What are your thoughts about a 40 year old having sex with a 20 year old?

[Anonymous]

Do you think it is gross? Do you even care? Do you see yourself ever dating someone with an age gap that large?

[Levin]

To each their own. I don't think we should moralise sex too heavily when each person is over the age of consent. One does have to wonder about the motivation of each party though. Given the maturity difference one would have be cynical about the 40 year old, trying to relive his youth, give his ego a boost, or with her for the body? His mentality should be in a completely different place than a young girl, so I'd expect there to be some form of manipulation going on. There's something odd going on from the girl's perspective too. It doesn't sound like she would be psychologically well adjusted either. But, to each their own. It's no one else's business.

[Asker]

Thnx for your perspective. The lady that likes me is an ambitious young girl with a bright future. My motivation is that I am looking for someone with less emotional baggage and yes it is nice to have a beautiful female that is in great shape. For some reason as I get older I have been approached by many younger women.

[Levin]

Let's not kid ourselves here. You get some titillation off her age! I don't blame you though, I'm sure I'd do the same thing if I was in your position/age. I'm sure it doesn't necessarily mean you won't treat her well though. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

"Pitiful" Is the word that comes to mind, for both the 20 year old and the 40 year old...

Ten years is 'huge", at 20 years old...

Getting a life...comes to mind...and I don't know any 20 year old that want a 40 year old unless it might be a musician and a groupie.

[katiesmuff]

It is certainly something you don't see every day, but when it does I see no problem with it. There is not ONE valid reason to oppose a couple with this or greater age difference for not having sex if that is what they want to do. The other thing is that it's none of our business anyway.

I have had sex with men 30 years my senior and was just as good as with guys my age and maybe even a bit better than with some.

I'm not dating them nor am I dating guys my age, they are just all fwb's which is the way I want to keep things.

[pepper01]

i say for go it. who cares what anyone thinks. I'm 20 and I like a guy who's 40 so I know what your going through. if you really love and care about her and have a mental, mental,sexual attraction/connection than that's all that matters. my aunt has a 16 year ago different with her husband and they get have no issues. life is too short to not take chances. if its in your heart follow it :)

pepper out

[desidoll]

Nothing wrong with that...why is it gross? Yup the age gap is quite big but if both of you love each other I don't see any problem with it.

[debsman]

Maybe some of these young people think men get moldy with age.

[desidoll]

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[Asker]

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[Amillia1981]

I don't think it's that big of a deal with that particular age gap. A 20-year-old is an adult and can make his or her decision. If it was any younger then 20 then it would be kind of gross. I actually was very attracted to older guys when I was in my early 20s so it's not a big deal. I think it's quiet normal for young girl's to be attracted to older men and 40 is not old to me.

[Aries11w]

I think the guy is gross doing it

[PHLove]

I think it's gross, I'm 23 and I wouldn't sleep with someone in their 40s. To me girls that date guys are significantly older than them don't realize they're being taken advantage of and/or have daddy issues...the guys are just creeps who can't get girls closer to their own age.

[Asker]

really? then why is my last girlfriend I had in her 40's and one b4 that in her 40's and another one in her late 30's?

[PHLove]

there's a pretty big difference in maturity level between 20s and 30s...you're old enough to know that. Maybe if you need a girl in her 20s it's because all the good ones your age are taken and now you have to resort to girls who are desperate for attention and validation

[Misty_04]

Yeah I don't care really. If you can pull twenty year olds good for you haha

[WovenEclipse]

I personally wouldn't do it unless I REALLY REALLY liked the guy, but if both people really love each other, then I don't think there's much wrong with it :)

[CuriousEddie]

It's fine... they are both of age, so it isn't any of my business.

[Deft_maiden]

I see women/men with younger partner all the time. If you can pull if off then good for u!

[Brandan_Cromartie]

If it's casual, fine. If anything else I am strongly against it due to the neurological differences in the persons involved.

[VALEN_tine_ANGEL]

well, they are in adult ages and as long as they are happy doing that and are not cheating on anyone else... why should I give a damn about it ?

[Chrissy1986]

i know a few couples with that large of an age gap, and as long as they are happy its no ones business as far as I am concerned

[SirSmith]

Not gross at all ... No. If you lived your life on stereotypes, you wouldn't be your genuine self - you have to live as your capable :)

[SirSmith]

No ... Not at all grossLOL! ;)

and Yes; I do care...

Yes; I could see dating someone even less than half my ageLol!

Why do you ask? ;)

Have a good time and God bless you both :)

[Ezmotts]

She's over 18, so it's all good.

[BlueLemonade]

I think that big of an age gap is gross but that's just me I guess.

[Anonymous]

i might do like a one time thing with someone older but that's it

[Anonymous]

no, no, no...that is gross. I would never date someone that much older than me, let alone sleep with them...it's just wrong...they need to get a girl their own age.

[Anonymous]

I don't really care at the end of the day they're both adults, they can do what they want.

Plus I don't think 40 is that old anyway, I know some men near their 40's who look really good.

[Anonymous]

I have been dating someone older my entire life.

When I was 18 I was with a 36 year old.

17 with a 32 year old.

16 with a 27 year old

19 with a guy in his 40's to 50's.

I am 25 with a 34 year old.

To me age is nothing but a number.

[Opinion Owner]

Id like to add the other day I just met a guy in his 50s who asked for my number. I do not know y I attract older men lol

[Anonymous]

i personally don't agree with it, but its a personal decision. handle your business, but don't expect me to act like I think its a great idea. we all have our own opinions. :)

[Anonymous]

Nothing wrong in you wanting sex with her . She is creepy and disgusting .

Being a man , it's understandable to find younger girls sexy and want sex , but she should find her own age guy.

[Asker]

how is she creepy?

[Opinion Owner]

To me , she is creepy to have sex with a person as old as her father.

[pepper01]

wow so its creepy and disgusting to like someone becuase you have a connection and with that connection comes sex?