Would it be weird for me to invite myself over to his place?

[Anonymous]

I have been dating this guy for several weeks now and I am ready to take things to the next level and have sex... and based on the past few dates I'm guessing he is too. The only reason we haven't already is because a friend has been staying with me (in my studio apartment) for the past 2 months while she finds her own place. She doesn't have anywhere else to stay so I can't ask her to leave for a night. Anyway, I have been hoping he would invite me over to his place (its a bit out of the way) but so far he hasn't. I really want to be alone with him, but feel that inviting myself over to his place would be a bit weird. Should I wait for him to ask me over, or just come out ask him to take me back to his place?

[Anonymous]

Firstly, you don't have to pressurise yourself into having sex just because everyone else is doing so. Secondly, I think men want to be the initiative takers and (from my experience) it can be a bit scary if the lead came from the woman -- sad but true, this is how unequal we still are. Lastly, from a practical point of view, if you can't ask your roomate to give you a free night at your place, why not tell her you need the day free :-) Daytime sex works fine for me (specially since men are visual animals, don't forget!) But keep the above riders in mind. I don't see why some others are judging your attitudes; at the end of the day it is for you yourself to decide. But go slow and you can't be much wrong!

[taster]

I don't have any problem with you doing that...now...if you invite yourself over frequently...that is a different story...

[Kathia]

I say you wait... Because it seems like it wouldn't be a very good idea.. I mean if he hasn't already invited u, it must be for a reason... And if he knows about your friend staying at your place therefore he can't go and he still won't invite you over to his place, then maybe he isn't as ready as you think... Let him be the one to invite you to his place.. Don't ask to go if he didn't ask u...

[Anonymous]

Wow omfg what's up with all these damn girls spreading their legs so fckn easily for guys they barely even know!? You sound like such a whore. "The only reason we haven't had sex already is because someone's been staying with me" wow really? SKANK! I hope you fall in love with a man who doesn't want you because you're too stretchy and gave it up to guys like a desperate prostitute!

[darlanoy0510]

Well If you are sure about him just go ahead and ask him. He won't say no if he wants the same thing as you. Maybe he is just worry that you might think bad of him if he asks first.

[Anonymous]

If your not comfortable enough with simply asking him a question should you really start having sex already..?