Being 48 and never even kissing a girl so far, should I go for a prostitute?

[Anonymous]

Well I'm actually 24, not 48 but in another 24 years that's what I will be. If I couldn't get a girl in my easy young years then how can I in another 24 years. Prostitution is something I'm completely against BUT I'm afraid that I might die without ever having to experience what it's like being intimate or doing anything with a girl. I've waited for the longest time for a girl to like me but I've noticed it's all a fairy tale now if you are a guy who has nothing to offer. I don't believe in "there's someone for everybody" because I know a lot of guys and even old men in the same position as me. Girls don't like guys for who they are but I understand where they are coming from. If I were a girl I probably wouldn't go out with a guy like me either. Not being good looking, rich, tall (only 5'8 here), muscular, etc sucks because there is like no girl at all that is attracted to me or appreciates me. Anyways if I hit up a prostitute I'll still die experiencing something with a girl rather than nothing even though it will be nothing more than a sex.

[wagsingle]

You talk about wanting to be with a girl but make no mention of finding yourself attracted to anyone in particular. That's not the way sexual attraction works. It's suposed to be you see a person, find them attractive and try to woo them. If your to shy you may screw it up, or never get up the nerve, but you find yourself attracted all the same. If you haven't felt yourself attracted to someone (guy or girl, depending on your orientation), it sounds like you might be asexual. (no sexual attraction) or grey-sexual ( very little attraction, may require the other person to initiate before your even interested) Just like straights, bi's and gays, you are what you are. by the way, it doesn't mean you are incapable of sex, for example you may still JO like most guys and enjoy the feeling of an orgasm. You just may not find yourself drawn to anyone. Incidentally, if your not finding yourself attracted to a cretin person and all you're looking to do is find out what it's like to get laid, stick with jacking off. Because without the benefit of real attraction, you can probably do a better job by yourself and save the money and risk

[SnackG]

Might as well, but my personal opinion is stick with your hand and hope to find a girl. If you're gonna pull that bullsh*t of not telling her you did it with one that's shady to me.

[JennGirl]

Well first of all, how can you expect a girl to like/love you if you don't even love yourself? You can't put yourself down like that, you have to believe that you are worthy of somebody and if you believe that you don't have anything to offer someone then go do things and make yourself interesting! Go join a club or have an interesting hobby, you don't need money or materialistic things to get a nice girl..unless you are mooching off your parents and aren't even attempting to make something of yourself...I wouldn't advise going to a prostitute because you'll probably end up catching an std and dying that way. Have you put yourself out there and actually asked girls out? If you have attempted to do something with your life and are hygienic and a genuinely caring person then trust me, you will find somebody, you're still young!

[Asker]

I've asked out many girls and they all rejected me. I've even approached fat girls and they rejected me, even though I'm not fat myself.

[JennGirl]

how do you go about it? Maybe you should try a different approach?

[Anonymous]

geez...honestly you should go to the bars and pick up a drunk chick before going for a prostitute...if you are willing to pay for sex you can be willing to buy some drinks for some ladies at a bar...it will probably be less expensive and you will still have your dignity

[Asker]

They either keep rejecting or just make you keep buying and then leave if you are not good looking and all. Plus the whole scene is quite disgusting.

[Opinion Owner]

and prostitutes aren't disguisting?...don't do that. You could go to jail for it then ohh you could get some loving in there...I'm just saying just hold out for someone..honestly if you treat a woman right, have confidence and are charismatic then it WILL happen..

[Asker]

They are but at least I'll experience something. Buying drunk girls drinks won't lead me anywhere, just have my money wasted. Treating a women right with confidence and charisma would only lead me to be seen as the "nice guy" for the girls to have a shoulder to cry on and nothing more if you aren't either good looking, rich, tall, or really muscular.

[Opinion Owner]

every girl is attracted to a confident guy...lack of confidence is really just annoying to us (just being honest) and having a view like you are portraying right now is probably the most unattractive trait for a guy to have...you WONT be with girls if you think and act like you are right now... I don't wanna be harsh or anything but...first your attitude needs to be changed and if you're insecure about your looks..they can be changed too. put in a liitle effort if you're so insecure

[victoriousVictoria]

There's somebody for everyone, keep looking. Don't be afraid to settle.

[SnackG]

Nice lie.

[Asker]

She wasn't lying, just trying to help. After I talked to her later on she realized I have no hope and prostitutes are the only solution.

[SnackG]

LOL Maybe I should do the same.

[MichaelL]

Go to church. Get a nice girl, marry, have sex like sh*t.