How do I tell my boyfriend my brother is gay ?

[forgive-cant-forget]

About 3 months ago my brother told me he was gay witch I don't care about cause I will love him regardless the other night he had a guy spend the night and they were sleeping in the livingroom on the floor really close together and sharing the same blanket well my boyfriend went to the living room and saw them he came back to my room woke me up and asked who was that guy in there with my brother I just said I don't know I think he kind of thought that was odd do I tell him yes my brother is gay or do I just not say any thing? if I tell him I don't want him to feel unconformable around my brother.

[mollyb]

it can be really daunting having to do this especially because you yourself have just found out about this. My mother is a lesbian and I have struggled over the years to tell people but the last few years I have just thought this is my mum and I love her and anyone who doesn't accept her isn't worth being a part of my life. You'd be surprised how well people will take it. There is no right or wrong way to say it but my best advice to you is to just say it like its normal and show in your voice how comfortable you are with it. If your boyfriend loves you he will listen and be non judgemental . Remember that your loyalties lie with your brother and its your duty as his sister to protect his integrity. Good luck

[forgive-cant-forget]

I got a other question for you. I have kids two little girls and my brother is there everything. should I tell my 8yr old or just wait till she gets older? I am unsure if that will effect her.

[mollyb]

It might be good to talk to your brother about it and maybe you can both sit down with your daughter and have a talk. there is no way that she will be able to fully understand the complexities yet it will be a gradual thing just let her ask questions and be honest to a degree without exposing her to too much.over time she will understand more. My mum told me when I was eight and she said to me Mummy loves another woman, my reply was " mummy you can't love other girls becuse your a girl too".

[theana]

aw your a sweet sister I think your brother should tell your boyfriend that he is gay and that you be there with him when he tells your boyfriend and I hope your boyfriend is ok with your brother being gay does your boyfriend have any gay friends or lesbian friends or bi friends or trans friends or any other sexual orientation besides straight friends if he does he will probably be not freaked out but if not then it will be hard for him I wish you and your brother good luck and you should wait until your kids are older so they understand and he should tell them because he is the one who is gay and he could better explain it to them and to your boyfriend

[claydough18]

i would just let it alone unless he asks you.or ask your brother if you can tell him that way your not sharing information that your brother doesn't really want to be shared with certain people.

[l-hedoniste]

Just tell him. He'll find out anyway, and you need to know whether he's a homophobe.

[redheadbabygirl]

Well, imagine how you would feel if your boyfriend had a lesbian sister. What would you like him to do?

Personally, I think that if I were him I’d rather not know, but it really depends on the seriousness of the relationship. If it gets to the point where you’re constantly having to make excuses for your brother and are tired of explaining his unusual habits, then it’s time for you to tell your boyfriend. Just act like it’s no big deal and hopefully he won’t be too bothered by it. However, some people are a little bit creeped out by gay people, so be prepared for a possible negative response as well. Just do your best to stay calm and don’t be overly apologetic about it. You could even make a joke about it if your boyfriend likes that. Just be VERY careful not to hurt your brother's feelings or create an awkward situation in the family.

No matter what happens, don’t get yourself in a bind where your brother is stealing your boyfriend :P JUST KIDDING.

Good luck!

[VolleyBallBaby0xx]

That's good, I'm glad everything worked out :]

[bubblyblonde]

Oh just tell him, and tough shit if he has a problem with it.its your brother at the end of the day. My younger brother is gay and I have absolutely no issue with telling anyone incl future boyfriends. Blood is thicker than water.

[adorkabletmtm]

Jest tell him, if he loves you it shouldnt matter

[Anonymous]

i love the fact that it doesn't bother you your brothers gay

there are so many homophobes around and even if you love him I don't think you should say anything right now because he might be one