Molested while drunk, advice?

[mccollins]

It's my first week in college and I went to a frat party last night. Guys kept giving me drinks and I didn't really know my limit. I had a friend with me who was trying to look after me but I was blackout drunk. He laid me down on the couch and said he would be right back. When he left this guy from the frat came over and started kissing my neck and back and rubbing me between my legs and sticking his hand up my shirt. I said no and tried to pull away but I was too drunk to even stand. My friend came back and pulled him off and told him to get lost and then punched the guy... I feel like it's my fault that it happened. I was the one who decided to get that drunk in public. Does anyone have similar experiences?

[Anonymous]

just don't blame yourself girl, that will ruin you, see it as a dumb mistake and move on, at least you weren't badly hurt or anything. Take it as a lesson, that's all you can do...

I was taken advantage of as well... I was at a party and I had a few beers and was high off weed, when a friend texted me (about 3am) to come hang out with her and some guys, I was really tired, but she was persistent in me joining them, I met these guys once before and thought I trusted them... they picked me up from the party and we went to a park, where we hung out for a while and then the guys wanted to show us a "secret spot" deep into the park, which was pitch black, and we had to jump a chain link fence to get there. I honestly can't remember how things lead up, but they did of course and I was laying on a picnic table having sex with the one guy and my friend on the next table with the other guy, no condom.. I couldn't push him off me I was so tired. I can't even remember how I got home... Don't get drunk kids... :/

[Amillia1981]

Its not your fault and this happens to a lot of girls in college except it goes a lot further then that usually. If it wasn't for your friend, he would have raped you. I know you think that its fun to drink and let loose but you need to be very careful because next time it might be worse. That guy could have overpowered your friend and it would have been a horrible situation. If you want to drink then that's fine but know your limits. You should never drink to the point where you black out no matter where you are. Its unhealthy and a lot of kids die from alcohol poisoning. Rape is the worst thing and you don't want to go through that so just be careful in the future. Legally there isn't much you can do but at least the guy got punched and will be too scared to do something like that again.

[selfishstars]

No, it's not your fault. He took advantage of you when you were intoxicated; what he did was wrong and there's no excuse for that kind of behavior .

That said, learn from this experience. Be aware of your limits, or choose not to drink, because unfortunately, there are people in the world like that guy and you were lucky that your friend came back when he did.

[SunSeeker]

It's not technically you're fault since you obviously did not molest yourself, but you definitely could have been far more preventative. The good news is your friend was there, and now hopefully you are more cautious and are more aware of your limits.

[thatkidfromcanadia]

well, a girl who looks at you, I'd say it would be pretty hard to resist ;)

but yeah just don't get so drunk to the point where you can be taken advantage of.

[goflipaburger]

I don't think its your fault. Even if you did get ridiculously drunk, you didn't give him permission to lay a finger on you.

just because you're drunk doesn't mean the world gets free grabs. Thank goodness your friend was there.

[mobiusforniner]

Simple solution- don't get drunk... don't give bad guys the opportunity to take advantage of you.

[Anonymous]

Get a lawyer

[ZenQueen]

yea right..