Does sex ever make the guy have feelings for the girl?

[Anonymous]

When not in a relationship. I know they say never to sleep with a guy hoping it will make him like you because it wont, but maybe it does happen? do you think so? Can a guy develop stronger feelings for a girl after having sex with her, when they aren't bf/gf?

[Anonymous]

Men and women have different views on casual sex, if you have genuine feelings for someone you shouldn't be having casual sex with them, it will make you feel like shit.
I think if a guy is to develop feelings for a girl it's gonna be due to the non sexual time spent together, not the sex... sex to a man is a simple need, its more emotional to a woman... weather we like it or not. If you're looking to develop a relationship from it then u need to spend time with them, non sexy time. If that doesn't happen, keep moving. Many relationships develop from a fling, or a friends with benefits situation, or a one night stand... anything can happen. If its the right person you will click no matter what the situation

[ahsra]

I think for a little while the thought of what yall did will keep his blood pumping and imagination going. So I think yes he might could develope stronger feelings but that does not mean they will be true blue feelings that you as a girl would have from the experience..

[Anonymous]

I think both male and female people need more than sex to have feelings and even more to want a relationship. The reason it seems like it only goes one way is that females tend to be choosier about who they sleep with and often won't do it just out of attraction.

[yummymummyxXx]

a guy liked me got me drunk (was ment to be a one nite stand)

now we live together and have a kid and are in love. though I av to say its not the best start to a relationship so be careful.

[Jarett]

Yeah but he liked you before you had sex. Has nothing to do with the question.

[yummymummyxXx]

I met him at the bar where he got me drunk

[Asker]

Actually her response does help cause this guy I'm talking about had feelings for me before sex too..i was just wanting to know if it would make them stronger..

[good-looking-geek]

It highly depends on the guy. I have a friend (I am reluctant to say he is my friend) who is a total womanizer. He will use a girl for sex and he will have no emotional attachment at all.

Let's put it this way: if a guy is going to develop feelings for you, then he will develop them BEFORE the two of you get naked together.

[Atomizer]

You answered your own question, honey. "I know they say never to sleep with a guy hoping it will make him like you because it wont"

You've learned a lesson. don't forget it.

[bueatychick48]

hmm well yes and no. yes because you aallowing them to go inside you and no because thye just want to f*** and get it over with it.

[l-hedoniste]

Nope. If he doesn't have feelings for the girl before, he won't have them after.

Some guys mistake gratitude for regular sex for actually liking a woman, but they usually correct that mistake, and eventually stop making it.

[lefthand]

I tend to grow more fond of the people I am having sex with. This doesn't generally change the nature of the relationship, however.

[Jarett]

No, a guy will not develop feelings because of sex.

[Asker]

Seriously? Not even a good guy?

[Jarett]

If he's a good guy, and he cares about you, he won't have sex with you outside of a relationship

[Asker]

Well what if distance is a factor and you can't be in a relationship? I had sex with the dude after talking and stuff for 2yrs..

[Joe223]

He's right. A good guy won't have sex with you if your not going out. Distance...wont make a difference, if you can't have a relationship at that distance, what's the point of him having feelings? Talking for 2 years is different to being intimate for 2 years...

[Asker]

So are you trying to say a good guy wouldn't have sex with a girl he potentially cares about just because they aren't in a relationship because of the distance?? This guy once refered to it as a relationship in a convo. we had but its never been like boyfriend/girlfriend type relationship because he's 7hrs away

[Jarett]

Why would you want to get used for sex? If he doesn't like you, he will still have sex with you. Is that how you try and get a guy to like you, by having sex with him?

[Asker]

No I already did have sex with him, I love this guy and we have been talking and stuff for 2yrs. he lives in my old state and I'm moving back in a few months.

[Jarett]

You're making a big mistake. If he doesn't like you, he doesn't like you. You will just get used for sex, and will feel bad about it. It's time to move on.

[Asker]

He liked me before we had sex... And it was actually my idea. I'm the one who told him I wanted to do it.

[Jarett]

Ok

[thumbelinasplace01]

There seems to be a lot of controversy on this subject. And I would like to add something to my last answer. Please send me a message and I will respond.

[patronjuice]

Hell yes, if it's good sex.

[winterfell]

I think that maybe you anwsered your own question. Generally if a guy is really into you he won't be distant...especially after sex. I'd say don't wait around for this one.