What does the term "good stayer" mean to you?

[Anonymous]

I find it really frustrating when guys say they're "good stayers" but can hardly last more than a minute. I realize some men may lie about it to get a shag, but I honestly think some of them believed what they were saying. In my opinion, if a guy can't perform AT LEAST 5 MINUTES of uninterrupted intercourse (following foreplay and allowing for a few position changes of course), he really shouldn't be calling himself a good stayer. What do other people think about this? Do guys talk about this stuff with each other or have an idea of how long they can last compared to other guys? (Just to be clear, I am not judging, I'm just saying I think the term "good stayer" should be reserved for the men who really can go all night god bless them).

[tc1125]

Is that what 'good stayer' means? I've never heard the saying.

a lot guys over exaggerate, nothing new there. girls do as well. does this happen a lot? maybe you just turn them on so much they can't last very long.

anyway if that's what the saying is then yes I guess you are right, they shouldn't be over exaggerating.

[Asker]

Ha ha, I WISH I could turn men on that much : )

[tc1125]

just go for the second round, they'll last longer then :)

[fnfnfnfn]

It's not only a reflection on *you*. It also depends how young the guy is (lesser staying power for the younger), and how long back he's last had sex (or masturbated).

[Anonymous]

I'm at the other extreme! Sometimes I find it difficult to come, after going on for 30 to 60 minutes... Would you call me a good stayer?

[Asker]

I guess so! Do you still enjoy it even though you can't come, or is it just too frustrating?

[Opinion Owner]

For a man not to come can be rather frustrating. (I'm not being patronising to suggest that it's okay for women, but I think there are reasons it's more tough for men.) It causes a whole lot of congestion in the pelvic region. Google 'black balls'. Fortunately, I use my hands if needed, with some help from my partner sometimes. But no climax is like no happy ending for a male!

[caseydylan]

A lot of guys can't last very long the first time. Make him come first during foreplay then make him go down on you until he's ready to go again.

[taster]

Yes..I have heard that saying...and I would have to agree with u...one minute would be premature ejac imo...I've done both...premature & failure to cum...well if the female is in the mood for sex...she will like the "failure to cum" could anyone blame her? lol