Why are women so unsexual? Was I really suppose to be a guy or something?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I think I am weird or something because I love watching p*rn, masturbating, any thing deal with sex I love it...but women seem so anti sex. They are always like p*rn is horrible and its cheating, or no I don't masturbate or I just make love. I don't like casual sex or engage in it, I prefer a relationship where it is okay to develop feelings. Developing feelings for sokmeone who doesn't care hurt very badly...however, I think about the same exact things guy think about. I think about having threesomes and having sex with the hot guy that walks by. Sometimes I think I am just weird since other women seem so damn asexual or something. No wonder 2/3 of married women hate sex with their partner, ...most women are so boring sexually. I mean I can't even the number of wome who really think laying there like a sak of potatoes and letting the guy do all the work is great sex...i mean really? Why don't women enjoy sex like guys?I feel alone, maybe I was suppose to be born a guy or something? Any one have some opinions Maybe its teh double standard or something making them be so secretive or something? I wish more women were open about their love for wild sex so men didn't assume sex was just for their pleasure and that women only want to have sex to make babies...and that we have strong sexual urges too.

[DoggyDude]

Your not weird. Women, in my experience (and by experience I mean talking with female friends rather than repeated sexual involvement) are very sexual creatures indeed. They are just also, in general, more emotionally connected and more inteligent about feelings of love. They tend toward caution in expressing themselves. They consider the future more.

There are many reasons for sexual repression, many of them social, religious and emotional.

Pornography is at best an escapist activity, at worst a crutch. Sometimes though its better to use a crutch than to try and walk on a broken leg, just so long as its a short term mesure replaced by the full and normal function of the leg. So to speak ;).

If your needing p*rn in a partnered relationship there is some inbalance in the relationship (one or both partners are not fullfilling the other(s) so they need to look to external sexual expression to fill the gaps). Possibly both parties are happy for p*rn to fill the void in which case, hey go for it.

Personally, I am the type for whom sexual expression is an activity coming out of love, not the other way around. I am a very sexual creature, but its reserved for just one partner.

[zickzack]

It gives unsexual women, we all know such. This are the moralistic aunts, bluestocking intellectuals, some with small lips and bony faces, such with frustrated and unfriendly faces, such who eat from the morning till the night uninterrupted, such with a strict behavior , the mother.types, such who look all the times to their girlfriends, such who like military and police and are engaged there, such of sects, such who are always orientated by sports, such who love drugs to much, some who are very ugly, such who want to rule all the time and some others.

[saltycheeks]

I will admit I didn't read your whole question but you're making a big generalization saying women aren't sexual. I don't know one friend of mine who doesn't like sex, finds p*rn offensive or who has a problem with masturbation. Just because you are sexual doesn't mean you are weird. It is the norm to be sexual in my opinion. Yes society says girls need to be more reserved and there is some false idea out there that women don't like sex and men are mindless pigs who only care about it but the reality is men and women both like sex. Just live your life and don't worry about what you're supposed to act like and how you're supposed to feel about certain things

[jadejess]

I don't think you're weird at all. I'm the same way with sex. I enjoy watching p**n and even though I've never had sex, I'm completely open to at least trying most things once. I feel like if you haven't actually tried it, you have no idea if you would enjoy it or not. It definitely has something to do with our culture and society - there's still this myth that's been around since at least the Victorian Era that women are the more moral of the genders, which is just a completely ridiculous assumption. Firstly, it's not immoral to enjoy sex and secondly, morality has nothing to do with gender anyway.

[heatherlu]

All I can think about is that you're hanging out with a minority.

I and plenty of my friends are very sexual people, on varying different levels.

And you just have to look at a handful of answers to questions on this site to know that there are plenty of women out there who enjoy sex, and watching p*rn, and masturbating.

[RedStiletto]

Don't know what females you have been talking to, but ALL of my girlfriends, colleges, aunts, etc (including myself) adore sex and all that comes with it. Maybe it's an Italian thing...but I doubt it.

[pandapoo1102]

why isn't there more women like you in the world? It's a shame...

[LuvKatyPerry]

I know some women who are like that but it's just a minority.

I also love sex and most of my friends love it too!

[claireincali]

your not alone. I am completely the same as you. I think culture just doesn't let women be as sexual as guys because then they seem super-slutty or something. too bad its not different.

[l-hedoniste]

You're running with the wrong set. Make more dirty-girl friends.

[RedheadGoddess]

I'm the same, I love sex and I'm not ashamed to show it. A lot of my girl friends are like me too. Girls are just not as upfront about it then boys are which I think is stupid because we're all thinking about it we might as well embrace it.

[Shea25]

u are normal, most women are more sexual than they appear. due to social norms and culture, women would deny having these urges or fantasies. I also watch p*rn, masturbate, crave sex and fantasize. in my relationship, I am more curious or freaky than my bf.

[SweetFace28]

Cool story. *Some women, btw.

[jamesmitchell29486]

Please tell me you are in muncie if so I will MARRY you asap.

[Anonymous]

Seriously...no, you are not weird...but on what do you base your findings? Women are so boring sexually...really? It might have to do with the women you have been speaking to or maybe you are just assuming things. I don't think any of my friends are boring, I think as women we like to think we are more sexual then others, its like an ego boost, but the reality generally is we are pretty much all the same...craving for good sex.

[Anonymous]

Must have something to do with the culture. It is a terrible double standard against females to be more reserved about sex. Maybe they're afraid of sounding like a slut or whore for talking openly about how much they enjoy sex. Why is it considered a bad thing to be a slut anyway? There is so shame in loving sex.