In my experience, a shirt or other article of clothing left on in the heat of the moment can be hot. But generally the obvious insecurity and NEED to keep yourself covered up is much more of a turn-off than any of your self-perceived flaws are. They like to be able to see and touch all of you even if it's not 'perfect'. I'm chubby and I have stretchmarks everywhere, but no one I've ever been with has been deterred from having their hands all over me because of it. You're fine, don't worry so much. If you have a little pudge, odds are he already knows that with your clothes on and is attracted to you regardless. If the stretchmarks bother you, go for some dimmer lighting in the bedroom, a lamp or some candles or something instead of a bright overhead light. But really, I don't think he'll care. =]
If you really care that much, why don't you keep the lights dim? He's going to know you have a bit of pudge on your stomach regardless when he puts his hands all over you. But that way he won't be able to see the stretch marks with the lights down low. Also, generally guys like curves and softness on women.
You could also try working out, doing cardio specifically to burn fat and eating healthier.
Oh I don't like the lights off I like to see the mans facial expressions and I want him to see mine. And I forgot to add that even when I was like 125 pounds I still had a fat stomach I don't know it's always been there.
Not lights off entirely, just keeping a small lamp on or something so he can't make out your entire body. A lot of girls have problems with their stomachs. I wouldn't really worry about it. :/ He's not going to be focused on your stomach...
A lamp... hmm that's a good idea thanks. I just want to be able to see his face and him see mine I don't want to feel like some butterface or something lol.
I agree with Tia. I don't understand girls who think a shirt hides fat. He'll know you're pudgy cause he'll be touching you and feel it.
Just dim the lights a little bit. I can't remember if this is correct or not, but dim lights "hide" flaws where as fluorescent lights highlight them? I read it somewhere in an article or on here...I'm not sure but it was addressing your sitation
Lol I stay far away from this horrendous fluorescents.
Well dim the lights until you feel comfortable enough to show him. Maybe you could make yourself a deal and say you'll show him your body on a specific date, that way you can't flake out. If he's f***ing you he more than likely feels attracted to you already & won't be concerned with your pudge :P
Psssht not when they're one night stands. If it were a guy I was dating I wouldn't care as much.
That's the wrong reason to wear it Hon. If a guy wants you, you're stomach "ain't" gonna make any difference.
I've been with women who were slender and toned, and I've also been with women such as yourself, and it didn't matter. If I was attracted, and there was chemistry when we were kissing...it was ALL good.
It's NOT a turnoff. A suggestion...if you're headed toward sex with a guy, go ahead and give him a heads up...show him your stomach, and if he says it's no big deal, then full steam ahead.
Oh I do give them a heads up. But there is no way in hell they are ever ever ever ever seeing my stomach. Ever. I don't even let them touch it.
Well, I don't know why. I would feel rejected and frustrated if a woman was like that with me. I would want ALL of her. I concur with cun7n1nja down at the bottom. It's a turn off for a lot of guys. If you've got them turned on enough to go to bed with you, they'll be just fine with you being naked.
These are one night stands so would that really matter to them?
don't worry about pudgy
I like the pouch :)
Somebody's gotta get her straightened up.
Psssh meanie.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!sweetheart, you need to look yourself in the mirror and realize that you are beautful. Just looks at girls who have worst problems then you, and they can't hide it.
Trust me, as a guy, if I was already having sex with you, I wouldn't care that you have a little pudge.
So stop stressing over small stuff and have fun.
No one is perfect, everyone has their own problems.
Be confident!
And dnt be embarrased of anything that is apart of YOU.
Good luck!
Lol you don't even know what I look like.
true, but I also understand tht everyone is unique and has a beauty in them. The only question is, what type of guy/girls these people attract. Trust me, I dnt have to know what you look like to know tht you have beauty in u.
So you have low standards and think everyone is attractive.
Get busy and firm it up. When you have the money, get a tummy tuck to get rid of as many of the stretch marks as possible if they bother you that much. I suspect keeping your shirt on is going to interfere. There is a lingerie item called a waist cincher that goes between your breasts and your waist. It'll make you look thinner and hide your stretch marks. Go find a really sexy one. Good luck.
I'm not saving up my precious money for a tummy tuck. My stretch marks don't really bother me but it's my pudgy stomach and stretch marks on top of that which I don't like. If my stomach wasn't fat but just had stretch marks I wouldn't care.
Then it's all up to you. You know what to do to flatten and firm your tummy. If not, the internet is a great source. Just get busy with moving more and eating less. It's not easy and I'm not making light of it. Just woman up and do it. Best of luck to you.
I've never had a flat stomach ever. Even when I was 115 and did sit ups I still had a pudgy stomach.
If you are having sex, your man won't care about your shirt, on or off. Your confidence and personality will far and above be more of a turn on. Sex with your girl having a good time is better than sex with your girl stressed or insecure about something.
These are one night stands I don't have a boyfriend.
I'd rather have a girl that is having a great time in bed.
Than one that isn't in the momement because she's worried about appearances.
When its all over, I'll remember how awesome she was, any imperfections will be long forgotten.
My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years and she has a bit of pudge but I find her curves sexy and a turn on. For a long time she would remove everything except her shirt because she felt self-conscious. If you yourself are not comfortable completly naked or topless then don't feel pressured. If guys have an issue with it then boo hoo, they are fortunate that you are willing to open up yourself like that at all. In the end preference is preference and I guarantee most guys prefer you naked fully pudge/curves or none but don't feel pressured to comply with it if YOU don't feel good about it.
Thank you for your answer, this question is now 4 years old. Since I have asked this question I sort of embraced my extra weight and never wore a shirt during sex again. I can confirm men liked it without much more. :)
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