I want to try double penetration but my boyfriend is no go?

[Anonymous]

To clarify, I've been going out with my man for nearly a year and we have a ton of sex. I'm adventurous and have tried almost everything. So to the point, I want to try double penetration, vaginal and anal at the same time if you didn't know, and my boyfriend is not happy about it. To be fair I've had a threesome with him with a friend of mine and he seemed to enjoy that and I really didn't think he'd mind this too much for me but he just said no. It's one of those issues where I'm not going to break up with him but I would like to try it. In terms of a guy who I'd want to join us, I know two, who I haven't personally had sex with but some of my friends have. You know the NSA kind of guys who are really nice and frankly quite hot. I told my boyfriend and even said if he had a friend he would be more comfortable with that would be fine. He just said no and said using a toy should be enough. But it's not, a toy is cold and it's not going to move the same, plus it has to be the real deal. He knows I like anal and he likes it too but prefers vaginal, I find he's a bit insecure, he loves to have sex but he's sometimes boring, like one position and without much foreplay or fondling. LOL, help?

[handjobaddict]

ok,his insecurity is his "size" or he thinks being that close or intimate with another guy right there is possibly gay.he needs to know that it's not about him.you obviously would pick non-judgemental types,not gay or bi,and the focus is to be on you.the mmf threesome is all about the woman getting to let go and be completely overwhelmed without having to make the moves.that's one reason for maybe him watching you with your two hot nsa guys and getting to see it's for your pleasure.fair is fair,somehow two girls is not threatening the way two guys is.but one woman can be satisfied where two probably left both of you a bit short of satisfied.but it was for him mostly.you obviously have a connection that nobody else gets to have with each other but his insecurity will keep him from seeing the true connection.and he needs to remember that there is always someone out there that makes moves and screws in a way that is unlike him.you reacting with before unseen passion and moans and screams that even you haven't heard is to be what the aim is,not what he could never get you to feel.he needs to know it's not gay,he's not "small"he's just wanting you to reach a plateau of pleasure never reached before.it's an amazing beautiful thing you both should experience.

[TheAnswerer]

Let me guess: The friend that joined you for the threesome was female?

Some guys don't like the idea of sharing their girlfriend with other guys. You can't do much to convince him here, because it is not a matter of logic. It is a matter of emotion.

I totaly agree with Quadrophonic84 here: This comes from the guy's insecurity.

May be if you say how happy you would be if he at least tried it for you (but in a VERY positive attitude), he might change his mind.

You are fighting off his insecurity, and therefore his emotions. For that, you need to replace his negative emotions about the subject with positive ones, like how much it will be enjoyable for you, or how happy he would make you if he just said "yes", and etc.

Positive! =)

[eurochick]

With my boyfriend we do regular 3 somes, FFM and FMM. I have done DP in the FMM and its an amazing experience.I think that if you have a FFM you should do a FMM in return and we have this rule. I think that if you talk to him and ask him what he wants if you did a FMM. See what his insecurities are (so having his **** near another maybe). If you have guys that you know already then you are off to a good start, and having done a FFM you should be rewarded with a FMM. Friend me if you want to talk more.

[Anonymous]

Have you tried a toy with him? I know you want another guy, just curious if you have tried a toy already

[Quadrophonic84]

It's down to his insecurity. You put your money where your mouth is when you let him do you and your friend at the same time. I doubt there's anything you could say that would sway him. Personally I'd love to watch a girlfriend go it with another guy if she really gets off on it, but then again I don't conflate a woman's raw sexual pleasure with my self-worth.

[Mark16]

Just buy two big Dildos and shove them in there lol

[ppfxxx]

It's the classis male thing MFF threesome is fine but a MMF isn't

[TheWhiteFreshPrince]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=58Yx9Svoik0

[vptwarrior]

most guys:

MFF: Okay

MMF: hell no

guy's do not like to share, I know I wouldn't. If you got a shemale...me maybe or may not be more inclined to do it.

[msc545]

You probably need to find two guys to do it with, and not include the boyfriend, and not tell him. Everyone is entitled to have their fantasy fulfilled at least once.

[arnoldandino]

Tough to help you here, IF your man don't want to he most likely won't ever do it. All I can say is why couldn't my girl be like you?

I would have been OK with this. I have been wanting to this for a longer time than you probably have.

[handjobaddict]

keep pushing him...it's not fair he had 3some but you can't...if you got two guys that are hot...and want to do it then if you must get with them...if they are good together then they will have you cumming all day and night...hard and heavy...you'll love it like nothing else...

[Yenjuriki]

Sounds like you should sit down and have a talk with him. If you let him have a 3 some but not the other way around, leave him. Judging by how he handles his insecurities he sounds like a pussy.

[Anonymous]

i had the same problem, however I'm a guy and wanted to dp. We've had ffm fmf 3 ways before, she is bi and enjoys women. She also likes anal, and we've used beads and plugs in the past... When i asked her if she would ever be interested in a dp she said no because she feels it's barbaric. After digging deeper, and explaining that it was for her pleasure and not mine- I found out she just didn't want more then one guy in the room...

To your point, yes toys feel different. Especially when it's just the two of you. However we compromised, and play with another girl... Went through a few strap ons but found the strapless dildo (feel doe) worked the best for everyone

Ease him into it, try another girl and a strap on, bring in another couple, maybe he would be ok with having sex with you in the same room as another couple for a few times then maybe he would be ok with a swap and then ultimately a dp.

[Anonymous]

Insecure yeah right. Since when is it insecure to be bothered when other people have sex with your girlfriend, that's just crazy. Are you even listening to yourself.