I really hate the way I look

[Anonymous]

I don't feel sexy at all. Sure, humans appreciate diversity, but there's a decided ideal body and you can't deny it. Sadly, I don't measure up at all. My face and hair are really plain, so it's not like I make up for it with great hair or a beautiful face. And my body, well... I have naturally small boobs which just won't grow. And they're not the pretty, round A cups you see that have really tiny areolas and nipples. Mine are B cups, with biggish areolas and pencil-eraser sized nipples. They're not that round and while they feel nice to touch and they're a bit more than a handful (though my hads are tiny!), they look ugly. My waist is small in comparison to my hips, but I'm not skinny. I'm not overweight by any means, but I could lose a few pounds... I'm working on it but it's extremely slow (I have insulin resistance, which makes it slow). And like I said, my hips are wide. They're round and guys seem to like them, but that's because they see me clothed. My whole lower body is bigger than my upper half and it looks weird. Guys think I have a nice butt, but again that's because they haven't seen me naked. It's not round, it's just wide, it's not flat though. And I have cellulite on my butt and thighs. I know the ideal is manufactured and that all media images are photoshopped and enhanced. But I see real life girls daily who're way closer to the ideal: hourglass shaped, with big boobs, skinny as a rail, nice round butt, cellulite free legs and beautiful face and hair to boot! I just feel so down... because people say it's the inside that matters, but that's true only to some extent. I know my body is simply a shell... but I hate it, there's so much pressure to look hot, and I just don't have that. I can't. Id' have to get implants, remove some ribs, get some sort of cellulite treatment... but overall I will always look thick becase I guess I am thick. It's like that video of Beyonce and Lady Gaga, Beyonce looks so thick and huge in comparison to Lady Gaga. I wish I was as gorgeous as Beyonce, but that's the point, body wise I always look huge compared to other girls, even though I'm not overweight. I hate it. I wish I looked different, and I don't know how to stop hating my body. Tips? I'm tired of this and it's hard not to feel bad when there's so much pressure and even mature men drool over ideal girls. I feel I will never be good enough, no matter how smart, funny, loving, whatever else I may be...

[TheAnswerer]

Let's create an imaginative scenario, with your boyfriend at your doorstep, holding flowers.

So simple, yet so romantic, huh?

Now, the catch is, you would feel happy and would be engulfed by nice feelings for your boyfriend, NO MATTER what the shape and size of the flowers are, because it's not the shape and size of the flowers that makes them beautiful.

In real life, YOU are the flower. You are a divine beauty, blooming forth with your unique color, shape and size. You are not beautiful because you are a certain shape or size. You are beautiful because you are unique.

Would you toss away the flowers your boyfriend gives you, just because they are too small / too big / too oddly shaped / too dark colored / etc? Would you care? Or, would you just like the flowers because they come from your boyfriend?

Same thing here. Don't think that your body, or any body part, or you in general, are ugly. That is not and can not be true, just the way you can't really "not like" the flowers given to you by your boyfriend.

This is because we don't judge beauty with our logic and reasoning. We are not computers. We judge beauty through our emotions. When we are emotionally attached to someone, we see them as beautiful, no matter what. (a.k.a. "love is blind" syndrome)

If we judged you based on the "norm", all guys would be in love with the "Mona Lisa" painting (which has Golden Ratio all over it). I hate that painting.

[kawa450]

I kind of know what you mean. It only takes one negative comment to bring you down forever no matter how many positive ones you get. I used to feel the same way but I came to realize that this is just how I am made I will never have that big built body. So I decided if I can't have the body that I wish I could have that I am going to make it as good as possible. I work out (in moderation) so I look OK. My abs are nowhere near hard or that six pack look. My chest is not rock hard either but its tone. I guess what I am trying to say is that you have to realize that your built they way you are and without tons of money all you can do is make the body you have as appealing as possible. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks thick girls are gorgeous too. Just work out a few times a week for 30 min to an hour. The only persons opinion that matters is yours. Don't compare yourself to other people it never does any good. Hoped I helped and sorry it is so long

[taster]

What the hell? Let's see a pic of u...I don't believe for one minute that you are as bad as you say...and never mind the breasts...they are just the way I like them...PIC? waiting...

[Pwnfrnzy]

My words exactly broski.

[Anonymous]

Obviously I can't see you, but that doesn't sound that bad from what you've described. I like small boobs, actually, and areola size doesn't matter. Also, I wouldn't care about thicker thighs as long as the girl wouldn't find it weird that mine are thinner than hers.

I would choose an average looking girl with a killer personality over a hot bitch any day, so keep your chin up! Not all guys are looking for make-up caked divas. I know it's clichéd, but any worthwhile guy will see you for you, I promise :)

[taster]

ESPECIALLY NOT MAKE-UP CAKED! gag, retch , barf, eject, G'Bye!