My boyfriend doens't pay attention to my boobs?

[Anonymous]

I have smallish breasts, and he never pays attention to them. When we're in bed, he hardly touches them, which IS an issue because I really like that (I can even orgasm from that) but he just seems to forget and I hate forcing things. Last night we were together and I wore a low cut top, and he looked me in the eye the whole evening! I mean, yeah, "so romantic" but I wore the stupid shirt to look sexy to him and nothing! I know for a fact he likes breasts, and that he likes them big. I know it may not sound like a big deal but this is making me feel so unattractive, because he loses his trail of though for a second when he sees a huge pair yet mine seem to not get him interested. He said he likes my butt, but I hate it, plus I don't get turned on by him playing with my butt or anything. Should I break up with him? It's really making me feel unattractive, I've told him how I feel and he says he's just not that into boobs but that's not true (he tried t** f*****g once and it didn't work so he never tried again, plus all the p*rn he watches is big boob p*rn). I don't have boobs for nothing, but I hate forcing things. What should I do?

[candlewax]

Tell him how you feel. If he can't respect your wishes or your feelings, then move on. I also agree with Sikoo. Overall, this isn't making you feel good about yourself.

That said, talk to him and tell him what's bothering you.

You also may want to consider that while he may like bigger boobs, he chose you to be in a relationship with. If he was that turned off by small breasts, he wouldn't have been with you. Remember, some guys have their kinks that they'd be into with someone they didn't really care for, and are willing to overlook/avoid that stuff with someone that they care about. ie- degrading sex with some random, skanky chick as opposed to never even dreaming of doing such degrading sex to their SO. Not all guys are like that, but I've heard of this outlook from some before. So while he seems to zone out with big boobs on other chicks, he clearly doesn't mind starting a relationship with someone who doesn't have big boobs.

I'm not sure how much of that makes sense but yeah. The point is in my head, just having a hard time verbalizing it. :p

[Asker]

I understand. it's just I like having my breasts played with, having them ignored and seeing how he reacts to other women's breasts hurts. I don't really know what comparison to make, but it'd be like if he liked having his chest touched, but I didn't pay attention and only paid attention to guys with big pecs.

[candlewax]

Yeah, I get it. I see you mentioned that you have talked to him about it before. Have you told him how it makes you feel? The p*rn plus gawking at other women, then ignoring you is really an issue and you need to tell him. If he's not aware of THAT and can't attempt to try, you may want to rethink things. Why be in a relationship with someone that makes you feel less than who you are?

[sportychicky]

Just tell him what you like, or grab his hands and put them on them.

[Asker]

I don't like forcing things.

[sportychicky]

when your in bed, do you have your bra on or off?

[Asker]

Off.

[sportychicky]

try leaving it on and see if that helps. good luck to you!

[sportychicky]

you can always add message me to try and help some more. I figured most guys would play with boobs big or small.

[Bvroon]

I'm sorry you are in the situation you are in right now, granted I'm not at fault, but I can relate, in the sense that it's important to me that I make my partner feel desirable and sexy. I like to keep her as happy as I can, and if my partner talked to me about it I would make sure to focus on that area more, because if she is more excited by what I'm doing then I am more excited by it too. I must confess I am a bit of a breast man myself, however not so much to ignore or make my partner feel uncomfortable of feel bad. I know you have talked to him about it, and it seems he has not been all that receptive to your concerns or needs. I never like to recommend that people split up, but I can't really suggest you stay with someone that makes you feel bad too. I hope you are able to either come to some sort of compromise or you can find someone more in tune with you. I'm sorry this isn't much help, but I hope you are able to find some sort of solution. Take care of yourself.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a genuine issue for you. It won't help you that I love petites and suck them while I am fingering my lover. If it were you it might bring about an orgasm I could feel down below (wow). If he is giving you oral (say goodbye if he isn't), have him do it from below and play with your boobs with both hands while he is licking and sucking. H3 should get quite a bit of of indirect pleasure from doing it and may see your boobs as tools for pleasuring you. If that doesn't work, call me. :-D

[Ugliness]

Well like DUH! Can you blame him for not paying attention to your b00bs?

