What is a good way to initiate sex without looking crazy/desperate?

[Anonymous]

I really want to have sex with my boyfriend.I just got off my period and I really want to do it. I want to initiate it with him, but I really don't want to look desperate or like a "nympho". And don't say "No, it's good to look like a nympho" because no guy wants some crazy dripping broad running after him, despite what they say.they like their women to be ladies. So what should I do that I won't get made fun of for? We're both 20.

[Anonymous]

I wish I had some crazy dripping broad running after me. Where did you get your misinformation. LOL. Beleive it or not, a lot of men love a sexually agressive woman. A woman that just grabs him and lets him know what she wants. Grab him by the **** and pull him to you and tell him you have to have him inside you now.

But if you dont' want to be aggressive, then just sit really close to him and slowly slide your hand up the inside of his thigh. the higher you get, the more quickly his body will start to respond to your advances. Trust me, if the side of your hand is just barely imposing itself against his sensitive parts, it won't take long for him to get the point. You won't have to say a word, and you won't come across overly aggrssive.

Good luck.

[Asker]

Haha its funny because he says he wants an aggressive woman but every time I act aggressive he makes fun of me and says like "wow you really can't control yourself can you?" and it makes me feel like I don't want to initiate again!

[Opinion Owner]

That is a nervous reaction. Try a gag next time. Tie him up where he is defenseless. Then have your way with him. If he makes any stupid comments...tell him he better not discourage you anymore, or you won't do it again. I'll bet he shuts up really fast. Trust me...he is just being playful, he likes when you are aggressive.

[l-hedoniste]

Don't start sentences with "no guy wants--"; you'll provide great sport for the guys who do.

You're at an impasse, because you can't be aggressive about sex without looking like a nympho: It's what nymphos do, it's what they're for, it's why we love them.

I want to tell you that you, and especially your man, will be much happier if you just channel that inner nympho, but I'm unsure that it would help. I get the odd feeling that you're on your way to confronting some deep inhibition about your sexuality. If so, deal with that. Enlist your boyfriend's help.

P.S.: Who says that nymphos aren't ladies? The best ladies are nymphos, by my recall.

[ggazelles]

Ever heard the phrase, "a lady in the streets, a freak in the sheets?" This is what men want. They don't want a girl who acts like a tramp, but they like it when their girls take some initiative to start a sack session. Just go for it.

Also, I read your comment below and he's not making fun or you for being aggressive, he's teasing you in an appreciative way. Try not to take it so seriously.

[Asker]

I'm sure you're right...it just isn't very encouraging. he also says some encouraging things too. the only problem is that I just hate doing all the work!

[23momof3]

If you seating next to him you could put your hand on his leg let it stay there a little then move trod***** and rub a little then just look at him when you know he wants to and give the lets go to the room look. On you could put your head in his lap and look at the t.v but after a bit kindda bite a little down there till he knows what's up

[Unreallover]

if he makes fun of you for being aggresive an really does say "wow you really can't control yourself can you?" just be like 'No I cant, now *uck me bit**" haha except maybe a little nicer.he sounds like a dick if he's makin fun of you for that tho

good luck :)

[blondie45]

He sounds immature to me if he makes fun of you! Most men like an aggressive woman sexually.but your only 20 and you haven't reached your peak just yet! I would say.let him make the moves.

[rock1281]

Just go for it I suppose, but you have to lead up to it. Start with the normal fore play and all and have it escalte to sex. don't talk about it befoer hand, if he doest want it then he wil stop you.

[jdoco4560]

You will never get made fun of for wanting sex lol.you should be building a trophy room for doing that.and if he doesn't want to.he is gay move one lol

[wally]

he should ask for more sex not you but everything are possible these days .

[worried-girl]

Well if it was me I would invite him over to mine or go out to the cinema where you can have a one on one chat then see if he wants to then lean in to kiss him and see if he kisses you back if he dose you no h wants to if he don't he only wants to be mates and if he kissed you back start kissing taking his clothes off and see where it gose from thereall the best of luck from worried-girl