I have a lot of experience, and only one girl was actually physically too tight for anal. In fact, if I met her again now, I have some things I could try. But back in the day, she had that tiny pin hole of an anus like this *. I would rim it and rim it and rim it -- never budged open. But every other girl? A good rim will USUALLY open it. But back up some. You don't have to have full fledged anal so quickly. Take a bubble bath together. DO some massage. Play around. Make sure he makes you come first -- maybe take a 5 min nap together. Yes, buy some butt plugs...3 diff sizes. One tiny one, one a bit bigger, then one about his penis size. Make it fun. Make it OK for you to rub off at any time and come and then stop the anal. Come back to anal penetration the next day or later. Some of the best orgasms I have seen a girl have was just the head of my d*ck in her ass hole as she rubbed off. The feeling was amazing. After dong this a few times, she was the one who would push back to get me in to the balls. So take smaller bites of the apple. Start slow, the pressure off. Work on having great orgasms together. At some point, just like riding a bike, it will all click, and you won't even have to think about it. It just clicks...
A couple thoughts.
1) lubricant is a must
2) using fingers first may help
3) relaxing is also important
4) one effective way to relax is rimming. That means getting your mouth in there and licking that sphincter with your bare tongue.
LOL I know some may consider that to be gross city but... I'm into it majorly. I find it highly exciting doing it to my wife and it relaxes her. Try it! If you dare.
oh we do that all the time! ha ha I love it
She even falls asleep sometimes and I realize that I was successful in helping her relax.
I used to rim a korean-American chic any chance we got, and she would come really fast and fall asleep for a few minutes. When she would wake up, we would have anal, and it went in smooth as any pu*ssy. Pretty much heaven.
it hurts every time me and my boyfriend do it too, the best way I discovered to not make it not hurt so much is us lying down on our sides and just relax all your muscles and him go slow at the start. If he just goes right in there guns hot I will make him stop because that hurts like a bitch.
Buy some butt plugs to train your butt for anal. So the idea of butt plugs is to relax your butt muscles to prepare you for anal. Its also good to use a good lube (Astroglide is good) and not go too fast.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Try to relax as much as you can. When you don't relax, your muscles contract, and your but becomes even tighter than it already is.
The human body is based on cause and effect. You work out, your muscles get stronger. You stay under the sun, you get a tan. You eat a lot, your stomach gets larger.
Same logic. If you keep having anal sex, your butt will eventually become a little more loose, maybe enough to handle a penis.
You'll need to work with toys for a while. Work with toys with a very narrow diameter, then gradually expand until you can deal with your boyfriends size.
You're learning to relax a muscle that's naturally contracted. There's no reason to expect this to go quickly, and no reason to rush this.
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If it hurts your body is trying to tell you to not do it. You may end up developing fissures, leakage, or a prolapse or many other problems.
Yup! My butt is way too tight for anal, I don't ever wanna try it. My butt = One way exit.
Don't do anal. Tell him it hurts. I don't know why guys wanna stick it in a girl's butt all the time anyways (kinda gay), vagina is awesome!
They grew up watching anal p*rn and it shaped what is arousing to them. I agree about the vagina though
"Kinda gay" You sound like a typical moron, guess I must want to be a GUY by your logic because I like anal. Grow up. My boyfriend loves the FEMALE anus, I'm sorry the anus doesn't have a gender. You're just closed minded, more fun for me.
mostly every one is too tight for anal.
Opposite is true -- with a bit of education, patience and love.
he has to make it soft with lube and before that he should eat your p**** and a**hole and its not so tough it goes so smoothly and even girls push her butt to take more inside the **** and its gets fit into girls a**hole so try and enjoy it
It's probably because you're not relaxed. The tension isn't isn't letting you loosen up.
Yeah I thought about that today and I'll try to relax next time we try it. I just can't get it to not hurt
Yeah. It's hard when you know it's going to hurt to just try and get that out of your mind. I don't really know if this is a good suggestion but maybe try it with a little alcohol buzz if you drink. lol
It hurts because that hole is not made for penetration. It's an exit only
All the time sister
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