Having had sex with my brother's best friend ...

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I was at a party last night, where I randomly ran into him, my brother wasn't there. We got into talking and appearently I had way too much to drink, even though I really don't remember drinking that much. Either way, next thing I remember is waking up in his bed, naked with a really bad headache. this was probably the most embarassing moment in my entire life. We decided not to tell my brother about, but I feel guilty not telling him. I would want to know if he slept with my best friend, but I'm afraid he'll get mad if I tell him, probably not only at me but also at his friend and I don't wanna get between the 2. I really don't know how to deal with this situation. Should I tell him or should I not? Should I do anything else?

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rdabby Xper 7
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What is wrong with you people! What is so horrible about this I don't get it.. I mean he is just a guy and you never know maybe this could be a start to something.. Why do you all have to be weird and rude about it.. Its simple, if you re not planning on dating the guy or actually sleeping with him again then don't tell your brother untill you think its right.. Even if years go by.. But if you re planning on something here then yeah keep it a secret till you know what's on the table.
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kewkewsie Xper 6
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you have to hold onto the embarrassment and guilt, sharing it with your brother only puts that on him and gives you some comfort. I do agree if he asked you should tell him, as you don't want to lie on top of it all, but he's probably close to figuring it all out at that point.
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MrMysteryMan Guru
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WHy is it embarrasing? It's your brother's friend. Who better to sleep with for you then someone your brother knows pretty good. At least he'll probably respect you more because you are his best friend's sister.
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- Asker
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  It's embarrasing because I've known him all my life and will still be around a lot, that's awkward
- MrMysteryMan
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  I see. Well, you must have some attraction to him for some reason that you haven't really come to terms with. Or you are just comfortable with him for knowing him for so long. I don't think it's a big deal if you don't tell your brother about what happened. Maybe say something to your brother like, is your friend gay because I've never seen him with anyone. then he'll say something like, no he has a girlfriend or no, he just hasn't found the right person yet. Who knows he might say..
- MrMysteryMan
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  after that you two known each other for a long time. Why don't you guys hook up and surprise you. Or maybe just if you do like his friend, hang with him like a date sort of and see what he's like. Then if he's a douche then just forget the night happened. If he isn't then you can tell your brother that you are interested in his friend and he treats me really well. Your brother won't mind because it's a guy he knows that treats you well. He'll probably be harder on his friend than you.
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- MrMysteryMan
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  Making sure his sister won't be hurt by his friend because of how they talk about girls and that. Guys stuff. But at some point, if you do like his friend and want to pursue something, then you should tell your brother instead of a blindside. If not, then just probably shove it under the carpet so to speak because I'm sure he hasn't talked about it to your brother either. You both should talk it over and decide how you want to play out the issue.
- Asker
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  I'm not attracted to him. I really don't know what happened, we just talked and boom, next thing I remember is waking up in his bed. Why would he respect me more, just because I am his friends sister?
- MrMysteryMan
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  Hmmm if you don't remember a thing after just talking to him to being in bed naked with him, I'd have some questions about the whole incident actually. Like mattygfromtheMD32 mentioned... roofies? I mean, you've known him all your life, but do you really know a person anymore? As well, how does he talk about women or gfs he's had with your bro or have you over heard their conversations?
- Asker
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  I really don't think he would have drugged me, if there were drugs involved it might have been someone else giving them to me. He could not have done this and even if he was capable of doing this, why would he chose me and not some random girl that he'll never see again. He never had a girlfriend from what I know and I never overheard anything that would suggest he could do something like that
- MrMysteryMan
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  Ok... So you were just really drunk and passed out or something? So how did you end up naked? And if so, did you guys really do anything?
- Asker
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  He said we did. I really have no idea what happened, believe I wish I would but I have absolutley no memories. This has never happened to me before, I drink, but I don't drink that much usually. I remember talking to him, suddenly feeling a bit sick and then nothing till the next morning, so I just assumed I had too much to drink He didn't say much bout what happened and I didn't ask. He just said that we kissed and one thing let to another
- MrMysteryMan
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  Yeah I wouldn't hold much water to what he's said until you know what the facts were. Maybe talk to others that were at the party and get an overall picture. It's sounds pretty f*cked up to me that you don't black out like that after drinks (actually not many people do) and then the next morning you're naked with him and he won't tell you much about what happened. but that's just me. Something smells bad here... Just saying... Maybe it was a once in a lifetime thing for you?
- Asker
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  Is it not normal for people to black out like that? do you really think he could do that? I def won't do something like this again
- MrMysteryMan
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  It usually depends on how much a person drinks. If they usually drink a lot and never pass out, then if they pass out it's either alcohol poisoning and you should have been taken to the hospital, or you've been given something that increased the potency of the alcohol so that it would knock you out. Also, if you did pass out and he still got you naked and stuff and you don't know what the hell happened, that doesn't sound like a cool move to me. Or someone that cares about your feelings.
- MrMysteryMan
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  Either way, he doesn't sound like someone you should be near or trust. I'd talk to him right away or find out what happened that night. If you don't really care and want to forget the whole thing, don't hang with him anymore and maybe tell your brother about what happened then, because if he f*cked you over, and you're his best friend's sister, doesn't say much to what he thinks about your brother respect wise. If a friend of mine did that to my sis, I'd punch him out.
- MrMysteryMan
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  You're brother will understand if you tell him exactly your side of the story. I'm sure he'll believe you over his friend, or he should, because why would you lie about something like that to your brother and blood is thicker than friendship. Family comes first over anything else if you ask me, especially so called friends.
- Asker
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  so I did talk to my brother about it and he was mad as I've never seen him before. He said something about that something like that has happened before. So maybe you were right and there really were drugs involved
- MrMysteryMan
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  Yeah it sounded too un-natural the way you described how you were fine at one point then woke up naked and didn't remember a thing between those times. Also, your brother will always be your brother no matter how close he is to friends or whatever. If he cares an ounce for you, he'll support you before any of his cronies or so called friends. I'm glad he showed he has balls and cares about you though. How are things now?
- Asker
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  not too good to be honest, my brother got into a huge fight with his friend, but he's not talking to me about it. And I feel quitly, because I don't know if he did something or not, ans if he didn't it's my fault they are fighting. It's just all kinda f***ed up
- MrMysteryMan
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  Hey, don't blame yourself for all this f*ed up issues happening with your brother and his friend. It takes two to tango and he didn't have to sleep with you either. Also, he could have come clean and talk to you about what actually happened during that night. Then you wouldn't be in the dark about the whole incident and it's the honorable thing to do as well. You shouldn't have been put into the position you have been and that's probably why your brother is so upset. He wasn't decent to you
debsman Xper 3
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Who you sleep with is none of your brother's business. Do you plan on telling your brother about everyone you sleep with? Let it go and keep it to yourself.
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- Asker
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  I wouldn't tell him about everyone I slept with, but I only had longterm boyfriends so far, so it had never been an issue

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itsthatguy Xper 5
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Don't tell you brother, but if he asks just tell through truth
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Alanaaa Yoda
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Don't tell him, there's no point. Just don't do it again.
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mattygfromtheMD32 Explorer
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You sure it wasn't roofies?
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- Asker
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  I don't think he would do something like that, I've known him all my life
Anonymous
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oh id be so pissed, id do all your friends and "break-up" with my "friend"
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- WakaFlocka
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  word.