Is it normal for my husband to view p*rn and use a penis pump everyday?

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My husband is obsessed with his penis being bigger and uses a penis pump everyday like 2-3 x a day. On top of that, in order for the pump to work, he needs to be hard. So he watches p*rn to get aroused 2-3 x a day. I am starting to get concerned with this. We still have sex like each time he uses the pump, but I feel like watching the p*rn is becoming too much. I am starting to feel insecure about the p*rn and the excessiveness of it.

aldente1 · Accepted Answer

I wonder if that guy has actually damaged his penis but using that pump so often. That could really make him embarrassed and you wouldn't know since he wouldn't tell you.

If a man uses things like that, they then have to use a ring or some kind of band at the base of the penis to prevent blood from leaking out of the corpus cavemosum. When erect naturally, the blood fills the corpus cavemosum and blood vessel valves close to prevent the blood from flowing out. The valves then open up via the parasympathetic nervous system sending a signal that either arousal is over or that he have ejaculated. Well the sticky issue is that, yes, using things that pinch the base of penis do make for a much harder erection and bigger, the problem is that those things can damage the tissues like the blood vessel and make them not work right or well anymore. The Issue get's compounded when some thing that stretches the tissue like weights causing tears or a penis pump actually forces more blood into the penis than it can normally handle kind of like filling a balloon with too much air, the walls stretch but the balloon looses lots of it plasticity and the valves in every case can weaken preventing an erection in the first place.

I am being specific with the terms and everything so that you or other people can read more about these issues on their own time and can no where to look like google "corpus cavernosum damage"

The truth is that using a penis pump and watching copious amounts of p*rn in a relationship is NOT NORMAL, unless is something you both agreed upon. I think you should dump his if he doesn't want to get checked out by either a qualified urologist or a sex therapist. The fact he flipped out at you is not surprising but is totally abusive to you and the same with having to watch p*rn to get a hard on and to just get bigger. If he has like a small penis like 2-5inches, the big issues for guys like that is to get depth inside of you. The easiest thing to try is a different angle. You can do missionary and fold one of your bed sleeping pillows in half so it's firm and soft and place that under your hips while laying down on your back. This will give your core muscles a lot more support and the "angle of attack" (yes lol it refers to the pitch of an areo plane, lol) will be much more agreeable for both of you and different so it will be a good starting point to try different things in the bedroom. But yea, f*** this nonsense about having to put up with anyone like that, he sounds really insecure and a little bit of a perv. Divorce is acceptable in Western societies today so there is nothing wrong with that, however as the internet is I'm sure there is a bunch of other stuff being left out and we are only hearing one side of the story. I know for me that would be a deal breaker if my significant other was so abusive to themselves and wouldn't even listen to me.

WaitingAtTheDoor · Accepted Answer

Porn isn't the problem you should be worried about.

His infatuation with size, AND the amount of times he uses the pump is the problem.

Penis pumps cause forced pressure around the the penis, which then swells the blood cells to a crawl in the area, which leads to the large size.

The problem is that too much of this can cause a rupture of a blood cell, and that is one of the body parts that a man does NOT want a blood cell rupturing.

It's going to lead to MAJOR damage, that cannot be corrected by modern medicine, and will inevitably lead to his penis not working at all.

Your husband needs to seek the help of a psychiatrist who has a specialty in addiction issues, because this addiction that he has formed has to do with an insecurity, much like all other addictions begin to form from.

But if all he was doing was looking at p*rn, it's not anything to be insecure about. Pornography on it's own is not a threat to a relationship or cheating, which some have been to believe.

Coffinspire · Accepted Answer

Thats def a bit odd. Not so much the p*rn but the use of the pump is just odd. I'd talk to him about why he's so insecure about it and let him know you like him the way he is (obviously you wouldn't have married him if you didn't)

synmar · Accepted Answer

Your husband needs a therapist.  Watching p*rn is normal, but when it gets to the point where it's replacing YOU, it's a huge issue.

nermalinda · Accepted Answer

Get a divorce. You don't have to put up with a guy who flips out when he's been acting crazy and calls you names. That's abusive.

Phoenix1991 · Answer

Wow, that's kinda ...well unique...  If you feel that way, tell him. Nothing is wrong for standing up for your feelings. I wish you the best of luck

pepper01 · Answer

not normal but NOTHING will work to make it larger. he's just wasting money

ladsin · Answer

well tell him your upset about it, also penis pumps don't work... if anything they can cause tissue damage and really mess it up and get it to the point where its unusable, I wanted to do some but a little bit of research said that

NonchalantBro · Answer

lol this is most amusing :D

G_GTom · Answer

Well, at least he's exercising.  It could be worse, he could just be a couch potato.

7gnat · Answer

he seems obsessed. tell him to read these answers. he may need some help from a therapist if he is trying to replace your lust and attractiveness with p*rn. you should be enough to get him aroused. p*rn everyday is a bit much.