Would you forgive a guy that set up a spy cam in the bathroom? during a sleepover?

[Anonymous]

he claims he didn't mean to hurt anybody, blackmail, he didn't plan on using it as a guilty pleasure or anything. he said he was just "drunk" and he didn't think about it. but he had lots of time... 1, he bought the camera for no apparent reason. 2, he set everything up and decided where to put it. 3, he turned it on. this was all on different days too! I'm pretty sure he wasn't drunk for 4 days. out of all places why the bathroom?! it wouldve been more reasonable to have it in your room. the girl who found it was VERY upset cause she found a video of her changing, she kept the card so I'm relieved. but she also said there's missing videos...who knows what they were :( the other 2 guys were talking to him and forgiving him. but the difference was...hes a guy so the guys have nothing to lose. this guy is engaged and doesn't plan on telling her cause he would "kill" himself. the worst part is...ive always disliked this guy and I'm happy someone finally saw him screwed up. I smiled when he started crying. for all the sh*t he says, and all the girls he flirts with...i hope his fiance leaves him did he go too far? would you forgive him as a friend? as a fiance? im upset boyfriend didn't do much...i showered and everything in the bathroom too! seems like he still looks up to him even if he saw me naked and all :/

[ALWAYSclassy]

No offense but if you do, you're an idiot. No one "ACCIDENTALLY" does something like that, it was purely intentional and premeditated. Guys don't give a f*** but girls have everything to lose. I would never forgive someone like this and if I was involved I'd take legal action. You will probably end up on the internet.

I don't know any guy who would be cool with a guy who did that to someone he cared about. Try that sh*t with his mother, sister, daughter and he'd be ready to crack some skulls but it's all forgive and forget when it happens to YOU as his girlfriend? How do you know your boyfriend and the other guys who forgave him and offering him sympathy weren't in on it themselves? That sounds like something a bunch of a**holes plan and set up to do.

[Asker]

thanks for making me doubt my boyfriend now too lol :( i really don't think they were in it together though! he was crying! another was drinking it off! and yea :( i don't forgive him but I would still have to hang out with him cause my boyfriend still likes him...i never liked him! boyfriend even said goodjob on keeping my mouth shut cause id just make it worst and then go violent with him ha ha damn I really wanted to bash his head for the girl -_-

[ALWAYSclassy]

No offense but your boyfriend is a punk. Any man that would still want to hang out with a guy that did that to his girlfriend is what we call a "bitch ass nigga". Where are his balls? He's not angry or outraged? I'm mad FOR you!

[Asker]

im mad for myself too lol but no one would know if there were videos of other people :( whats funny is that...the day before he set it up, boyfriend told everyone we MIGHT have sex in the shower. right before IIIIII was gonna shower, he went into the bathroom. I don't know what for...and I hope he didint turn it on then. but there was no action, I showered myself that day. but its creepy to think about that :( god I hate that guy even more now

[ALWAYSclassy]

Sounds like you were set up and your boyfriend was in on it. At least that's the vibe I'm getting :(

[Animal_Girl]

Uh, no. He put a camera in someone's bathroom? Then he lied and said he did it because he was drunk and didn't think about it? He sounds like a f***ing creep to me. I hope his fiancee finds out and leaves him.

Btw, if that had happened to me, and my boyfriend didn't do anything about it, we'd be having a serious talk that night. I'd need that video back before anyone was forgiven.

[Asker]

this was his place! I really wanted to ask the girl if I was in any of the clips...but I guess I was too scared to know the answer :( and she was saying she knows he won't do anything to hurt me cause my boyfriend is his best friend...but really comon? that doesn't change anything! she was his friend and it still happened sighhh now she won't feel safe going to peoples bathrooms anymore :'(

[Animal_Girl]

You know what, all I hear are excuses upon excuses (I mean from him, not you), and not one of them makes his behavior excusable to me. That is a huge invasion of privacy, and it's not okay.

[bel42]

No , I wouldn't forgive him. That definitely wasn't an accident. He did it intentionally.

[Asker]

if only everyone can see that...hate it when they are so easily forgiven! ;(

[MrScTi]

I wouldn't even forgive myself for doing such a thing. Invading one's privacy is a very serious matter. From a guy's perspective, I'd totally understand why he would do it, but that's a line you just don't ever cross. His fiance has a right to know about this in my opinion. The guy is clearly not ready to commit.

[Asker]

at what point does checking out your friend naked a good idea?even if you can get away with it... you can find naked girls all over the web! better looking girls! and I really think she deserves to know what she's dealing with too! even if it means the end of them...

[MrScTi]

It's never a good idea. In many ways, proximity breeds temptation. It's easier to lust for someone close to you, even if they are marginally attractive. I'm not excusing his behavior, but that should explain why he did it.

[Mr_Solo_Dolo]

It sure as hell wasn't an accident. If someone did that to my daughter,sister,mom,or wife I don't know if I could forgive them but I doubt it.

[Asker]

my boyfriend must like him more than me then lol :(

[Mr_Solo_Dolo]

You're boyfriend forgave him? Sorry I didn't read the whole story.

[Asker]

yea he was talking to him and saying its okay, that we're here because we're still your friend. ughh it got me pissed off cause he comforted him instead of the girl. the girl has to drink to try to forget. now the other guy is drunk cause of what this guy did too. everyones getting hurt from it but me lol

[Mr_Solo_Dolo]

Lol That's ridiculous. That guy doesn't deserve to have somebody comforting him. He should be by himself thinking of what he did and how he hurt that girl.

[l-hedoniste]

"He claims he didn't mean to hurt anybody, blackmail, he didn't plan on using it as a guilty pleasure or anything. he said he was just "drunk" and he didn't think about it." Doesn't pass the smell test; who on earth gets drunk and hooks up a spy camera?

First he violates your trust, then he lies about it. This guy is firing all my scumbag alarms. I would stay far away from him.

P.S.: "hes a guy so the guys have nothing to lose" Hehe, double-standard much?

[Lupianwolf]

That was really wrong,

Drunk my ass, he couldn't have been drunk all the time from ordering one waiting and installing it and waiting for someone to use it

[Asker]

thats what I was saying! but boyfriend choose to stick with his "bffl" instead. he said everyone makes mistakes...but this wasn't just any mistake! it was a "planned" mistake!

[slipslender]

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[Asker]

even if they were always there for you? not that he every was for me lol just wondering how they can forgive him so easily

[slipslender]

never. HUGE betrayal of trust and privacy. I'd feel as though I never knew him... :/

[Anonymous]

That guy is a creepy pervert! Recording people in the shower is illegal. If you can prove he did it, then you need to call the police, and have him arrested.

[Asker]

the girl has the camera and the clips. but she chose not to! instead, she came back and told us all about it...she didn't wanna ruin his life :(

[Lupianwolf]

Actually if it's in Italy you can actually record a sex tape without the person knowing and get away with it, as long as you don't distribute it

[MrScTi]

Lupian knows the loopholes... ;)

[Opinion Owner]

This man violated your rights. You deserve justice. Try to get the tapes. If she doesn't let you, then she is not your friend.