Ok, so big breasts are better. Got it.

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I've been reading answers here on GirlsAskGuys. Answers to girls asking about breast size. And while men get all "small breasts are so beautiful!" when an insecure small chested girl is asking, the moment big breasts are put into question, then "small breasts are not attractive!". Why do I believe the latter most? Well, obviously just look around and SEE how many big breasts are placed in ads, Playboy, Maxim (or whatever crap) and of course porn, strip clubs, prime time, etc.Got it. Bigger IS better. Stop lying guys. I know a couple of you prefer small breasts. But the vast majority (as a lot of you have said) prefer and give "preferential treatment" to women with large bosoms. And it is noticeable in real life. Yes, I'm bitter, and hurt and frustrated, because sure I may have other appealing qualities, but what gives? the moment a woman with the same great qualities walks by with her huge cleavage then I'm just not going to be as sexy. Plus, it's so stupid, sometimes people will say "well, maybe you don't have great breasts, but you have beautiful hands". yeah, because HANDS are sexual! I'd like to feel sexy, to feel like someone capable of making men lust after me. One fundamental truth about women is that we all want to feel beautiful and desired. Not "cute". People always refer to small bosoms as "cute". WTF? I'm not 11 years old, I don't want to be "cute". How I hate that bigger is better. That even implants are better. Men go gaga over them. I'd never have implants though. Why does there have to be a "best" size? Why can't all breasts be good just because they're breasts, why can't they all be head turners? Why do I have to be so ugly? Don't lie guys, you all look if a woman with huge cleavage walks by and lose your mind for a second, but if a modest sized woman walks past you wearing cleavage, she doesn't quite make the same impression.Sorry for the rant, I just hate my tiny breasts! I wish I had D cups. I want to feel sexually attractive.

ilovelegs · Accepted Answer

I just had to answer this one too because it's such a damn good question and makes me glad I'm not a woman. I had to laugh when I read it, not because it was funny, but because it makes so much sense. Okay, here's my take. Do big breast look sexy? Of course they do if the girl is attractive to go along with her melons and her waist and butt are proportional. But I've heard many a "nice" girl say they hate their big boobs because no matter how they dress guys think they're showing off and being all sexy and flaunting their figures and that they're easy prey. When I see an attractive girl with size 36 or 38 D's I don't wish she was my girlfriend or that I could fondle them or whatever. On the contrary, I'm glad I have a girlfriend with size 34C and if she was 32 D or C that'd be just fine. Of course I look at the girls passing by or in the room with those huge jugs but not with a "Man I'd sure like to f**k you babe!" kinda look of mentality. I pity her if guys are gawking at her all the time. So I'm quite satisfied with the average size breast and they only need to show enough that proves beyond a doubt that she does indeed have boobs. I realize that girls are under so much pressure to look as good as the next girls and I can see where it hurts their egos when their breast are smaller than the average. Let me finish by saying this. The guys that you attract because you are who you are with the smaller than average breast will love you so much more than the guys that you would attract because you have larger ones. Love, romance, trust, respect, fun, commitment, etc., are the things that make for the wonderful and fantastic relationships that you seldom find and elude most girls for the very reason that too much attention by guys is centered on the sexual features of a girl and the sexual attraction that they believe will lead to the sexual satisfaction in a relationship with her which has very little to do with love, romance, trust, respect, etc. Any wonder relationship get in trouble early on. Just dress in a way that makes you feel beautiful and hot with what you have, and believe that you look as sexually attractive as any of the girls with those size 36D's, and you WILL!

A guy can tell when a girl "THINKS" she looks sexy because then she" IS". I know I can! I see it almost everyday. It's amazing how when a girl "thinks" it suddenly becomes reality in the context of what we're talking about here. You start loving what you have and you'll be as sexy as you need to me. :-)

wiseman1 · Accepted Answer

PLEASE, PLEASE, READ THIS!

