He's having a huge party but didn't invite me ?

[Anonymous]

ive known my friends with benefits for allmost 5 months now and we've been having since ever since. I read on fb that his having this huge Halloween party where like everyone from ( my hometown) is invited and you can't come inless your invited. but he hasn't invited me? we text a lot not just about sex I've told him I have feelings for him and he just smiled. the last couples nights his been asking for nude photos of me. so why am I not invited to his party but his texting me for nude photos and that he misses me a couple days before his party? his freinds have all met me and they really like me so it's not cause he doesn't want me to meet his friends. so why? we are both 16 by the way : )

[JackWSmith]

There's somebody at the party that he cares about, and he doesn't want you to mess that up for him. If he's expressly said that you have to be invited to come and he didn't invite you, I doubt you're invited. You told him that you had feelings for him and he just smiled. You're just sex. If you send him naked pictures of yourself, he and his buddies are going to gather in some corner of the house during the party and look at them and laugh at you and call you nasty names.

I know this might make you mad, but you're too young to be an FWB. Not because you aren't mature enough to handle it, but because you're missing out on something better. For older people who have been around for awhile and are working and busy and maybe a little cynical from previous relationships and have a little more social mobility (not stuck going to the same high school for the next year and a half) it might be okay, but at sixteen you ought have a real boyfriend, someone who cares about you. You're not really friends with benefits. Friends with benefits are friends who have sex. There's some level of friendship and mutual respect. You're a sad, lonely girl who wants someone to love her and is allowing some guy to use her.

I think if you ditch the a**hole, and put yourself out there for some better guys, maybe someone who isn't as cool, someone will ask you out, and you'll be a lot happier with your B-list boyfriend than you are with your A-list a**hole. He doesn't care about you and he's not going to. It's not like the Natalie Portman movie. The longer you keep letting him use you, the more the word's going to get out that you'll put out for guys who don't even pretend to care about you, and no one's going to want be seen walking down the hall holding your hand. That might be a terrible double standard, and it might be horribly unfair, but it's still true. You need to get out of this before it ruins high school for you. Find someone who cares about you. I bet there's someone who likes you right now. You just need to open up your eyes and find him.

[MrOracle]

GodzillaMan has it right. He might just assume that you're going to be there already (you really should ask him, straight out, "So, am I invited to your party?"). He might also assume that you'd prefer to keep your "thing" with him private, and so you'd rather not be there when a bunch of other people will be, lest someone find out and make things difficult for you or something.

Or maybe he is interested in another girl, and wants a full-on relationship with her or something. Part of being FWB is that you aren't emotionally attached, and either of you are free to persue relationships with other people. You have to accept that.

Anyway, if you're FWB, you should be able to talk with him about this stuff and see what's really going on. But you must also understand that you shouldn't have the same expectations of inclusion that you would if you were his GF. Just because you are FWB doesn't mean you are automatically going to be included in other events in his life.

[Misty_04]

Probably wants to hook up with other girls at the party and he does not want you to **** block :/

[WoIIie]

He sounds like a douchebag.

Don't send prick any nudes.

[GodzillaMan]

Maybe he's assuming you are already coming.

Maybe he wants to get it on with someone else.

Maybe he doesn't want you to develope feelings for him because he doesn't feel the same way. So he is keeping your personal lives apart.