Why is my older man avoiding sex?

[Anonymous]

I am a 26 year old woman who is in the middle of ending a 7 year relationship. My partner and I have been struggling for 2 years but he and I just aren't working anymore. We both know it's over... Around 3 months ago, a 43 year old co-worker and I started harmlessly flirting at work. He was casually dating a woman he wasn't really interested in but nothing serious. About a month ago, he kissed me and everything went nuts from there. It was like this crazy sexual energy had finally been acknowledged and everything started happening so fast. We started meeting before work for coffee and JUST to talk. We'd meet after work to make out somewhere. We both have the same day off so we would meet and do everythig but have sex. So there is my question. This guy has never been married, no kids. Typical bachelor. He is stable with a good career. He said he's just never found the right girl but he'd like to settle down soon. He told me he loves me, he has said multiple times that he'd like to marry me one day. I know he isn't just saying these things for sex because he won't have it with me! We'll both get almost naked and he'll start to initiate intercourse and then Completely stop. It isn't ED either. He always says that he doesn't want me to get hurt or that he doesn't just want me to be a casual f*ck, that I mean more than that so he is taking his time. Should I accept that or does it sound fishy to you too? He is the sweetest man, very attractive with an amazing body. He has his head on straight about everything. Says I inspired him to quit drinking casually. The other day he said, "you've got me and you don't even know it." So, thoughts?

[xperience]

hum... interesting...

honestly he is older and a lot more mature. he obviously is looking for a girl for long term

if he had made those initiation and stopped with respect then he is a good guy

honestly its an excuse for men that age to never have been married

he obviously has some sort of relationship issues... he has yet to show you what it is

that means he doesn't trust you or is not comfortable enough to a point of sharing it with u

its obviously infatuation for the time being. he is extremely lucky to score such a young girl

so obviously he playing it slow and fast at the same time. it could be love at first sight

who knows. all you can do is play along and be real. its really hard to tell.

just keep your guard up and expect the worse. don't expect for it happen immediately

[MrOracle]

It seems to me like he's waiting for you to decide if you want a committed relationship with him. He obviously wants that with you, but it doesn't sound like you've given him any clear indication that you're up for that. And he knows that you've come off of a long relationship, and doesn't know if you're ready for that.

You need to figure out how YOU feel and where YOU are, and then go talk to him, and see if you are compatible.

[MrOracle]

He doesn't want to rush you in, only to be your rebound man and be left disappointed and alone. You two need to talk this out and make sure you both feel the same way.

[vidovido]

despite the other guy I don't think he looks for marriage or a really long term relation ... I guess he's one of those guys who never know if they want to settle down or not ... obviously he doesn't know what he wants himself ... so if I would wait and slow down a bit till first you reach to the end of the ending your 7 years relationship and then to see how things will go ... but well you asked for thoughts ... I wouldn't trust to a 43 old man who still doesn't know what he wants in his life and wouldn't put my life into another several years challenge without a bright ending ...

[kheserthorpe]

He sounds legit. You never know, but he sounds like he means it.

[Habakkuk]

sounds like he wants to respect you by not rushing into having sex with you