Like when he's fingering me he's extremely aggressive, like he'll grab my vagina, squeeze it, twist it, and lick it. Then he says some really dirty things to me. And when he's fingering me he's reallyyyy hard and fast, and even when I tell him to stop because it hurts, he continues doing it. Do any of you guys do it with your girl? Why does he behave so aggressively?
If you want to know why, ask him. More importantly, if he's hurting you, that needs to be a complete show-stopper: "That HURTS. Get out, we're done." Enough of that, and he'll learn to control himself.
Any guy who physically hurts you during sex..needs to stop having sex with you..this is wrong! and needs to be stopped...or reported for that matter...Tell him that he needs to stop being so rough..and if he continues to..then well I think you know what you need to do..this is not to be messed around with, OK?
Don't listen to any of these people saying to deal with it, ignorant. Just tell him how to you feel, my boyfriend is into bond age type things so I know more about this than probably anyone here, if he's continuing to hurt you like that then you need to have a very serious conversation with him. Trust me, I know exactly how scary that sort of thing can be, if it persists and your having a hard time being around him alone without being scared then you need to end it, it's a very unhealthy feeling to have around anyone, especially someone who is there to care for you and love you.
Well, it could be a number of things: 1. Watches too much p*rn/can't differentiate the difference between p*rn and reality. 2. Had a previous partner who liked it like that. 3. Is clueless.
Or a combination of those.
I would talk to him about it (outside of sex). Tell him that he's too rough and that it hurts and ask him to be gentler. If he's receptive, tell and/or show him what you like. If you continues to be too rough for you, despite you asking him to stop, then don't have sex with him because it means that he doesn't respect you.
We all have our own way to get a pleasure. Some like it rough, some like it soft. If partners do not match it is hard to fix. If he really knows that he hurts you and does nothing to change it - it's time to think about your interests an d comfort. Maybe you, guys, are not compatible that way.