I had sex with this guy and now I feel like crap?

[Anonymous]

Alright so last night this guy and I had sex. It was my first experience and terrible experience. He was very aggressive like when I gave him a bj, he would push my head down to far to the point of me gagging. He notice my facial expression that I was not comfortable and he even asked if I was alright, I said "no," but he kept doing it again and he smelt bad. Then when we did intercourse, I was on top thinking "oh I can take my time if it hurts." But nope, he thrust his body up and it hurt like a freakin I don't know what and I asked him to slow down but he just kept pushing it. So I bleed a lot and it was all over his boxers omg it was a mess. After that we went out side on the dock so he could smoke (no wonder why he smelt so bad). This is the part of where it really hurt me. He decided to talk about why I don't have a bf. *side note: I have always never been really interested in having a boyfriend because to me, I think its just cheesy with all the love crap. I also don't want to be tied down in a relationship. So he goes on this lecture of why he thinks I can't get a boyfriend. One I need to change my hair color ( Its a dark brown and everyone I know likes this hair color more than my natural hair color light brown) Two I need to show off my boobs :|. Three I need to talk to guys more (which is reasonable but I already have a lot of guy friends). I don't know why but when he said all that it hurt me because if someone tells you should change something about you without asking, it makes you feel like crap. After that little adventure he finally said that we probably can't hang out anymore and then kissed me goodbye. When he left my house I was literally jumping for joy and then cried because of what he said. I don't know why its making me feel bad. I don't regret the sex part and I don't like him. So why am I taking it so personally?

[melissarose8585]

He used you, and that's why he hurt you.

I'm not one of these people who believes the first time has to be with someone you love, or will be with for the rest of your life, but it can be a horrifying experience if you don't pick the right guy. And that's what happened. You thought he would be considerate, and nice about it, and he just wanted to get laid. So he didn't care if you were uncomfortable, or hurting, or upset by what he said. He just got what he wanted.

My best advice is to recognize what happened, and try to move on. Don't let this one bad experience ruin what should be a good thing in your life. And definitely be more careful about who you choose to sleep with. You deserve much better than what this guy gave, and you can turn this into a learning experience by trying to prevent it from ever happening to you again. And if you ever need to talk about it, well, that's what this site is for. Most women have had an experience like this, and can relate.

[Anonymous]

Because he was f***in rude! you will find a guy that loves/likes you the way you are... it was one guys opinion don't take it to heart please honey... that was f***ed up... tell him "i know why you are so aggressive in bed" because all you get to f*** is your hand and you got so excited that it was actually a girl this time." :) I am sorry that this is how your first experienced ended up... if he doesn;t care how you feel in bed or out of bed then he is not even worth listenening too. If the guy that tells you stuff like that is that big of a jerk off then brush it off... it was one guy that told you this... do not change for a f*** off like that... I am sorry but what he did to you made me furious! : ) I would've slapped the shit out of him and then kicked him in the nuts and tell him that what it felt like having sex with you and having to listen to you talk.

[t-a-l]

this makes me so upset.

he used you babe!

its so unfortunate your first time had to be with a prick like this but don't let it bring you down, what's done is done.

he didn't respect you,. in anyway apparently, he's not worth your time

you may not be able to stop thinking about what he said but seriously, I don't even know you but you are way too special to let ANY man ever treat you like this, you deserve dignity, even if it is from a stranger, I would have kicked his ass right out of my house in the beginning if this were me but I guess .. just learn from this mistake

try to remember that you are the only person that can control your own happiness, your a beautiful women with endless potential... so next time bitch slap the dick!

best luck

[VAGitarian]

what a prick. I couldn't even imagine being like that. He's a loser and a user. You are taking it personally because it was your first time and it is supposed to be special, not just some asshole ramming his dick down your throat. All you can really do is stay away from losers like that and find a guy that really likes you and will treat you right.

I wouldn't even want to be friends with an asshole like that. I hope he gets what he deserves. Hopefully he ends up in prison and some big asshole can shove a dick down his throat! ...ok that might have been harsh and rude, but I can't stand people like him.

[katiegal]

Y you had sex with him?

Girl,u are beautiful as you are,u should just kick his ass for saying that to ya.He sounds like a selfish idiot,he is not a real man ,coz a genlte lover wouldn't tell nobody those things after sex.Spesially after her first sex.

U feel like crap? You should not.Coz he is a crap,not u.You learned this lesson sweety,u deserv more for sure.:)

[limonea175]

Alright, well everyone says your first time is supposed to be special. With someone you have been with for a long time, and know that its not going to be a hump and dump. Its not bad what you did, its was out of curiosity, and well, it was what he wanted to do wasnt it? Anyway, don't let him feel bad about yourself, he's a piece of crap, who just happened to venture into your life. He left you after you had sex, do you really think he cares that much about you. Don't take it out on yourself, of everyone else around you likes your hair colour, and he as one person dosent, well think to yourself, well I like it, my friends like it, why should I care if he does not like it? Your taking it personally because you shared some part of you with him, and now he threw you away like a pice of dirt. Don't ever let any guy treat you like that again, no guy, shoud ever make a girl feel like that...

Well I hope I somewhat helped :)