Who has the power during a blowjob?

[Anonymous]

So, I was having a political discussion with a gay friend of mine about blowjobs. Who is in a position of power during a blowjob? My friend think that the guy receiving the blowjob has the power since they person performing the blowjob is like his sexual slave pleasing him. I, on the other hand, as a feminist, think the girl (or guy) doing the job has the power since the guy is in a vulnerable position (his d*** is in someone else's mind) and he surrenders himself to the pleasure. I even remember a funny line by Samantha from Sex And the City about blowjobs: "The sensation of power is amazing. Though you're on your knees, you got him by the balls." So what do you guys think? Who has the power during a blowjob?

[The_Greek]

Karkingjack is right.
Yeah it depends I guess. Normally I would go with the obvious answer that the reciever has the power but not every blowjob is the same right?
My current g/f kind of sub loves it when I grab her head and hair and make her go really deep etc. I do have the power in that situation.
But used to have an ex that never allowed me touch her head during bj. She used to eat my ass too and I felt really vulnerable when she was giving me head. Liked it but always thought it was her game. She had the power.

[KarKingJack]

Whoever dominant =] It goes either way. If he's dominant and she's submissive, he's in the position of power, whereas if she's dominant and he's submissive, she's got the position of power.

[charliecat08]

i think I would say that the one giving the blowjob has the power. Because their partner is baring all and giving them the power over their body to do what they want to bring them pleasure. I don't really think there is any slave perspective going on because both have a certain thing that goes on during the blowjob

[deshawn78]

@charliecato8 do u feel powerful when the guy is cumming down ur throat?

[cun7n1nja]

I think it depends more on the 'roles' of the people in question [who is usually more dominant or submissive, whether they switch roles, etc], and even more variably, the mood of the particular encounter. I don't think either is inherently more 'in power' than the other.

[heatherlu]

"So, I was having a political discussion with a gay friend of mine about blowjobs. " - I've never read a more pleasing sentence.

The person giving it of course. They're giving the pleasure, so they're the one who can take it all away.

[Yrrah]

So true, the power is in the fact that she can stop lol.

[shinkson47]

Could be either!

[Hurlyburly]

I think that whoever gives head does have the power. Things like facefucking or facesitting are an exception ofc.

[Chimpmunk]

Its not that simple, I'm in control because I somehow made my girl give me a blow, on the other hand she is control because well she's got my **** in the mercy of her teeth. So, who is older chicken or the egg..

[pandaninja]

Well according to the history channel, the one in power is the one giving the blowjob, they were talking about sexuality in ancient greece and how to allow someone to give you a blowjob was a huge symbol of trust that was beyond just sexuality because if the chick takes one chomp there goes the babymaker and that puts the woman in power, it was supposed to put the woman in power but is a act of trust which was not to be abused. And so it pisses me off when hyper feminists claim that blowjobs are dehuminizing of women and all their stupid spiels

[RustedOldKnight]

Honestly it depends on the position is it's like a BDSM then the guy receiving it. But I feel for me since I am 100% addicted to getting head the even if she is on her knees and I am standing that girl has complete power, I would do anything for her to keep going.

[Andreaslag]

Lol the power is with the guy getting his piss stick sucked and who cums in the sucker's mouth

[ND4SPD31]

@andreaslag is that what u like?

[Andreaslag]

@ND4SPD31 yes, but it's also the truth. I laugh at delusional cunts who tricked themselves into thinking they're actually the ones with the power while they're having their throat fucked by men

[ND4SPD31]

Interesting. U don’t think guys wanna go down on u and make u cum?

[Andreaslag]

@ND4SPD31 I don't like guys going down on me. It doesn't do almost anything for me

[ND4SPD31]

Ahh ok. So could they make out with u and then have sex with u or do u have to give them a BJ?

[Andreaslag]

@ND4SPD31 I like to always start with a blowjob. Always aT least a blowjob on the first date

[ND4SPD31]

Ha damn. So u want to see how big they are before u go farther?

[Andreaslag]

@ND4SPD31 that and they paid for my food and drink. It's expected. The least I can do is suck their dick fast in their car

[ND4SPD31]

Ha damn. That’s true. And if he’s big and doesn’t cum quick, is that bad? Lol.

[Andreaslag]

@ND4SPD31 no, it's harder, but I do it to completion always!

[ND4SPD31]

Ha nice. So when does he get to fuck u then?

[Andreaslag]

@ND4SPD31 when he asks for it. Not all guys want to fuck me on the first date but they all accept blowjobs

[ND4SPD31]

Sounds fair. I’d probably be the exception because I’m not one for blow jobs but I can definitely fuck. 😎

[Andreaslag]

@ND4SPD31 nice! Should be guaranteed to fuck if you buy dinner

[ND4SPD31]

Nice 😎😊

[Doglover666]

An orgasm means losing control so losing the power.

[deraz24]

Whoever is giving bc you can literally do whatever you want to it lol

[NeilHamburger]

Whoever has their teeth millimeters away from the d*** has the power. Oh, do they ever have the power.

[ddfafdfdsf]

The girl has the power and that's the whole point. She directs the action as she sees fit, it gives her a chance to decide what happens instead of just receiving his thrusting penis. He gets the pleasure but she has the power during the act, even deciding if she will bring him to orgasm or not, or if she will do it slow or fast, or even if she wanted to hurt him. He's at her mercy and he should think about that. It's like a way for him to learn trust and also be grateful that she'd want to do him something that can't give her an orgasm.

[PopinJay]

Both may think that they have the upper hand in the power dynamic, but we all know that it’s the person who has someone’s genitals in their mouth that is holding all the cards.

[CarolineW]

When I give a blowjob, I have the power. Definitely

[TallMoney]

Bjs with my friends with benefits usually start with me snapping my fingers and pointing at the floor to let her know to kneel. Then I grab her hair and guide her head up and down. She likes being controlled sexually so I've never gone down on her. You tell me who's in charge.

[Shaun]

The person who wants it least has the power, as with all things sexual. Your theory is that ALL men have the power in sex because they can beat your ass at any time. That's just absurd.

[SunSeeker]

This.

[Eugene]

Person receiving a blowjob has the power. That guy is right: at some point you receive pleasure from someone who's on her (or his, although it is wrong) knees in front of you and yes, at some point it indeed reminds something about slavery in ancient times.

[AdoringFan]

I'd say the woman, she literally has the guy by the balls :p.

[actricalian]

I'm gonna go with the person who has the sharpest, hardest part of her body a hair's breadth away from the softest, most sensitive part of his body.

[Mazerock]

100% the person doing the blowing has the power. They could at a moment's notice bite their dick off. The person getting the blowjob is more vunerable than they ever will be.

[MrMAC777]

The person giving the blowjob can have control over the situation, and they can also be getting face fucked by the blowee. I think it depends on the situation and the people involved. So you both are right.

[herguy]

I'm a Dom so I always have the power. She has no power when we have sex or any kind of sexual interaction (which is the way she likes it too btw)