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My boyfriend has not gone down on me yet?
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My boyfriend of one month has yet to perform oral sex on me, and he just admitted that he has never ever gone down on a woman before. He is in his mid-thirties so I am pretty shocked about it. I have performed oral sex on him yet either and I doubt that I will if he can't return the favor. I asked him would he ever do it and he just told me 'one day'. I'm ready now darn it! My question is how do I get him to do it? It is really hard for me not to orgasm without it and I am losing patience. Should I just wait until he is comfortable? I do not want to break up with him for something as silly as this but I feel like he is being selfish. What should I do? Help! Thank you. :-)
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*I meant that I haven't performed oral sex on him.
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What Girls & Guys Said
1 2You're shocked? I went down on the woman I lost my virginity with. Haven't stopped since.
Two suggestions: 1. You have to give to get, obviously, and 2. no oral, no sex. He'll come around.
Yeah I and I want to give because I love giving but I don't want to please him and I can't be pleased. I don't know if I can do #2 either because I love sex. lol
Go ahead and do it. I promise you won't do without for long.
I just noticed your question, and rather than go to bed since it's late here I'll answer you first because I love going down on a girl. I know exactly what you mean about being able to orgasm only that way, or at least being turned on almost to the point of orgasming but then doing so during having sex. I've not done that to that many girls but what you said is what I've heard 100%. Girls need and expect their guys to bring them to orgasm that way in a very pleasurable manner, and doing it because they want to and because it also turns them on. Not just because it's expected. I don't know what kind of a guy you have. Some guys don't like doing that as much as others and some don't do it period just like girls giving head. Hopefully, he's one that once he learns what you like will reciprocate and bring you to the orgasms you deserve in having a boyfriend. You need to get his face down there at least close lol, and maybe with still your undies on because he might find them very sexy. Make sure you have a very light touch of your favorite perfume on your undies and just try to make a really big deal out of him making love to you that way. I'm sure that once he gets started he'll start looking so forward to pleasuring you that way. Make sure you have him at least partially turned on and you can be touching him or be doing something pleasurable to him at the same time in a way that he'll get the connection how much you're liking the different things he's doing to you.
But since he's admitted he's never gone down on a girl why don't you ask him why he hasn't? You don't have to make a big deal of this by asking but it would be good for you to know and him to know how much you'd like it and want him to love you that way too. His answer may give you a clue as to why he never has yet and it may please you that he's not been one to be going down on girls just to do it. Like maybe he's not had a girl yet he's wanted to go down on, but you might just be the one. He is being selfish by his hesitation and he needs to learn how to satisfy a woman that way if he ever expects to keep a woman happy - YOU happy. Hope this helps. .
Wow awesome answer, thanks for taking the time to help me out even though you were tired. There's still hope! lol
You can try masturbating in front of him.