On the issue of big breasts. Let me tell you, as a fact, most all men desire "FULL" breasts. Their is a difference between full and just big. Big breast catch our eyes because they are big. Don't big things catch your eye? Full breast, however, are breasts that fit the body. Advertisers use big breasted women because it catches your attention, this is not to say that they are preferred. (No, I'm not lying).

The reality of the whole thing is that there is so so so much more that goes into human attraction. And it doesn't start with breasts. Objectively speaking, there is so much more for a guy to look at. eyes, hips, lips, neck, butt, legs, nose, mouth ext... But that's only the half of it! What is even more important is the sole. What kind of woman are you? What are your dreams and hopes? What's your personality like. These are the things that get men "hooked" the body is fleeting.

Feeling sexy is more than just filling your bra, it's having the confidence to know who you are and what you want! THAT is sexy. All men can attest to seeing big knockers on a dumb broad. Big boobs don't help their case in any way.

Your issue is not your breasts, it's not being okay with the way you are, not being happy for who you were made to be. This is what is unattractive. Know yourself! Believe in yourself!

Good Luck ~

lotus-blossom-08 · Accepted Answer

I have small breasts (34A) and I used to be very self conscious about them. The first time a guy got me topless I was pretending to be all cool about it but in reality, I was freaking. I even dropped a subtle comment about how I was glad that he didn't appear to be bothered by my small breast size and he said that they were well proportioned to my body (I'm small and skinny).

These other guyfriends of mine were talking about boobs (forgetting that I was in the room...again) and mentioned how the little "Catholic School-Girl fantasy" is a little more convincing on a girl with small breasts (which is when they apologised for excluding me from the conversation which is when I begged them to leave me and mine out of it...eesh).

Personally, I like the freedom I have to wear tops with plunging neck lines so I can flaunt my neck and predominant neck line (both of which I'm very proud of) and not have to worry about this screaming "look at me" cleavage. I heard that girls with big breasts have back problems later on in life and I couldn't imagine having to put up with constantly reminding someone that "my eyes are up here".

My only complaint is that I find that 34A is a hard bra size to shop for...but that's about it.

Don't worry about small breasts because there are so many fun ways we can be creative with them and honestly, do you want to deal with the added stress of wondering if a guy likes you for YOU or for your big boobs?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I have natural big breast. Trust me, they are not a cracked up to be as you would think. I never get attention from men, so it really isn't the most important thing like the media makes it seem. Remember, the media is geared towards women. For example, those magazines have basically anexoric models with no curves. Men do not actually like these women. Women are being told the wrong messages. Women don't understand men. They really are not as shallow as we assume them to be. They like having sex with a women with big t*ts, but marry one, that is different.

Here is the truth about men. They do like bigger breast, but they are not expecting it or would refuse to date a women just because she is a little smaller. It is just like this with women & d***s. Women say they like big d***s, but no women is going to base their decision on whether or not to be with a man based on his d*** size. Men are the same, they like big boobs, but as women really don't care in the end about d*** size, neither do men care about breast size. And just for the record, those magazines that have women with implants, you should know those women have hard breast. Men like to look at them, but do not have as much fun touching them. Men want a woman to be soft, not silione. Hope this helps you. Remember, the most attractive thing to a man is confidence. If you think your hot, they'll think your hot.

Jellyfish · Accepted Answer

I think it's most important to wear your breast confidently. I think above all, a guy doesn't want to hear a girl complain about her breasts and have a low self image. And of course magazines for men are going to be sporting the grapefruits on an ironing board look, just as I have never seen a man in a magazine that didn't have huge pecs and a six pack. It gets your attention, makes you feel bad, and then you go buy stuff to make you feel better. Don't ever pick a magazine up again, it is made to make you feel bad so they can make money off of you.

