What could have caused my erectile dysfunction?

[Anonymous]

Well it was my first time. My Bro sponsored me a hooker. I only wanted foreplay, a hand job and receiving oral. No intercourse. I had been under a lot of stress and wanted to my mind off of it and she wasn't that great looking. her face was OK but when I felt her up, her but was saggy, tummy was having a lot of flab. I was not really feeling any attraction or passion towards her. She was quite disappointing to my expectations. I was also a bit stressed. we had also barely done any foreplay, skipped directly to her jerking me off and then blowing me. but I just couldn't get it up. it was just remaining limp. And before this, I had been watching loads of p*rn and masturbating 2 to 3 times a day and could mostly get an erection only after stroking it in my silk pants or with a lube. Although I would get many in my sleep, having sexual dreams and even intentionally fantasizing foreplay with a really interesting girl. What could have been the cause of my dysfunction during my actual sexual experience with the hooker? And is there any way of fixing this?

[sportdistant]

yeah your post already has your answers in it. you were stressed and most importantly you weren't attracted to her.

P0rn and masturbation had NOTHING to do with it. You just weren't turned on by her. Watching the p*rn turns you on, and makes you wanna jerk. She didn't.

There have been girls that I've been around that would just turn me on by just being in their presence or by just talking about sex, or fooling around.

On the flip side of that, I've been around girls that didn't turn me on at all. When I am alone thinking about them retrospectively I think about having sex with them, but when I do get around them, those thoughts aren't there.

So basically find a girl that is sexy to you and that you REALLY wanna bang. :)

[Asker]

and what about the fact that I need to stroke myself to get it hard even if I see a hot busty chick or a babe getting done on p*rn?

[sportdistant]

because that's turns you on man, its simple as that

[Asker]

no what I meant is that I don't get hard by just watching po*n. I need to stroke by hand that too with lube or a smooth surface...

[sportdistant]

that still doesn't matter, if there is no p0rn then your thoughts can help you get erect along with stroking...

[Asker]

yeah but the issue is, I need to stroke it to get it hard with watching or just thinking. earlier when I would just get hard without ever touching my penis.

[matthewparker2506]

Yes all of these are the factors affecting your ED it must be corrected by having a good psychological status, good physiologic status and limit your self from excessive masturbation and watching p*rn, let your self be excited whenever you're having sex for better erection and satisfaction, try also to read some MALE ENHANCEMENT GUIDE for the relieving of your difficulty in erection.

[Asker]

can you recommend any sites?

[saphirasilverwings]

I honk you've answered your own question. Stress is a common factor in ED, and you probably just didn't feel totally comfortable with the situation. If you weren't feeling attracted to her, of course that would have an impact.

But it's also possible that those other habits took a toll as well. It sounds like you don't get erections that easily normally either. It could be a good idea to cut back on the masturbation and p*rn to try to retrain your body to respond more readily.

[Asker]

i know this is a stupid question but do I have to stop completely for a period of time or just reduce the amount I watch and jerk off each day?

[saphirasilverwings]

I don't think it would hurt to take a break from both for a while. My take on the situation is that you've been desensitized by too much p*rn and constant masturbation. If your body and brain get used to too much stimulation, it will stop responding to the slighter stimuli. But I'm not a doctor. It may be beneficial to speak to one.

[Asker]

ok so like how long would the break have to be?

[saphirasilverwings]

I'm not sure. Maybe a month? If you are serious about solving this issue, I recommend talking to a professional.

[Asker]

k...thanx..

[Stacyzee]

Being very stressed out can take a toll on your performance.

Also you stated that she was unattractive to you, this also can be a blow.

And third but not least you said she skipped the foreplay and went straight to jerking you off (this disappointed you and clearly was not the way you wanted your intimacy to begin.)

There were so many wrongs mixed up that night, that that was bound to happen.

[Asker]

no she didn't skip the foreplay. I did. I thot by her hands on my penis it would erect my thing faster..

[Shauna27]

Probably because you were stressed and she wasn't attractive to u. Fix it? Find a girl you like and try not to think of anything but the pleasure your going to get.

[Asker]

did the excessive p*rn and masturbation have anything to do with this?

[Shauna27]

Maybe, but I think it's more the stress and the fact that you weren't feeling attraction to her. If your watching a lot of p*rn and master sting that shows you have a high sex drive, so I don't think that's really the issue. I think you just didn't want her.

[Asker]

hmm...how do you know this? what are your sources?

[Shauna27]

I Play with myself and watch p*rn quite a bit, it doesn't get rid of the sex drive. Men are turned on visually so it stands to reason you weren't turned on due to you not finding her attractive. Have you watched p*rn or played with yourself since then? Stress can really affect you in different ways, stress once gave me blisters on the tops of my toes. Freaked me out.

[sal-star]

its just simple knowlege she's right if your stressed it doesn't help

[Asker]

well yeah I did watch p*rn and jerk off afterward...got and erection with no prob...but even before this incident I only get an erection when I stroke myself and sometimes clench my the muscle between my legs.

[Jgerdes03]

I think the fact that she was a mediocre flabby hooker

[Belgie]

You weren't into it. I think that's all it was.