My friends with benefits was so nice and now he is acting differently?

Question

i met this guy through a friend of mine, and we've become friends with benefits/f*** buddies. he usually texts me Friday night or Saturday night to come to his place and have sex, he always has some friends over but they aren't always in the room. the only reason I decided to do this is cause he is so hot and was so nice. but lately his been acting different. like he used to say I was cute a million times or would tickle me and kiss me and my tickly spots. but now it's as if he wants to bang me and then goes and does something with his friends till he wants to f*** again. eg. we had sex and then he had to go down the street really quick to get something from a friend of there's, it ended up taking like an hour and when they got back he cuddled up next to me and we had sex again. then on the third time I realized I started my period so we stopped. then later he cuddled up to me and played with my boobs for ages and then asked me to give him a bj. while I was down there he asked if I wanted to do a threesome, I said no and then he started saying he just got dumped and I should suck him off an di said no. then he asked me if he can put it up my bum even though I've told him numerous times that I'm to scared that'll hurt. then he tried to uncover me so his friends can see me giving him head but I pulled the blanket up again because I didn't want them to see and then he kinda made a hand gesture like " wtf " then he went and watched a movie with his friends while I was just resting and then he came over and we cuddled then he turned around and stopped cuddling me ( he usually cuddles me the entire night) he was lying a position where I could cuddle him so I moved on to him and then I moved my head a bit and I don't know if it was cause he was a sleep or something but he grabbed my head and pushed me away. so I ended up curled up against the wall with tears coming out of my eyes. then in the morning he cuddled up to me again and asked for a bj so I gave him one and as soon as I was finished he asked if I could get picked up now cause he needs to get ready for football. he wasn't always like this and I'm starting to regret doing this with him if his treating me like this. by the way I really like him. what should I do and what would his reason be for acting differently? we are both 16 and we are only sleeping with each other buut were not in a relationship. please answer thank you.

Amillia1981 · Accepted Answer

Oh my god! You are so young to be having friends with benefits. This guy is a jerk and is just using you. What he is doing is degrading and he is just trying to show off to his friends. A normal guy would never act like this. I'm sorry to tell you this and please don't get upset or offended but he is playing you and using you. I have never had a friends with benefits but I don't think that its normal for you to feel like this. Ask yourself who is getting more out of this. If its not a 50/50 thing then something is not right. You guys are both supposed to benefit from this equally and this is not the case for you. If you don't end it then one of two things can happen. You will get pregnant or he will shatter your reputation and your life will be changed for ever. No birth control is 100% so don't think that it could never happen to you. You need to concentrate on school and more important things. Please end this before its too late.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That's the point of f*** buddies my dear.
No feelings involved. If you've fallen for the guy then, he'll realize that and use it to his advantage.
It sounds like you want more. But he doesn't. He just sees you as a person to f*** with.
Tell him to have some f***ing respect. And that your not a whore you just wanted a "fling" with one person, him. A one time only thing.
Don't get hung up on this guy, if your gaining feelings then let him go as a fwb.
Because it doesn't sound like he has feelings for you..
Treat him the same way. Call him one random day and say let's f***. F***, don't cuddle then leave. Act like you don't care and he'll come to you.
(If that's what you want) Which it sounds like you do.
And listen to this song, Always makes me feel better(:

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's probably because he doesn't respect you. Friends with benefits is insulting, in my opinion. The guy is basically saying, "For whatever reason, I won't give you the title of a girlfriend but I'll take advantage of your willingness to spread your legs and give it up without making me work for it." If the guy meets a girl that he's actually interested in pursuing a relationship with then you can forget about being his fwb

This guy does not respect you. He's treating you like an easy whore. The fact that he wanted to let his friends watch you sucking his d*** shows that he doesn't have respect for you and he doesn't view you as anything more than a sex object.

He's using you because you're letting him.

mikeb79 · Accepted Answer

I haven't read the whole thing, but this guy sounds like a douche! End this friends-with-benefits arrangement.

On second thought, screw that. You're not even friends! He's into you only for the benefits!

vgn_amandie · Answer

My god how did it get like this? I'm 16 too and I can't ever see myself getting in such a situation even when I get older!
He knows how much you like him I think and he's using you for his sexual satisfaction. It doesn't sound like he cares about you at all :(

dezme · Answer

OK... let this be the first time and last time You ALLOW A PERSON TO DISRESPECT U! NO RESPECT AT ALLL

lionqueen420 · Answer

that is so ridiculous. he has a hand for every little urge her gets. you are a bit young too, that often seems like a good way to get pregnant. stop putting out and maybe one day he will grow up and want you for what you are not what you can do for him. you will become stronger because you stood up for yourself, and next time you are being taken advantage of, you will react even wiser

diamond3 · Answer

he use to respect you now he doesn't. simple it is time to move on

NickieLas101891 · Answer

He wants to make sure he can always get p*ssy so he wants to be on good terms...nothing more. He doesn't care about you:/

NickieLas101891 · Answer

You're a bootycall...accept it or stop it. He probably secretly wants to gangbang also lol but don't do anything you don't wanna do. And remember...friends with benefits are just that. You seem emotionally attached.