How can I get more pleasure?

[Anonymous]

How can I get more pleasure out of being fingered or from oral? I don't have a boyfriend, and I'm not ready to have sex, but I have been fingered and have had oral done on me. they both feel great, I like the feeling of oral, but the guys don't stay down there long enough. I worry what if I smell, they don't say anything, but they have gone down again in the same night. And fingering is good too, but I just don't get off like they do. I don't know if they've rubbed my clit, but if they have I haven't felt anything. Could I have deadened nerves or something? Do guys like fingering girls?

[Anonymous]

i think you should try masturbation, if you haven't cause you get to touch yourself and see what you like and don't like, which little spot gets you off, etc. also I would get a vibrator cause that's a whole different level of pleasure also. I think the reason that guys don't give oral long cause their necks and mouths hurt so then they have to take a break. anything else you want to know, I would be happy to help if I can

[Asker]

I don't know if I could do masturbation, ha ha. As weird as this is gonna sound, I'm kinda shy. And I couldn't buy sex toys, again I'd be so embarrassed. I have this idea (and I know it's wrong, cause I hear masturbation is healthy for you or whatever) that matsurbation is you just screwing yourself, ha ha I know it's dumb but it's how I think about it. I would rather have a guy get me off than my own finger. I'm just wondering is there something I should be doing with a guy instead?

[Opinion Owner]

are you feeling anything when they do finger you or rub you, and does it feel good, bad, etc?

[Asker]

I don't know, ha ha. Like it feels good, but not like I'm gonna lose control or however they describe an orgasm.

[sixstring]

Don't worry about your smell. Most guys love it (as long as you maintain down there) and love eating girls out.

Fingering is more complex. Some girls are very clitoral, others work more vaginal. Try playing with yourself to find out what's nice. Next time take his hand and lead him to show what really works for you.

Oh and yes, fingering is awesome. Well pretty much anything we can do down there.

[Asker]

How is a guy to be more clitoral? Like I've said to rub my clit, but they never stay long and it's like they're pushing to hard. I think they should be super light, like barely touching but I'm too shy to tell them cause I've never masturbated.

[sixstring]

For a lot of girls, direct stimulation is too strong. Let them move the skin surrounding your clit over it. But yet again, the best way to find out is by trying yourself.

[gotc147]

Come over to my place I'll stay down there all night.

[Asker]

Ah ha, sounds so tempting.

[gotc147]

You would not be dissappointed ;)

[Asker]

Ha ha, nice.

[Anonymous]

Have you ever tried anything that vibrates? That can bring on some amazing orgasms. You might surprise yourself ;)

[Asker]

I haven't masturbated, so would you put vibrating thing like right inside you? (I know dumb question). See I would rather get more pleasure from a guy, so if something vibrating worked, how would I get that from a guy?

[Opinion Owner]

No your okay it's not a dumb question. When you masturbate you learn about what makes you feel good. What feels best for you. So if you haven't tried it you may not know. It's just as much a mental thing as it's a physical thing too. You need to be in the zone mentally. And you need to be relaxed and not anxious about getting your orgasm. As for vibrators if you have a proper vibrator you can put them inside you. You have to be careful what you put inside and it needs to be clean.

[Opinion Owner]

Some girls can get off from rubbing something vibrating on the outside on their clit. Once you learn what spots feel best for you it doesn't mean you need a vibrator when your with a guy. Just using your fingers can work too. And you can tell the guy what feels best and let him do his thing on you. They probably didn't spend long enough on you and don't know what way you like the most. So do you think you would try masturbating? Orgasms are amazing ;)

[Asker]

Gosh I don't know if I can do masturbating. I just don't want to have the thought "I'm trying to f**k myself" ha ha. I would really like to experience an orgasm, but I think I need a boyfriend first. Thank-you for your help, greatly appreciated and knowledgeable, definitely some things to consider :)

[Opinion Owner]

Your welcome :) and it's okay masturbating is simply a learning thing and can be a good release. Don't think of it that your trying to F yourself LOL Get into the zone and relax and make sure you won't get interrupted. Just try rubbing your clit a few ways and see what feels best for you. Take your time and you might just get an orgasm. They feel amazing. Then you will know what feels best for you next time your with a guy. And you can tell him how he can get you off. Your missing out! Try it

[Anonymous]

I don't so much like fingering a girl (not that don't like it), but what I really like is being able to sexually satisfy a girl. If fingering can help get the job done, I'm all there. What I like the best when fingering is once she climaxes, she stopss, looks into my eyes, and then kisses me deeply.