I am scared to give a blow job! Help!

[Anonymous]

Please tell me your experiences and advice for me! I am scared and feel disgusted to give him a blow job! When I've given him hand jobs it takes 10-15 minutes for him to finish and my hand gets tired. Of course I don't tell him that. And when he cums, I feel like gagging! So I recently bought chocolate body paint and was going to use that to make it more fun for me and he said I don't have to swallow. Please tell me your experiences and advice for me!

[heatherlu]

I'm guessing your main problem here lies with the come - and the easiest solution to avoid that, is to have him wear a condom. At least for the first couple of times until you get more used to the experience - and hey, a little extra protection for yourself never hurts.

Get flavored ones if you want.

I'd suggest that over the flavoured body-paint for a first time - because honestly, that's a very different experience.

Also - he doesn't have to come from the blowjob necessarily - you can give him a blowjob, but 'finish him off' with a hand job, to avoid the come situation.

Go slow and take it easy is the best advice I can give. A lot of girls think that a good blowjob equates taking the whole penis into the mouth, and yeah, whilst that might be good - it can also be good for a guy without putting that pressure on yourself.

Use your hands as well.

If you need a break, take one, it doesn't mean you have to stop paying his penis attention, but you could just stroke it, kiss it, lick parts of it, whatever - whilst you relax your jaw and mouth. You don't want to be uncomfortable whilst doing it.

But most of all - try and get over your feeling of being disgusted, that's not the most sexy of things. If he thinks you're having a bad experience, in all likelihood, it's not going to be all that great for him.

[Anonymous]

I do gag therefor he never comes in my mouth. I can't take the taste. If you don't want him to come in your mouth at all tell him. When you are giving head the guy typically cums faster then just a handjob, you can also use boh your hand and your mouth. Don't think about it being disgusting because then you might not do so well and it really isn't that big of a turn on. If you need to think about something esle while in the process so your more relaxed and he will enjoy himself more.

[Anonymous]

10-15 minutes for a hand-job? Well...

My partner too has sometimes laboured under the belief that a hand-job is about friction, rubbing vigorously, etc...

The other day I saw this video of a hand job. Among the most artistic I've see (incidentally, these are a great turn on for men!) This woman just played with his manhood, rubbed it almost teasingly... without the jerking movements most of us (guys too, while pleasuring ourselves) would do.

Her fingers (thumbs) made patterns on his d***, and with some oil, I could imagine his sensations. In no time he was cumming. Take a look at some of the videos at youporn dot com. As for fellating a guy, some women find it disguisting. There are others who feel insulted if you allow them to blow you! If you're in the first camp, doing it might not be a good idea. Anyway, keep in mind that a blowjob is, again, not about giving enough friction with your mouth. It's about teasing, about stimulating, about creating the illusion that you're sucking him!

Play with him with your hand too while doing him. The material word is *play*... I would enjoy this a lot!

Ever tried sensual massage?

[shyandhorn]

in my experience ! Yeah I can last 10 - 15 - 20 min when receiving a hand job...it all depends on the mood and build up to it BUT. I have never EVER manage to last as long when receiving a bj. sometimes I have to pull out of the wife's mouth after only 2 mins, sometimes 10 mins.

If you don't want it to last that long for him, start with a hand job followed by gentle kissing down there you'll be 75% done... ( a girls can never ever do a bad bj) so don't be worried about it.

But like anything sexual yeah try things out once or more but never ever EVER do anything you are not ready for or completely relaxed about.

[Belgie]

If you feel disgusted, you might be as well not to do it. It's not exactly a turn on for most guys, to see their girls face scrunched up in disgust at his bellend.

But if you're determined to go through with it...

1) Use a flavoured condom. Something you like.

2) Don't attempt to deep throat him.

3) You don't have to put the whole shaft into your mouth. Kissing around it, using your hands, and using your tongue to lick it, are acceptable for a firs timer who might be nervous.

4) If you can put just the head in your mouth, then where the tip of the tongue is, next to the bottom teeth in your mouth, will be lined up almost directly with the most sensitive part of the glans. Just licking that part alone, can be very pleasurable for the guy.

5) Unless asked (and it's rare a guy would be into this) don't use your teeth for anything.

6) See if he likes his balls played with, while you're doing it. Anything to provide him with more sensation so he cums quicker, and it's over sooner for you.

7) Tell him before hand that you're new to this, and you're willing to try, but you're going to put a time limit on it. If he doesn't come in a certain amount of time (you decide) then he can finish himself off.

When it's all over, wait a while (don't do this immediately after) and talk to him about what it was like for him. What worked, what didn't work, and how you can both adjust your technique for the next time. (Assuming there is a next time.)

[BoobMan]

That's a good plan. You can just start by kissing and licking and sucking on him a bit while you give him a handjob. You don't have to move straight into full bj with him cumming in your mouth. Just take it in steps and enjoy it. He'll love it!

[jumpdates]

Well what you can do is use the mix the blow job and hand job together to give him pleasure... just feel the d***...is his d*** is small..?

[Anonymous]

There are flavored condoms you can buy just for oral sex. Also you can start off with oral sex and finish him off some other way. Either way you never get his come in your mouth.