He didn't text me after we had sex, advice?

[KikiKerasine]

So I met a guy and we talked through text the whole 2 weeks he was on a trip. We talked about so much and found out we have so much in common. Well he talked his band mates into ending the trip early just to come home and see me. The whole drive he kept me updated and let me know where he was the whole time but still talked to me about how excited he was to see me. He drove home from CA to CO in one day for me..The minute he got back, he turned right around and drove a 40 min. drive to pick me up from my best friends house. When he got there just seeing him in person was so amazing. The whole drive back to where we were staying we laughed and talked and had such an amazing time. Then in the room we still talked even considering how shy I was being. Finally I laid down next to him on the bed and we kept moving closer together till our faces were nearly touching and I got shy and looked down. I rolled onto my back and stared at the wall talking to him till we started talking dirty and I said I was willing. He said, 'In that case' then jump straddled me and kissed me then stared into my eyes before kissing me again. We had sex and even afterward I laid on him and he held me and we talked till he fell asleep. When he got up we left and headed back to my friends house. On the way we decided to go on a second date a few days later and he'd give me his schedule. We hugged for awhile then kissed goodbye. He only has a carcharger for his phone currently so w/his long work hours I understand he's busy. But he never texted his schedule, and the date that was supposed to happen didnt.. I've heard from him twice since our date. Am I just being paranoid? He said he wants to date me and that he really likes me. He tells me all the time I'm beautiful and he was so nervous that he started shaking right before we started having sex. He seemed so happy and he's still super sweet when we talk. Maybe I'm just not used to a guy that actually treats me good? I don't know.. what should I do? Also was it wrong of me to text him and ask him to call me when he got a chance?

[joeblakk]

Sex after the first time meeting is very nerve racking! Not only for a girl but guys as well. Its our first with this new person and we don't know how it going to go or even if theyll even want it again! lol! But on the serious side, the distance away hiegthend the anticipation of you two meeting each other, so when you two were together I can understand the shyness. Now the one thing that kind of makes me feel kind of judemental of the situation is the two of you had sex.There's nothing wrong with that but it seems like prize was gotten before real work had to be done if you understand what I'm saying. We all get busy but I don't see why you two have only talked twice in the past couple of weeks. If something is to happen he has to be able to put in the effort, but if he's not making the effort to be a boyfriend? then maybe its not what he's looking for. Feel free to ask more questions

joeblakk

[KikiKerasine]

Well it's only been a week exactly since I've seen him but like I said he still talks the same to me. After we were done he asked me if I was OK and I said that I enjoyed it a lot because he knows my sexual past and said he'd do his best to make it better and he did. But is it OK I asked him to call me?

[joeblakk]

The messege between the two of you has to be clear, if your willing to be a boyfriend then lets talk about it then if not what do you expect from us? Its only been a week so I wouldn't be too worried but when you get a chance talk it out

[KikiKerasine]

When I asked him for the second date and he laughed [because of how I asked] and got a really big smile and excited and said, "I completely agree and I was planning on asking you out anyway." then looked at me and smiled more. I'm just so bad about talking to guys I like as apposed to my guy friends. I am trying to not text him a lot maybe that's wrong?

[vidovido]

well I just say this ... as an advice or whatever ... when you want to have a relationship with a guy don't jump to bed with him right away ... cause he'll think he've got more than enough and will lose the interest ... I'll be frank ... I guess next time that he'll call you for another date will be when you'll be the most accessible girl around ... guys need to earn everything so hard to adore it

[CuriousEddie]

Are you guys still together? Seems kinda scary to me meeting someone like that.

[KikiKerasine]

No. I started dating a guy I knew from middle school a few days after I stopped talking to the guy above. It ended up he broke my heart so I am currently single but I am still friends w/the above mentioned.

[CuriousEddie]

It's good you're still talking. I'm sorry about the other guy. I still think you took a chance meeting a stranger. Do you not have feelings for him now? I can't believe he didn't fall in love with you after that.

[KikiKerasine]

It's totally fine he didn't deserve me if he couldn't be strong enough to tell his step brother to shut up and stop lying about me. I don't have any feelings for the above mentioned but Love is a very over shot thing. I Love the boy who broke my heart very much and will always care for him but some men just don't have the strength to understand what Love truly is so they manipulate it into something else. I know that there is someone for me I just have to be patient.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

1) fun you're in Colorado? :P I'm up here now to hike and stuff. Vacation ftw.

2) He probably just used you. Guys go to extreme lengths just for a f*** and trust me, I know this. My friend who came on the trip with me would do things like that. Granted, he'd at least generally be honest in that he wasn't looking for more, but ya...