The real question is, how can you feel more sexually attractive. First, is throw away the magazines. Next, look at your breasts and discover all the attractive aspects such as the lift or the symmetry, the color, or a birth mark. Get on the Internet and look at breasts on breast augmentation sites (before pics), or amateur pictures. You will see some weird looking boobs, and grow to appreciate your own. Pamper your breasts and go buy pretty bras. Touch your breasts and learn to love them, and you will begin to feel sexually attractive. I've always had small breasts, and once thought they should be big for me to be sexy, but as I got older I realize that always being confident and wearing my breasts proud was what made me feel and exude sexiness.

Also, we don't suffer from back aches!

jadedcynic · Accepted Answer

just because you have a cleavage doesn't automatically make you sexy, its about your attitude. I do have natural DD's that seem to be the "target size" for a lot of girls, but with great power becomes great responsibility. well more of a with a great rack comes great inconvenience. Some of these guys that you seem to be after can't get past the whole "oooooh 2 big playthings" mentality which I'm sure freud would have a lot to say about, the question is, do you REALLY want someone that shallow? do you have the money, bigger bra's cost money, especially the nicer ones £20 or $30 each, they get in the way physically not only when you're trying to have a conversation and his eyes are 6inches south of your face. you can get so many (non surgical) things to make your breasts look bigger, push up bras, inflatable/gel filled etc etc. also I've found that there are so many clothes that I can't wear because of them, if they fit round my boobs then it hangs off the rest of me in a really unattractive way or make me look enormous (tent like action).

FYI hands can be sexy.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i found what you said very interesting, because I have big breasts and I find myself wishing that I had smaller ones. yeah, it's great sometimes (especially when dressing up) to have big breasts, but it's REALLY annoying to have guys constantly staring at your chest instead of making eye contact! it's true that guys are attracted to me more than they are to my smaller chested friends, but sometimes it's only because of my physical appearance. I don't even dress in a revealing way, either. at least a guy that looks at a girl with a smaller chest isn't instantly thinking of the nasty things he'd like to do to her! and big boobs are freak magnets, too! I get creepy older men in grocery stores trying to start conversations with me, and men old enough to be my father honking at me while driving past! bigger is better? not always. big boobs just means that you get to see how big of pigs guys are.

p.s. if you really want bigger breasts, victoria's secret has some amazing push up bras! ;D

lost-angel · Answer

I love this question, and all the answers to it.

I have really small breasts too, so I know how you feel.

I've finally learned to accept it though, and now I just joke about it.

I did notice, girls with small breasts have a nice ass, or long legs. Now those things you can't get by surgery. No wait, I think they have butt implants now. lol. sigh. I can never keep up with this culture.

Ok on a serious note, if you want to look sexy (even in bed) you have to FEEL sexy. Wear something that makes you feel sexy. And you really have THINK/FEEL that you are, or it won't work.

Trust me, I never thought I could ever attract anyone, but now I turn heads wherever I go.

My boyfriend canNOT resist, and he seriously gets weak to his knees in bed. And, my boobs are still small! smaller than before I think.

Im telling you, it's all in the head.

TimeAndTimeAgain · Answer

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paintballguy · Answer

I don't want a flat chested girl, but I don't like big boobs. To me really big boobs are a turn off...yes I know I said turn off. My preference is B or C cups. I also don't like the huge nipples either.

chopper1977 · Answer

I hear ya!!! The men liking the smaller breasts are like the outliers. Sure there are some that prefer; however, it seems like it's a fetish... kinda like someone preferring feet, pixie cuts on women, tattoo sleeves etc. What pisses me off, is like men like my husband, goes on and on when my boobs were swelled up before/during/after pregnancy, sexy, sexy, and not that they are back to normal my breasts get ZERO attention. Furthermore, oh, he says, I don't want to be with a woman with breast implants, they are self-centered etc. etc. etc., okay? well then why are you staring and probably getting off on women showcasing their fake tits? Hypocritical right? I don't want you getting breasts implants but I sure as hell want to oogle them more than I oogle yours. I'm sorry, but I hear ya, feel ya, and I am pissed with ya.

mattSmart · Answer

Why isn't this a poll? That would prove your point correct or incorrect. Also Any kinda breast is good. Big breasts sometimes make a person look fat, so bigger does not necessarily mean better. It is the same as the guys paranoia about penis size. It doesn't matter, as long as you have them.

