My boyfriend told me he had a threesome once and I am not sure how to deal with it

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend told me the other night that he had a threesome once before we met. It just sort of slipped out so it wasn't like he was trying to ask if I would have one with him. But I wish I didn't know because now I am feeling a little insecure about our sex life because he definitely has way more sexual experience than I and no matter how good the sex is between us, its never going to be as good as a threesome (because I just wouldn't do that with someone I am in a relationship with). Should I talk to him and tell him how I feel, or is this something I need to just get over on my own? Has anyone else been in this situation? How did you deal with it?

[Quantumus]

I don't understand why a threesome would ensure that he's had more pleasurable sex than you could give him. Physically, there is little to nothing that two people could do to him that you can't -- and emotionally, it is extremely unlikely that he was attached to both. I think you need to place a little less importance on the fact that he's had a bit more exotic sex than you have, because it is well within your power to blow him away!

If this is truly bothering you in spite of the preceding statements, then I think you should talk to him about it. He might empathize and give you a new perspective with which to interpret this news.

[MrOracle]

A threesome is like riding a roller coaster. It's a fun experience to have occasionally, but it isn't a "life-fulfilling" type of experience. Having great sex with a girl you're in love with and have a deep connection with can't be beat.

I've had threesomes, and they just don't compare to intense, "connected" sex with one girl.

[Anonymous]

i don't see how a threesome could ever be great because all I've ever heard from it are someone gets left out, someone ends up getting dumped, ect so its just not a good idea.

[sportychicky]

One thing is don't compare sexual pasts, nothing good ever comes from it.

[dudeman]

well if their past is unacceptable, then its good to look at it

[Countryman]

Yeah it is gonna be tough to deal with. but at least its out of the way now. you know it happened. it would be a whole different story if he had waited several months to tell you.

[dudeman]

you don't have to stay with him, it shouldn't be hard to love somebody

[Asker]

That's not that at all, I am just feeling a little insecure because he has so much more sexual experience and I feel like I just can't compare to a threesome

[dudeman]

then that's something you have to deal with

[Anonymous]

In my experience having group sex when you are a couple is just like having human toys... the other people don't reallly mean anything they just add to the experience.