Would you date or have sex with a man who has erectile dysfunction?

[Anonymous]

I am a 29 year old man who has erectile dysfunction. They type that not even Viagra or Cialis can help. Have been to the doctors before and they have no answer. Psychological causes are also not the problem. I can still get an erection good enough for penetration, but through masturbation only. My question would be, would you girls still want to date someone with this type of problem? What about casual sex in a friends with benefits context? I consider myself a patient lover and can satisfy a women well through other means besides penetration. Due to this discovered issue, my self esteem is at an all time low and I cannot fathom even approaching a beautiful woman much less becoming intimate with one due to her "discovering" this problem. I now try to avoid situations where there could be a chance of a sexual encounter with a woman due to this. Should I continue to "put myself out there" and meet women? WIll this become an issue in dating and especially in the context of becoming intimate? Girls, what would you do if you were about to have sex with a guy for the first time and find out he can't get it up? Would you continue to try and have sex? Also would you want to hook up with him again? Thanks

[Anonymous]

Well, I am glad to see a question like this. My boyfriend has an erectile dysfunction too (he's barely able to penetrate - only twice, but it didn't last long). We are together for only 2 months and the truth is, that the whole time I've been frustrated. I'm the girl who prefers penetration and we didn't really talk about his problem, which I think is the worse thing. I don't know, how to talk with him about it (I tried, but it seemed that he didn't want to talk). I don't want to make things even worse. And I'm still with him and I'm giving it time, because I know that it is not easy.. The reason, why I comment is, that you need to talk about your problem from the begining. I can see, that you are/were doing something about it - doctors, pills and maybe other stuff. Let the girl be part of it. Maybe some toys etc.. :-) And friends with benefits? I'll give it a try. :-) Wish you good luck! P.S.: sorry for my English...

[SaoirseS]

You don't say whether or not you've ever had sex, or tried to and had a bad experience.

[Asker]

I've had sexual experience and some good but with my issues it hasn't been so good

[celiabedelia]

if I was attracted to his personality and looks, I'd be patient with it

[johnherron]

Some women will feel like, ‘He’s not attracted to me, he’s not into me, or he’s bored by me.’ And that’s really relatively rare compared to the other more likely factors.”
In older men, blood vessel tend to be the main reason for Erectile Dysfunction. In fact, since the blood vessels in the penis are smaller than those in the heart, heart disease may in the penis first.

[GrahamElliott]

Never give up searching. Some girls prefer oral, and some prefer getting bent over and fucked doggy style. Find a woman that you can satisfy and that turns you on. Sometimes Its hard for me to keep my erection so I either have her suck my dick or i have her tickle my ass with her tongue. don't be afraid to experiment.

[ChrisFletcher]

There are some girls for whom only person matters not only sex. A relationship isn't just about only sex. For some girls happiness is everything.

[Anonymous]

yeah...for me a relationship isn't just all about sex even though it does play an important part :)

I'd rather have a guy who can keep me happy in many ways other than sex...

[justrealguy]

I like this answer. A relationship isn't just about sex. I am a male who suffers from performance anxiety most of the time and can't get an erection but kept my partner happy in many ways. No need for people to cheat or have friends with benefits. Women can masturbate because both sex and masturbation leads to orgasm.