A loving and caring partner wouldn't mind at all, since there are other ways to enjoy each other.
Do you like foreplay? A good session of foreplay without penetration in the end is great too. So the both of you can have agreat time with each other without doing something with your vagina. And if you want to, you can give him a happy end with your hands or your mouth. But remember you don't have to do something you don't want to. A loving and caring partner will respect that.
There are also guys out there who don't "need" sex at all. A friend of mine has his girl friend for one year now and they never had sex, because she is to shy to initiate it and he doesn't really long for it, so they just live without it. (I feel a bit sad for the girl though)
And there are definitely more guys out there, who would be happy to have a nice girl friend, since love is about so much more than just sex.
But remember, if you enjoy foreplay you will make him happy with that. Everything else is a bonus, but not necessary.
But the most impotant thing is, a man will never enjoy any type of sexual activity a woman, that doesn't give her pleasure, because that is what we really love. Trust me.
I just wouldn't have sex if you wanted to do that. Not all guys care about having it. I sure as hell don't. Also the fact that he knows you don't want it will just make it a terrible time and not worth it.
it won't be a terrible time if it's numb & I can't feel it.
So what are you gonna do fake that you like? Fake moaning and an orgasm? I'm sure he'd know the cream is there. It would be terrible and is better to just not do it.
I wouldn't want to unless you enjoy it. So oral and hands only would work for me.
never put anything on your vagina that isn't meant to be there! it can increase bacteria and may cause more problems then you already have. The best bet would go and see a doctor. I know you may not want to spend thousands of dollars on plastic surgery but given how you feel about your situation that may be the best choice. another option would be to go to a sex theripist for sex therapy and see if they may be able to help in making sex less painful. when you g in with a mindset oh I'm ruined nothing I can do then your never going t be willingg to be open and maybe try something to get rid of or stop the pain. you have to be open and willing and yes, it may hurt but if you have a goal in mind and yours seems like it is to have comfortable sex then always keep that in mind and you will be able to work and really try to achive that goal.
well I would get a cream that is safe for that area. I don't care if I never have pleasurabe sex. It's not important to me. I just want to be loved & that's not going to happen if guys know my vagina is out of order. I wouldn't mind letting him use my vagina for his pleasue if it didn't hurt me.
if you think the only way to get a guy is by letting them have sex with you when its not going to be enjoyable for a both of then personally I think you are finding all te wrong guys. trust me not all guys want just sex and there are guys out who can and would be OK with never having vaginal intercourse. I read that you don't mind foreplay and oral and if reciprocate and do those things with yur partner then you can both be satisified and be happy. also you can be loved even if you never have sex
if you think allowing to use you basically and sorry for being harsh but as a sex toy means your being loved then I'm sorry to say your wrong. if the guy truly loved you then he would respect your decision to not have sex and support you and go along ith your decision. never settle for less and if he dumps because you won't have sex then he isn't worth it. go and find a guy who loves all of you and accepts everything about yu. yes it may take time and yes there maybe a lot of hard times but in the
I think if you don't like sex because its painful you should probably go see a doctor to find out why. That would probably be the biggest turn off for him. He doesn't just want to have sex with you if you aren't in it, it could be not very fun and completely meaningless. Not to mention if you put numbing cream on the outside you are still going to be able to feel the whole inside part of sex. Good luck to everything, but I would suggest giving it some time. Talk to a doctor if you feel you should. And talk to your guy and tell him how your feeling (dont have to mention the numbing cream tho).
I know why it's painful & there isn't much I can do to fix it. So I either stay single for the rest of my life, put up with pain, or find some way to numb the area.
so is it just painful on the outside?
just at the opening. I burnt it.
that doesn't sound like a good idea...more so for the fact that the guy may not enjoy having sex with you, since he would be able to see your not enjoying it, also because you simply don't enjoy it. I can see it probably causing some type of tension within the relationship.
Do you mind me asking the reason why you don't enjoy it?
because my vagina is ruined.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I don't think many guys would do that. I know I wouldn't if my man didn't like sex.
Find out why you don't like sex and work on it
also of course the numbing cream works two ways, if you put in your vagina there will be some on his penis sooner or later too, and that's not the point
he could wear a condom so it won't get on his penis.
right, still I hope not many men are up to this
I think maybe you should try find out why you don't like it.For example your first few times will be uncomfortable but it soon gets better.Maybe there is an underlying condition that is making sex painful?Or could it be that you don't trust this guy really and aren't relaxed enough with him?
