I think my wife and me are not sexually compatible. Help please!

[Anonymous]

Me and my wife have been together for coming up on eight years; however, we waited until we got married to have sex or do anything sexual. I love her to death. Well on our wedding night we had sex; however, it was very painful for her. I took it as slow as humanly possible and kept asking her if she wanted to stop, but she kept saying do not stop. Well this has defined our sexual relationship. We have tried everything, more foreplay etc. I started to read online about how different girls have different size vagina just like guys have different size penises. The article also talked about how in some cases if a girl has a small vagina and a man has a big penis. Well I am fearful that this may be the case with me and my wife. She is five foot one inches and about 90 pounds. I on the other hand am six foot two inches tall and weigh 215 pounds. As far as if you looked at us I am a big massive guy and my wife is a small petite women. Also I remember when I took showers after football practice in high school some of the other guys would make comments about did a get bit by a radioactive spider because how could I have a penis that large. Also I have never been able to get farther than half way in. So I was wondering if any girls know of a way to make sex enjoyable for my wife or will we have horrible sex for the rest of our lives?

[Amillia1981]

I think that your wife isn't relaxed and if she is holding her pelvic muscles and her vagina can't stretch and she won't be comfortable. The best lube is the natural kind so the more four play you do with her, the more easier it will be for you to have sex with her. You should use your fingers to stretch her out. Start with one and then go from there. If a women can have a child then I'm sure she can handle your penis. I think what you read online was not about the width of a vagina but the length. A women can stretch from side to side but she won't ever grow as far as length. If that's the case then you just can't go all the way in or you will hit her cervix. She will get more loose over time and it will be a lot easier for you to have sex with her. The pain will be a lot less to for her too. Just try different things and find out what turns her on the most. Every girl is different so certain things may turn her on more then others. She may or may not like oral and that's something you can try on her. In the mean time you should get KY his and hers lubricants. I have never tried it but my friend had the same problem with her husband and that saved their marriage. I assure you that after time and patience that you and your wife will be able to enjoy your sex life.

[verdandi]

The wonderful thing about the vagina is that it's built to stretch to accommodate anything from a finger or two to a child. No matter who a woman is sleeping with, her vagina is able to stretch to the appropriate size to fit the man's penis.

If she's having some discomfort, it's likely because she's nervous and not aroused enough. Work on foreplay to get her vagina to "open up" (when women are very aroused, the vagina expands a lot) and for her natural lubricant to come out. Communication is key - talk to her, ask her what she likes, etc. You will also want to have a nice lube on hand and use plenty of it.

There is no guarantee you will have horrible sex for the rest of your lives. It's a pretty grim outlook, as sex is a huge part of a relationship. I go back to my comment about communication. Talk to her, be willing to experiment, read some sex blogs (together!). Do not rule out a successful sex life until you've tried a TON of stuff. You can even go to a sex counselor who will help you out in this aspect.

My end-game advice? Don't give up.

[goflipaburger]

Hey, it was the first time. no need to panic :P

I think she needs to stretch out a little so you should probably finger her for a while. Try using lots of lube when you're ready to try again. Maybe next time, instead of trying to go all the way in, just do the first one or two inches of you at first. I know it sounds awfully miserable, but she just needs time to adjust.

[Anonymous]

I know the vagina can stretch and adjust in time

so just keep at it and she can get more used to you

in the meantime find a position that works the easiest, more lube

and get each other off in other ways so both of you don't feel unsatisfied

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

there are other ways you can please her like with a toy ... that's all I can think of for now

[05Jueey]

I really feel for you two.. I think it will be okay though

[7gnat]

please each other orally until you both "fit" each other. the vagina will adjust in time to your massive member

[Anonymous]

Not all vaginas are the same. Everyone keeps saying its built to stretch to fit a baby but a lot of women actually aren't and their vaginas end up ripping pretty badly. Every woman is different and unique.

[Anonymous]

Try lube... And more foreplay... Also, it may help if you finger her some beforehand... and be slower and probe slightly less. ... I'm not sure if this will work... If this doesn't I don't know what else to tell you... Hope it all works out welll