I look so ugly while having sex!

[Anonymous]

OK, my boyfriend and I made a sex video with his phone. He really loved it and said it was a great turn on, blah, blah so he felt like sharing it with me. I wasn't particularly interested because while thinking about sex with him really gets me going, I don't really feel like masturbating to a video of myself, you know? Anyway, he sent them to me and I couldn't watch longer than a minute. I look so ugly while having sex! Of course I'm no p*rn star and at least my orgasms are real, but I just didn't think I'd look that ugly. More than my body, what I hated was my face. Sure, my body didn't look quite good (ie. breasts too small, cellulite on thighs, etc.). But my face... gah, my face! It's horrible! I didn't know it looked so bad... during sex. I've never liked my face much, but this was a shock. I mean, sex is supposed to be sexy and an ugly face is not sexy at all. I mentioned this to my boyfriend and he said he thinks I look really hot, etc. And that's great, but the problem is with myself. It was too much of a shock to see myself having sex and realizing how ugly I actually look. I don't know how to get over this, I mean, I could stop having sex, but come on! But now I feel really ashamed. Plus my boyfriend might have just been saying that to make me feel good, I know he's not blind. What can I do to get over this shock? It was really discouraging and now I'm obsessing over my face.

[sexhelp101]

Not very many people will like the way they look on a cheap video recording. If you've seen p*rn, then you have to understand that there is a lot that goes into those movies. Lighting, make-up, directing, the set itself, etc., etc., etc. - Not to mention the acting that they do. They are aware of the faces they make, the sounds, and so on. It doesn't surprise me that you didn't like it, but most people would probably feel the same way. My advice - make him erase it. He could be showing it to his friends, or if someone steals it they'll be jerking off to your little movie. Next, don't let him film you again. Just keep it private because that's what makes you comfortable. Don't do things for men that make you uncomfortable...ever.

[lananoel]

Truth..

[l-hedoniste]

Him: "He really loved it and said it was a great turn on, blah, blah, blah..."

You: "I look so ugly while having sex!"

Him: "he said he thinks I look really hot, etc."

You: "It was too much of a shock to see myself having sex and realizing how ugly I actually look."

Given the above, rather than write an essay I'll save my typing fingers and say: Insecurity. Fix it. Get help if necessary.

Also: "Plus my boyfriend might have just been saying that to make me feel good, I know he's not blind."

This is also insecurity, and out of control--so bad that you're not only doubting yourself, but your boyfriend too. Really, really work on that.

[Anonymous]

I know your mortified but its totally natural honey.. I look Really awful during sex too. And I think I look ridiculous having sex too.. Its something you learn to get over. He thinks your beautiful and he holds on to intimate moments with you.. Horrible faces during sex are a good thing to my man.. He likes the abnormal facial reactions he can get out of me. When he watches them he relives the moment.. You look hideous and guess what. HE FUC>KING LOVES IT! IF you had complete control over how you looked during sex you would be too distracted to come and he wouldn't enjoy you looking like you were having a general conversation anyway...

[kaitlovesyou]

just knw that your boyfriend wouldn't lie and that you have to think about yourself as beatiful

[Professor_Zoom]

All I have to say is that sex isn't always pretty, and everyone isn't made for the camera. Stop obsessing over your face because there's nothing you can do about it. You're in the moment and that's just how it is. Everything about sex isn't always going to be picture perfect sexy or anything close to it. Just accept it and enjoy being in the moment with your boyfriend.

[sixstring]

Can you find some pictures of similar facial expressions you make during sex? What looks horrible to you might be very sexy for him.

[MyNameIsJonas]

It's sexy to see a woman having a orgasm/in pleasure. The actual face you make would not turn off your boyfriend he love's seeing you aroused because he find's it sexy. I think your over thinking it. It's not like we all look picture-perfect while having an orgasm. It wouldn't be realistic.

[Anonymous]

Make another vid, but put alittle production behind it, you know like makeup,hair, better lighting, better camera angles and wear something sexy! If you don't like it just hit delete, I did this with an ex and she loved the idea of acting it out, she even planned out the position!

[Anonymous]

Why would he ask for it if he didn't want to watch you?

i assume he still wants to do more

Everybody always obsesses over the small things about themselves and to others it might not even register to them or it be insignificant

He's with you for a reason, so he must like all of you