She asked me to take her virginity?

Question

Ok to start I am a good looking very in shape guy. There a lady I know who is over weight some she 5'7" about 230lbs this is the nicest sweetest girl I ever met. She is 29 years old I have known her forever she is a virgin she wanted to wait till marriage. The other night she said she's never going to find anyone let alone get married. So she asked me if I would take her virginity. She said she knows we will never date or be together because she is not my type. She told me she Thinks so much of me and loves me because I have always been there for her as I am with all my friends. So I kind of blew it offs changed the subject telling her I needed to think about it. I didn't want to rush into that nor should she but today she texted me asking if I had given what she asked any thought. I love her because she a good person. But I'm not attracted to her like that so what should I do about this by her texting me today tells me she not going to just drop it

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Don't do it!

Your friendship will NEVER be the same!

And she has to learn to love herself first. honestly.

Do YOU believe she is a nice person? If you think so, then somebody else will too and they'll love her in that way too. She won't feel better about herself after her virginity is gone either. She'll probably feel worse inside.

And the same way a bunch of guys talk about girls becoming needy after losing their virginity (although this is not always the case)...in her case, it sounds like she will have a lot of emotions about it (even though she said she knows she's not your type etc etc)...why? because she said she knows she's never going to find anyone... So she already feels down about this because what she really wants is a boyfriend- a relationship. So she might become more attached to you in a way that your friendship can't handle.

Being a real friend to her will be to help her have more confidence in herself.

But having sex with her will not help her confidence at all. The same issue will remain.

And you will change a good friendship all because of that.

toulouse · Accepted Answer

@She said she knows we will never date or be together because she is not my type. She told me she Thinks so much of me and loves me because I have always been there for her as I am with all my friends

I don't understand. She TOLD you, she knows yuo wil never be together, but she just wanted you to now bla blabla..."

What is there for you to think about. And why is she calling to ask you what you thught about her saying she knew nthing will happen..

Whats to discuss?

butterfly_girl · Accepted Answer

Maybe you should say something like you love her and see her as a sister more than anything so it would be a bit weird to sleep together?

If she's waited this long then tell her that she will meet that special someone :) x

Quadrophonic84 · Accepted Answer

Say that on the surface it's flattering but that you find it a bit offensive that she thinks your sexuality is something she can use to feel better about herself. Then change the subject. If she brings it up again then you know she doesn't really care what your thoughts are on the subject.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think only you can know if you can do it and not let it interfere with your friendship. I would say it is a bad idea if you plan on continuing the friendship. I could probably do it, but could the other girl. What happens when you get a girlfriend? How will she be around her?