At what point in a relationship do you consider a good time to have sex, oral, or other things?

[Anonymous]

I know everyone is different and their ideals vary. But guys and girls, at how far along in a relationship would you say that it is appropriate to be giving and receiving oral sex? And having sex? How long do you usually wait until saying the "L" word? And how long do you get to know someone before getting into a relationship with them? Thanks for commenting and details would be great. :)

[Rave4happy]

I don't have a specific time for anything in a relationship. It just depends on the guy, the mood, the time, etc. I've had sex and/or oral with a guy I had been dating for 2 days and I've waited for 11 months with another guy. My views on love are messed up though. I think it's somewhere out there, but I feel like I've never seen it. Anyway, that's my super vague and boring answer. Sorry for the "hardly-an-answer" answer.

[Anonymous]

After marriage is a good time for sexual contact of any kind. "The 'L' word" can come whenever you feel like it and feel your partner is ready to hear it.

[jackflynn7]

You can feel like you are in love at any time, but it should be a few months if it has staying power.

Oral should be an expression of some sort of commitment. its not so much elapsed time but times together. Maybe 20 dates, which might be 2 or 3 months for busy employed people or college students. Middle and high schoolers are children playing with sex organs.

[stubbsy]

When all doubt has been eliminated and there's no worries its wrong or to soon, then that seems to be fine, but the L word, well no one knows that until you feel it, because you don't just fall in love, you need to make love and experience love before you fall in love, and even then, its not love its still lust,x

[l-hedoniste]

I think oral sex should replace the handshake if she's hot. I'd be so much friendlier. Intercourse comes when it comes.

I say the L word when I'm in love--ONLY then and never before.

You're in a relationship the moment you decide to keep hanging around someone. You can call it whatever you want, but if you're interacting with another human being on a regular basis, than a relationship is there--you just have to work on the quality, how it will be for everyone.

[paulax]

Things matter, sex on the first date or hook up can be fun. If your looking for the one maybe you should wait tell the third date. Paula

[sunseeker11]

i like sex on the first date cause they don't know you and you can do or try what ever you want maybe gt a little wild and kinky, I think we all like some of that and it can be really hot, that may be what your both lookin for, who says that type of sex has to stop it can be the begining of a great relationship

[dzj031682195]

the first time