Also to the feel sexy speal, guys will go after girls they feel they have higher chances scoring/getting. Big chested women showing off cleavage seems to imply she is easier (since she is showing off sex stuff). My point is this: Show off sexually. To put it bluntly, men get excited over girls because they think they have a chance or it is easy. Girls are complicated. So dress more revealingly, be more assertive. If you wanna be sexy you gotta STAND OUT sexually (maybe be more handsy or something not typical of a goody goody girl). For the love of god, don't get a boob job.

nonyabiz2002 · Answer

Do you know how sad your update sounds?

You're seeing what you want to see. Out of the 18 answers I looked at, here is the breakdown as far as I can see them:

0- They are an absolute must. Girls are not attractive if they don't have large breasts.

13- They are nice, but either unnecessary to be sexy or only to look at, not touch.

3- Idiotic or not serious answers (like the "eat chicken" deal, I mean come on!).

2- Other Answers.

Notice the top number. YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE LARGE BOOBS TO BE SEXY!

Stop and think about it for a second- you're quitting. You've given up on trying to be sexy. For what? Why, so you can teach us big bad men that big boobs ARE attractive? You're gonna give up what it means for you to be a woman, to feel needed, and to feel SEXY like you are, all for what?

Sexy is a state of mind. It's how you carry yourself, it's how you present yourself, and it's what you think of yourself. Not the size of some stupid fat bags. Yes they do turn heads, but not as much as a girl that knows how to shake her money maker!

You want to be lusted after? Show up naked in front of a guy. I guarantee that, unless he's gay, he WILL want you. He would look at you naked even if a fully clothed large breasted woman walked by.

What makes men attractive? CONFIDENCE! That's right, confidence. The guy could be old or as butt-ugly as a rhino and STILL attract beautiful women. Look no further than Hugh Hefner or Ron Jeremy.

The choice is yours. You can either be defeated and give up/deny yourself of what you want and need, or you can accept yourself for who you are and achieve what you're looking for- men to lust after you on a constant basis.

If you want guys to lust after you, posting a few provocative pictures would be nice (some would digress to the Anonymous User that's 30-35's comments about self-gratification). ;-P

nonyabiz2002 · Answer

Alot of guys will start feeling sorry for girls that have small breasts when they don't care about:

1. The endowment of men

2. The height of men (like Danny Divito)

3. The muscle mass of men (like Arnold S.)

4. The facial attributes of men (like Fabio)

5. The way men dress

6. The car men drive

7. The money men have

I could go on forever. The point is that most girls are just as shallow if not moreso than most men out there. I'm sure you've discounted several guys based upon their lack of attractiveness. It's a fact of life.

BTW, personally I like smaller breasts to larger ones, not just because of their attractiveness, but often they are attached to girls that are lower maintenance, funner to be around, and more beautiful outside AND inside.

Women with big boobs for the most part treat others like crap and are truly ugly people.

You don't like being "cute"? Let me clue you in on a bit of a secret- guys have one night stands with "hot" women. Guys love and marry *cute* women. Which one would you rather have?

No doubt you are beautiful, and a highly-sought after commodity. Why else would somebody call you "cute"? ;-)

"Why do I have to be so ugly?"

Did you read what you typed? Do you actually believe this?

I haven't seen a picture, but I can say that 99.999999% chance that you aren't ugly. I'm sure you're a beautiful and nice person that's just frustrated with your situation (trust me, you're not the only one here, lol). But don't get discouraged or be so hard on yourself. You're worth so much more than saying negative things to yourself like "I'm ugly" or unworthy, because you're not ugly, and you are worthy of what you want in life.

If you need someone to talk to, post back or PM.

wrali · Answer

Bollocks. I can only speak for myself, but I prefer small breasts. That is, all other things being equal, I would go for a B-cup or smaller before a C or larger. I know for a fact that I'm not alone.

