When a guy comes quick, does it mean he is more excited than if it takes him a long time?
This guy I am in love with. Okay. I was with him four years ago when I didn't have much experience. He was able to stay inside me for a lot longer without cumming. Now when he is with me. (and it has been four years since those last times) we were together twice, one time just a blow job, the second time sex, and he came really fast. He felt bad afterwards saying how I must have had better performances before. He didn't get it. I totally wasnt thinking about anything but him at the time. I wasnt thinking about how to be good or bad at sex. Now, when we were emailing before. . before we did anything together. he told me he had really long sex with this girl he was with for a SUPER LONG TIME because he liked long sex. Does that mean I am bad? Or does it mean he really enjoyed it because he came fast? Am I at fault here? How come the other woman who he said it was "THE BEST" with he was able to keep from cumming for so long? Damnit, what does it mean! His first words were "we aren't very good at this are we" and I said "that's not a nice thing to say" and he said he meant he wasnt very good at this. He is totally wrong. I don't know about technique, but I've never been with somebody who I like on all levels as much as I do him.
Maybe I like him more than he likes me. I don't know. I hate the idea that it's unreciprocated. I hate it.
I have a lot of experience and should know the answers from being with guys but I don't! I don't know at all. And when he left I don't think he realized how much I loved being with him. Because I hadnt had sex in a really long time and being with him it was like. the first time again, you know?
Also, he's going off to Europe for three weeks, I probably won't see him for more than a month. I could ask him, but our communication styles are similar. We are both evasive, and then ocassionally shockingly blunt. But I don't know if I want to act all insecure and say "do you not like having sex with me because it doesn't last long enough?" Or. "Did you like having sex with me four years ago MORE?" For some reason, I really don't want to bring up the past and ask him that. I don't know why. I want to be coy about this and just not ask and that's why I am asking here. The more answers the better, please.
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