Why do guys only treat me like a piece of ass? Anyone else with this problem?

[Anonymous]

Idk I'm not the type of girl that throws herself at everyone but no guy ever wants to get to know me past sex. If me and a guy are texting for more than a couple of days he'll start with saying something sexual like I'd like to eat you out or something of that nature. I literally have a couple of guys at this very minute if I would text them lets hook up they would jump at that offer. I'm just sick of meeting guys like that I'm more than just a piece of ass. And no I don't hook up with those type of guys :/

[MrOracle]

The type of guys that you are talking about are "alpha male" types, meaning they tend to be popular, or good-looking, or play sports, etc. They are very outgoing, and used to getting what they want without having to wait for it. This type of guy is often called a "player", a "bad boy", "exciting", etc. and they are often those things. But they also are horny and looking to get laid, and not used to waiting around and not shy about asking.

If that's the type of guy that you are interacting with, then you need to realize that it comes with the territory. It isn't something you can change.

But, there are plenty of OTHER guys out there who aren't like this. They are likely to be respectful and wait for you to be ready. But they are probably shy, geeky, and not especially popular or "cool".

So, you have to figure out what it is that you want, and choose to hang out with the right crowd.

If you were a vegitarian, shopping in a butchershop instead of the produce department wouldn't make a whole lot of sense, right? Same thing with "shopping" for the wrong kind of guy, and then complaining that he's not what you want.

[Anonymous]

You teach people how to treat you. If you are sleeping with guys before getting to know them, that's way too soon. Maybe you're meeting sleazy guys in bars, so that's something to do less of.

[AllDay]

my personal opinion is if you don't demand to be respected from day one then they won't respect you at all

[Opinion Owner]

that's how guys are though. give an inch, they take a yard.

[madmisskelly]

I think if you put the stops on it up front, and put up a boundary, it wouldn't happen as much. Or, you just stop responding.

[cyrus7]

:/ only guys like that seem to get a girl's attention :( /sigh