Ever seen a penis with a scar on it, ladies?

[Anonymous]

My best female friend and I are very open about everything with each other. Very open meaning sex, masturbation, nudity, fantasies, etc. Anyway, I was thinking about asking for her opinion about a circumcision scar on my penis that I'm self-conscious about. She's seen me nude several times, but I don't know if she ever paid enough attention to notice the scar in detail. If she hasn't, I think the situation could turn into me showing it to her for detailed examination, which I don't think either of us would really mind. The problem is that she's never seen me with an erection, and there is some sexual tension between us, so I'd worry that I might become erect from being the "center of attention" so to speak. So ladies, have you ever seen a penis with a scar on it? Did it put you off? Would you ever offer this sort of help to a male friend? And lastly, if I were to get hard while showing her, what should be done? Hide it and be embarrassed? Let my flag fly and apologize? Any and all thoughts are greatly appreciated.

[Coffinspire]

I have, my one ex had a scar from poison ivy. I didn't really care it's just there, nothing to be concerned about. I don't know if I would show her your d*** though, that's a little weird she's gonna thing you want to f*** her.

[Asker]

Well, since we're honest, she knows that I want to f*** her. That doesn't affect our friendship. And she just saw my d*** two weeks ago when we were skinny dipping together. Thanks for your input though, I'm really glad that I don't react to poison ivy.

[Coffinspire]

That sux that you're going to have to explain yourself every time but if you just explain what it is there shouldn't be any worries.

[southerngurl1124]

I don't think she would care if she saw it. I mean if you guys are just friends and you tell her you want to know what she thinks about it, I think she will be fine. I know if I was in her position I would.

[Asker]

Umm, sorry, your wording is kind of vague. Does "saw it" refer to just my penis, or my possible erection? I get the general point your making, but I'm just not sure of the details. Thanks for your thoughts though.

[southerngurl1124]

You said she has already seen your d***. The saw it would be the erection. All girls know that guys can get erections at any point.

[Asker]

Got it. Thanks for clarifying.

[MrOracle]

Lots of guys have circumcision scars of various sizes and shapes. It's not at all unusual. As long as it isn't an open wound or causing some kind of problem, no one is really going to worry about it.

[sunmonster]

I think a lot of peni have a scar on them. Don't be embarassed. You can't help it- and all that matters anyways is if you know how to work what you've got.

[Asker]

I appreciate the kind words. I know this, but I just can't get past it yet. It actually looks like a wart (doctor has verified that it's just a scar) so I'm always worried that it'll be viewed as an STD or something. Thanks though, I'll keep working on it.

[sunmonster]

Don't worry about it- a girl probably wouldn't even notice it! We are all our worst critics

[Asker]

I hear ya.

[kawa450]

Ask her about it before you show her. Like ask her over the phone or in person before you show her and express your concerns. I doubt that she will mind if you get hard though

[Asker]

Yea, definitely. I'm not really a "whip it out" kind of guy. I don't think she'd mind either, but it's just weird to think about, is there actually a proper way to react? This is what I think about when I should be studying. Thanks though.

[kawa450]

I have a friend just like yours and we both have our insecurities. Everytime we have showed each other the thing we are insecure about we talk about it. Like we say what we don't like about it and say we don't want it to be weird after and we don't want our relationship to change stuff like that. I think us talking about it first makes both of us more comfortable with the situation so its fine after.

[Asker]

Yea, we don't even bother saying stuff like that anymore (about not changing anything). It's fantastic to have someone like that, but sort of weird because the rules aren't always clearly spelled out.

[kawa450]

Ya I know what you mean haha

[Anonymous]

Maybe you could first ask her what she thinks of your penis, if she's noticed that you're cut, and what she thinks of that. You could then say that you're kinda unsure of the scar it left. See how she reacts to that. If she's open, you can ask her if you might show her what troubles you. She'll then tell you if yes or no. :)

Anyway, that's how I'd approach that. I wouldn't be too straightforward at first.