Did she use me for sex?

One of my close female friends invited me over to watch a movie. We drank some sake joking about how bad the movie was and then she turned it off. She went to the restroom after we kissed and came back completely naked. She jokingly asked me "a nice quiet, tall guy like you can keep a secret right?". Normally I don't believe in casual sex especially with friends, but my friend is extremely beautiful and has a perfect body. It kind of blew me away how dirty and into it she was and how well she knew how to ride it. Normally she's very quiet and innocent. We had very rough sex for 25 minutes in her basement.
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  • Very interesting to see the different ways in which the girls repond and the guys rspond! If there was a girl involved here (as the non-initiating party) we could have called it rape!

    Someone below has made the point rightly below that guys have long used women for sex, and now the shoe is on the other foot!

    I think it's important (i) not to get into things we didn't bargain for, or don't want -- regardless of how tempting it is, regardless of how good looking the other side is and regardless of whether we are a guy or a girl (ii) if you're not serious about someone, it's best to avoid the kind of situations that could lead to this -- being in a room together with nobody else around, and the possible of one party pushing things too far, and the other succumbing (iii) it's a fact that a woman's sex drive varies at different parts of the month; she might feel very differently about you even if YOU had approached her five days earlier or later (iv) frankly, I would have felt quite used, if this was something I didn't intend to get into. Even if a man can use force/coercion/allurement to lure a woman into bed, a woman can use seduction. Both of which are unfair. While we could have justified this 10,000 years ago, on grounds of it being important for the propagation of the species, I think we need to treat people with more respect in the early 21st century.

  • Yes - she used you for sex

    after you answered her question in so many ways = you were OK with that and

    your body used hers as well

    Surprised? Sometimes you just don't know what's inside another ... and their talents.

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  • She didn't use you. Friends sometimes have sex with friends, it's pretty common. As long as no one's feelings are hurts, there's no harm done. The real interesting thing will be what happens next time you see her...

    • friends don't have sex with friends, f*** buddies have sex with friends

    • you don't want to f*** your frineds

    • Dudeman, it happens, and not necessarily within the FB context.

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  • Haha, a close female friend?

    Well, the sh*t is out of the bag now. She's only been your 'close friend' for so long, because she wanted that d*ck of yours.

    You poor thing.

  • No... She had sex with you, I'm fairly certain THAT went down, but she didn't use you.

    • Why are people saying she did? =/ It was casual sex, you even acknowledged it was casual sex. But... If she was using you she'd have to have been keeping you around for that reason only; she brought you over cos she wanted to f*** you, that's clear, but I mean... She's your friend.

  • Usually men are the ones that use women for sex... but now that the roles are reversed, how does it feel like to be used?

  • I don't see any issue with it. She wanted to have sex with you and she did it. Probably, you wanted to have sex with her too. there is no harm. It's quite normal and quite common. Friends with benefits ;))

  • Niceeee dude who cares if she used you for sex... be a man and be proud you got some.

  • I am really sorry you had to go through this horrible experience...

    • i know how would anybody cope

  • My question: Does it matter? That's f***ing awesome! You just wanted to brag.

  • There are counseling services you can call to help you through this traumatic experience.

    link

  • what exactly are you complaining about?

    • Ha that's funny you live in Japan too. Are you Japanese or gaijin?

    • im English I just live in japan now

  • yes she used you for sex. I don't think you are regretfull lol