Seriously, you gotta be more confident than this. Play with what you got; wishing for something you don't have is a waste of life. Besides, you can get away with going bra-less without sagging -- now that's sexy. Ignore the dopy boyz drooling over the busty girls and focus on the boys with more pride and discernment.

Also on the up side, you might now have a little sympathy for men with small penises ;)

SLL2019 · Answer

Actually statistics show and are proven acurate that men would choose butts over breasts. If they were small breasted but had nice butts they would be completely satisfied... and if they had large breasts and no ass a lot of men wouldn't be with them... butts are the new breasts if you want to put it that way. Yes some men like big breasted women but many complain they get in the way during sex and other sexual activities. I hope this made you feel a little better.

Cool-Relax · Answer

There is no "perfect size." You're insecure because you don't feel sexy enough, I'm insecure because guys just see my boobs. I'm very big on personality, and it's really frustrating--degrading, even--to have a guy focus on the physical things I have no control over. The perfect size would be adjustable so we could decide when we want to look hot and when we want to be taken seriously.

I understand your argument, men can be pigs, but there are positives and negatives to both sides.

a-nn-a · Answer

I have and had pretty small boobs all through junior high up till now.  You have to learn to accept that nobody is prefect and you always want what you can't have.  Woman with smaller breasts wished they had bigger ones and woman with bigger breasts wished they had smaller ones due to back problems.  Feeling sexy is a state of mind and learning to accept yourself and not being afraid to show it off.  It has very little to do with what cup size you are.  Keira knightley for example has no boobs at all but she is extremely hot and tons of guys think she's sexy.

Kymroi · Answer

Guys all think bigger is better

But then when the girl is like 60

and they start drooping to the floor

Its like OMG, why did I think that!

Thats why I don't care

In fact, looks don't matter to me at all

I only care about personalities

freeview · Answer

I've gone out with women with all size of breast and for me it's not the size, but the shape of the breasts that is most attractive and sexual.

My current girlfriend is an A-cup and she has the sexiest pair I have ever seen that go marvelously with the rest of her body. She is one of the sexiest women I have ever seen!

That said, I find her confidence about her body far more sexual, sensual and attractive. In fact, this is THE most important thing to me with a woman (they love their bodies, themselves and find themselves sexy and beautiful).

BTW - delighted to hear that you'd never think of getting implants. They're horrible :-(

ALWAYSclassy · Answer

You don't need large boobs to be sexy.  Plenty of men would take a small breasted athletic girl over a large boobed chubby one.  I'm sure you have other body parts that can rival any rack.  Some guys are butt men, leg men, stomach men, etc.

alsuzzaa · Answer

I think that when you're younger it's like that, but when you're older they would rather medium boobs...like seriously I wouldn't want big breasts!

blue-kev · Answer

actualy they are now saying that the chemicals in chicken are causing girls breasts to be bigger then ever. if you eat a lot of chicken your tits are gona get bigger and bigger. just google it.

blue-kev · Answer

But remember a lot of girls with big breasts feel ignored by us guys. Cause while we are salivating over her breasts we are missing her eyes, smile and personality. Then they feel used. That isn't fair either.

ITISJUSTME · Answer

You are just not confident. Men like confidence and boobs or no boobs the confidence shines past all that crap. Its just easier for girls with big boobs to act confident because they feel that they all ready have it all, which in most cases they don't.

Kayaking · Answer

Sorry to disrupt your story but, I promise, you are completely as lovable, sexy, hot, worth looking at as your bigger-chested sisters. We may "notice" big ones, or even ogle them, but, for a guy, it's who is behind them that really counts. I've had big and small attached to amazingly beautiful women, and everything in between, and I absolutely, promise you that the most beautiful girl in the world was always the one I was with . big or small or medium.

needaglassawata · Answer

i have small boobs and guys love me, it's about overall hotness.

Ok, so big breasts are better. Got it.

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