I know why it's painful & can't fix it.
I wouldn't want to have sex than, I wouldn't want sex for only my pleasure I would be prepared to work with her to get it to feel good
you won't get it to feel good
part of the pleasure in my opinion would be making her feel good too, it would be awful and I would feel horrible having it and knowing she didn't like it
I would put up with it... it's better then being lonely my entire life. I know if I don't give men the access to my vagina he will just find someone else. I already asked that question & guys said they wouldn't stay if they couldn't have intercourse.
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Men should be using Novocain infused creams, since we can't last that long...
thats not answering my question... it's not to last longer. I don't want to feel it at all!
Then what's the point of having sex, he can get a sculpted azz that vibrates for about $100.
Because guys want it & will dump me if they know they can never use my vagina
no, no, no...
of course it will not be a problem.
because I can be harder and harder. and maybe I can use bigger penis for it.
in any case I have many versions for each situation...
so it wouldn't bother you at all? and you'd be happy as long as you can use her vagina?
to be orgazmed and to make her orgazm it is not necessary to use vagina my girl... and yes, I wouldn't be bothered...
i owuld be bothered if my bforgf wanted tht
even to numb pain?
if it bothers them tht much id ask them to go see a doc about it
doctors can't fix everything
i would wonder what I'm doing wrong if being numb is the best feeling you can get!
It's to stop the pain
well if I was a decent guy I would want to go get your body checked out with a doctor and maybe we could figure out how we "both" could enjoy ourselves.but that's just me
It's because I burnt my vagina. I don't care about getting sexual pleasure.
topical agents won't fully numb you... you'd need lanocaine if you didn't want to feel anything. and it would have to be injected.
thats what I want then
ok but I believe it is the same nerve attached to the sphincter and the urethra... you may not know if you're evacuating bowels or bladder...
i think you're ridiculous. are you a virgin/
no. how would I have badly burnt my vagina from treating genital warts (std) if I was a virgin?
It sound like you are not getting wet in side your vagina and that y it hurts you win your are having sex you need to go see your doctor to see y this..
no its because I burnt it & have scar tissue
o,k then you need to see a doctor and they can fix that so that you can will be able to have sex with out it hurting you
Scar tissue doesn't heal
I'd be okay with it if that is what she wanted, but I'd be concerned that I wasn't able to share any sexual pleasure with her. She's not just a meat sack after all.
scar tissue is a different issue, you can't help it, you could still enjoy sex, can you feel inside? also, the whole idea of a man trying to please you, everything else, you could enjoy that
Ive never enjoyed sex & don't really want to. I only do it so I don't have to be lonely because I know guys want it (need in their opinion)
Maybe you're asexual?
no this bad experice with sex had put me off it for life. I had sex once, got genital warts & now my vagina is ruined.
if you didn't tell him it'd be fine.. otherwise I'm sure he'd be extremely upset by it
why would he be so upset? I thought he'd be happy as long as he gets to feel pleasure. Guys always want pleasure & don't care if the girl gets it or not. Otherwise they wouldn't ask for painful things like anal & gross things like swallowing semen. They just care how it feels for them.
but in the end they want the girl to feel pleasure, its to do with their ego, unless you get a psychopath, they're not going to rather a girl that doesn't feel pleasure. I think if you found a guy who loves you then he won't mind, but I'm sure he will try to make you enjoy it anyway, and you might end up enjoying it anyway
Sounds boring. If all I wanted was to get off, I'd just do it myself.
okay. Bet you wouldn't date a girl like me then?
I think if a man makes you want to get out some numbing cream...he's not the right guy for you. You shouldn't give up your body to his enjoyment if you don't think you'll enjoy it. It's your body...you pick and choose. And some men don't go into relationships just wanting sex. Those that only want sex might not be for you. Plus, if you use numbing cream...you might end up numbing his penis, ending his erection and ending the whole session anyway.
I won't numb his peins, you wipe the cream off once it's numb and he can wear a condom.
The vagina wasn't meant to be numbed!
my vagina is ruined so the only way to have sex withouth pain would be to numb it.
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