We as guys get this all the time.

"What are you looking at?"

"Hey bozo, my eyes are up here!"

etc etc

It can turn a sane guy off from ever trying with any girl.

And the female culture as a whole (hole?) has done this. Most of us are conditioned NOT to look and so either - we don't, or we try not to make it obvious.

While you personally may not have contribute to this, it's a widespread phenomenon, getting pissed off at guys for - paying attention to a girl's t¡ts. So thank your sisterhood for trying to discourage it because with some guys - they've succeeded.

[candlewax]

Did you read the part where he has no problem gaping at other chicks' bigger boobs?

[Ugliness]

A fact or is it only believed he looks at everyone else and not her?

[Asker]

Yeah read the whole thing first before insulting other women. I'd be creeped out if a random guy stared at my breasts,. If it's my boyfriend I have no problem, If your girlfriend gets creeped out by your looking at her breasts then the problem is her.

[Asker]

It's a fact, I've caught him and also all the p*rn he looks at/pics of girls he's saved are of busty women.

[Ugliness]

Narn. I'm sorry. That was my theory that maybe he pays no attention to any b00bs. In that case I haven't got a clue as to what is going through his mind. I wasn't trying to insult anyone. If he claims to love you then I can't understand why you're not the one he admires most.

[l-hedoniste]

"he just seems to forget"

Remind and reinforce, remind and reinforce. You make things important by making them important. You don't need to be shrill, but being direct doesn't hurt: "Look at my boobs." "Compliment my boobs." "Touch my boobs."

My boobs, my boobs, my boobs, if you're fun about it, you can focus his mind. Men are teachable, but never by accident--speak up.

[Asker]

Hmmm. I get what you mean, but I'm torn. I mean, if I tell him sure he'll learn and I'd be in ectasy each time he'd play with my breasts. But then again, it'd feel forced, like he does it because he knows he has to, but not because he likes my boobs or is attracted by tme, as if they were bigger, he'd be all over them :(

[l-hedoniste]

He wants to make you happy, he just might not know how. The alternative is to say nothing, while you're frustrated and he's clueless. Better? Of course not.

[-Darling]

Hmm.. How old are you?:)

[sikoo31]

yes you should, he's not making you feel good about your-self, and that's one of the most important things in a relationship.

plus he's a liar, just that right there is reason enough. can't have love without trust.

[CindiluvsFriends]

Uh..why wear something low cut if you have nothing to show? Not trying to be a b!tch,but that just doesn't make any sense to me.

[Asker]

I have B cups. They're not huge, Pamela Anderson knockers, but they're there. I'm not flat.

[decentusername]

C.O.M.M.U.N.I.C.A.T.I.O.N

[Anonymous]

I’m in the same boat, hun. Only I can’t really change things, I am married to him and have a one year old son. We will have been together for 10 years September, 3 of them married. I love my husband but I will be honest- I think the sex is not great for me most of the time because of the same issue you are facing. I used to try and tell him how I felt but like you said it just felt forced after that and led to us fighting so I just gave up and deal with him ignoring my breasts for the most part during sex. I lie about enjoying it just because it’s easier than telling him the truth and bringing it up again just makes me feel bad about myself even more. I also crave the attention and lust from other men but would never cheat because I love my family and my husband is otherwise a good man. It sucks and completely crushed my self esteem, but like I said it’s just my reality because I chose to marry him knowing this. You, on the other hand have the option to find someone who will love and worship your hot body exactly as it is. If this issue outweighs all of the good things in your relationship, then I suggest finding a new partner. If not, maybe wear the low-cut tops and look cute In public while in the presence of other men and let him see them lusting after you. A little bit of jealousy can be healthy and sometimes men need to be reminded that there are other guys who would kill to have what they do. Either way, good luck and don’t ever let anyone make you feel like your body isn’t beautiful! ❤️

[Anonymous]

then talk to him about it

[Asker]

I have. He plays with them for a while but it feels forced and eventually he forgets.