Why does he want me to watch him have sex with another woman?

[Funky]

my boyfriend has raised this a few times that he wants me to arrange another girl, as a sort of threesome. I said I'm just a one woman one man. No way! He then suggested that I can just be there and not take part. He wants me to arrange it, so its "approved" by me. I told him how can I bear you the guy I love having sex with another gurl, if I do arange it, she would want me to do it with her guy! iv told him this is excellent way to break up, to which he replied he can't lose me... Why does he want me to watch, to get a thril or just to have sex with someone, and give him the go ahead to have sex with other girls? This is bugging me now, how do I know if he is having sex with other girls, what I don't know won't harm me ... already the start of messing a relationship

[saphirasilverwings]

If you don't feel comfortable with it, don't do it. And it certainly isn't your responsibility to arrange it when you don't even want it to happen.

Everyone is different in what they like, and I guess this is something that turns him on. It's common for people- especially guys, I believe- to be interested in threesomes or sex with other people. There's nothing wrong with it. But that doesn't mean it's something YOU want or would even feel okay about, and he needs to understand that. If he can't accept it, maybe your sexualities aren't compatible.

I wouldn't want my boyfriend having sex with another girl, and I wouldn't be happy about it if he wanted to see me with another guy. It's not something I could compromise on, because it would be very upsetting to me. My advice is to think about what you would be willing to try, if anything, and what you don't think you'd feel comfortable with, and then tell him clearly and firmly. Then talk to him about fun things to try that you'd BOTH enjoy.

[Ghostwriter]

Tell him that, "It's a deal. But...we have to have a threesome first with another guy." (Is he racist or not like a certain color person...make sure its that one.) He might say OK, but I doubt he would actually go through with it. That's not an answer to your future relationship problems whether you do have a threesome or not, but you can't be accused of being boring or not open minded. This is a common method for guys to try to legally be with another woman so that its OK. You just have to give them a taste of their own medicine. Wow, I'm really breaking guy code here...

[AltTech]

Say no, if you aren't comfortable with it, then that's where it stops. If he really cares about you, he'll respect your feelings and not try and ram this idea down your throat.

To me, its a pretty cheap and airheaded way to cheat. By telling you to arrange it, somehow that makes it ok? Its almost like he's trying to determine your fantasies for you. Pathetic. Tell him the answer is just plain NO. If he has a problem with that, then break up with him, because you aren't important enough to him.

[Phoenix52]

He wants an ego boost. But he wants YOU to arrange it? Haha, what a lazy b*tch. Can't find another girl to just be 'friends' with, have you two meet up and get along well, then having this other girl come home with you both to engage in a 3-way?

Tell your boyfriend to do some work if he wants the 3-way. First, he needs to help convince you that he'll love you even after it, and second, find the 2nd girl himself.

It's not your job.

[G_GTom]

Yeah, I'm a one man, one woman type of guy. If a woman suggested to me that she start having sex with other guys, I'd be gone. It's better to cut your losses and find someone you're more compatible with.

[dudeman]

well have you had sex wtih other men in the past, if you have, I really don't see the big deal, why act like you are monogamous when you really are not

[Funky]

difference is, in a relationship its one person at a time!

[dudeman]

Yea but that is such an arbitray line just playing devils advocate because the only difference is how you feel not reality

[InnerLust]

doesn't make sense if you don't agree to it...just say no

[Anonymous]

I'd just kick him to the curb and find someone else. If you want to tease him, just say you want to watch him with another guy...