possible she might just be afraid that all guys only want sex and she wants to make sure that's not going to happen by waiting.
I personally think it's a waste of time.
When she says 'special' she actually means when it feels 100% right for her, when she has made an effort to prepare, when she's feels that loving moment and trust of being intimate with you. It's something that'll click in her head and emotions.
You may not get it but that's how it is for her, you'll only be an arse if you don't respect that and try and force the issue. when she is ready you should make her feel that she is special to you.
i try to make her feel special every day not because I'm trying to get laid but because I want her to feel as special as she makes me feel without even trying
That's really lovely! So just continue to do that and when the time is right fit her it'll happen :)
God, yes there is such thing as special sex... It's when you share it with the right person, at the right time. Trust me, it's not just a "woman" thing either. My guy said the same thing to me. So I respected that. When we finally did the deed, it was like never before. Maybe you're not meaning to, but it sounds like you're mocking her a bit in your question which makes you look like a d***.
Hope this helps!
Ky.
thanks for your honest opinion I've just heard that line once before waited two months and found out while we were waiting she had slept with 5 of her friends so that line kinda throws up a red flag
Oh, that certainly puts a twist on things. All I can say is, keep your gaurd up, but also try to give her the benefit of the doubt. :)
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Yes, there is special sex. She's looking at sex as not just physical, but emotional as well.
There is definitely such a thing as special sex and it's not just a girl thing either. It usually means it is done in a romantic, loving way and with the right person at the right moment. If you want to know what it means to her, ask her. But don't mock her and be mean.
Just because you think she's the only one in the state (and trust me, she's NOT the only one in the state) doesn't mean she's "d***ing you around". Sex is meaningful to a lot of people- both guys and girls. It's an expression of love and commitment to a lot of people. Girls also get more emotionally attached from sex than guys do. If you can't be understanding about this, maybe you're not the best match.
im trying to be understanding that's why I asked I'm more then willing to wait but the only girl who ever said that to me before... we were together for two months and I found out she had slept with 5 of her friends in that time
Even if someone has had sex before, they have a right to wait. Maybe they made a mistake. Just because you made a mistake (even multiple times in the past) in the past doesn't mean you have to keep making the same one your whole life for everyone else's benefit. Or maybe what she wanted changed. It's good that you are trying to be understanding but try to be a little LESS mocking if you can. Also, how can you not be familiar with the concept of special sex? Have you really not heard of it, or
i think there is special sex
so you don't think I'm just being d***ed around?
well if she's like had sex with other people and especially recently id feel insulted but if she hasn't had sex in a couple years then I think you're not being d***ed around
there isn't a single girl in my state that would go a month without sex let alone a couple of years
Much respect to her. Just wondering though if she's a virgin or if she's given it up to other guys. But whatever, if she wants to wait give her that respect and treat her how you'd want your sister to be treated. It's called character and its a rarity in young men today.
and take it from an ex player, special sex is one that involves two people that have very strong feelings for each other. Usually these strong feelings (not necessarily love) take some time to develop. Plus if you like the girl you don't want her to be just giving it up all easy and sh*t do you?
shes given it up recently that's the problem I think he has here
I didn't read that she was giving it up to anyone else. If that were the case I'm not captain save a hoe.
Sorry, but yes, you are being an ass. Maybe that's why she hasn't had sex with you- she knows it wouldn't be special.
thanks for your honesty but wtf makes it special?
Just read what everyone else said, even the ice cream analogies work.
the ice cream analogy was sh*t
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