So we tried oral.....am I still a virgin?

[impossible2find3]

the other night me and my boyfriend decided to go a little bit farther and try oral. it was amazing I loved every second of it and so did he...id say it ws pretty good for it being our first time ever. but now its got me thinking---->even tho I'm still a virgin I feel like its kind of I don't know taken my virginity in some way...im not really sure how to describe it. I love my boyfriend with all my heart and I hope to get married someday, but what if something happens and we don't end up being together? do you think it makes me less a virgin by doing this? i guess I'm feeling confused... i don't regret doing this at all...

[LadyKupkakes]

Let me tell you something. Talking scientifically, no having oral sex does not make you "less" a virgin because your hymen was not broken during oral sex. It's good that you both enjoyed it because there is nothing better than having pleasure that you feel comfortable with. Many couples that are not sexually active tend to go for oral sex because it's not actually intercourse sex. it's also great that your partner, your boyfriend, didn't pressure you to have oral sex. Because you say you love him, you of course feel comfortable with him and that's great because it's better when you are with a partner that makes you feel comfortable when it comes to sexual activities. if you don't regret having oral sex, then if you feel comfortable going along with it, I don't see why should feel confused or not try it again. It's scientifically proven that it doesn't make your virginity go away, so at least that problem is out of the way. But rememeber, as long as you are comfortable and don't feel pressured, then go right ahead. Happy pleasures. :)

[katiesmuff]

Lets be honest: How many couples can you name that were boyfriend/girlfriend at 16 stayed together to get married at a reasonable age say 21 to 25. It's very very rare.

At least you are thinking about this, and something tells me that somewhere in your upbringing staying a virgin for the hubby has been planted in your mind. That is a great thing and something so very few newly weds get to share together.

Opinions on virginity vary considerably among groups and individuals. In my personal opinion you are a virgin until penetrated by a penis, but also I do not condone school kids playing hide the finger and suck the weenie!

You have to be the one to make the final decision and GOOD LUCK WITH THAT!

[lovefaithful]

very interesting question. I was going to ask something similar myself, but I thought I would try to find a similar question.

I told my boyfriend that I was a virgin at 24. It was technically my interpretation of it. I have had oral done, and also fingering, and I felt I was still a virgin. so I told him I was a virgin. I never told him I had oral sex or fingering done to me. I didn't feel like it was worth telling him. I only got more and more mad when he told me all his experience with his ex. I wish he did NOT tell me ... just p*sses me off... oh I'm rambling. ok... =) bye

[regular-guy]

Technical virginity indicates that a penis has entered your vagina. However, virginity also connotes wholesomeness, chastity, moral purity, and lack of sexual experience--you definitely crossed that line by quite a bit. Yes, you lost something important. I am not judging because I know the drive is powerful and lots of well-meaning young men and women stumble across that line, but the regrettable part is that you don't regret doing it at all. Some of your innocence is gone forever.

Since you posted this over a month ago I would imagine that the line of technical virginity has also been crossed, but even if it hasn't what is the value of technical virginity if it is no accompanied by chastity, wholesomeness, moral purity, and innocence?

[John-Bee]

It is great that you don't regret it. The other way would be a whole lot worse & a different story.

My opinion of not being a virgin is if you had sex. Which you did not just oral.

You have to decide if this is something that you want to do again or think about for a while so that you are not confused.

Remember what we say is right for us. You must decide what's right for you.

Take our opinions & form your own judgment.

[victoriaxxx]

You might be a virgin down there medically but you are no virgin anymore...Remember Sex is in ORAL SEX...so think about it in a spirtual perspective do you honestly believe you are still a virgin and if not you go with that gut instinct... Virgin in a spritual Biblical sense and just common sense stands for being pure and untouched especially in the genital area...

[lovefaithful]

Hmmm? interesting...

[michigan2489]

Yes you are, in order not to be a virgin, you need to have vaginal penetration. BTW take your time. wait till your realy ready.

Hope it helps.

Eric

[paigep929]

the medical definition of not being a virgin is having sexual intercourse with a member of the opposite sex(AKA penis into your vagina). so technically your still a virgin

[coolguy93939]

did you know STDs

can still be trasmitted

through oral?

[jacquesvol]

It depends on YOUR definition of virginity, not on the definition given by someone else.

Virginity is a word...

[froggyboy51]

yes you are still a virgin by a dictionary definition, but different people have different opinions

[Anonymous]

its about how you feel you decide what virginity means to you! there are many peoples opinions but its only yours that counts so you decide and who cares what others think! hope I helped.